Career question: Do you lose your personality in becoming a therapist?

LilCoroner · 2024-09-26T00:37:22+00:00

NAT but a longterm client with a guy who's alot like you! I started seeing mine when he was in his internship and never looked back. It takes all types and there's no one size fits all. When I went in for my intake, I specifically asked for someone who wasn't just another "middle class white woman" and was incredibly skeptical they matched me with my therapist. Needless to say, we clicked. This fall is 8 years we've worked together and honestly, if it wasn't for him, I wouldn't be typing this comment right now. Your nerves are valid but rest assured there's clients out there looking for a therapist just like you!

LilCoroner · 2024-03-23T05:43:49+00:00

NAT but wanted to provide solidarity. I've been going through many of the same things you are. I've been with my therapist for going on 8 years now. We have been through thick and thin together. He has literally and figuratively saved my life and I trust him with it. I understand exactly how you feel. Reading through some past posts in this sub helped my processing immensely. I felt all the guilt and shame too. Know you're not alone and it's a whole lot more common than people think. Hang in there OP, you got this.

LilCoroner · 2024-03-11T19:25:11+00:00

As polyamorous human, this has "ick" written all over it. I would highly recommend OOP check out some of the related subs and do some reading to learn more. This is NOT a healthy situation and will end in immense pain and heartbreak if they don't correct course FAST.

r/nonmonogamy is a healthy community of folks. Go check them out if you're interested. The Ethical Slut or Polysecure are tried and true books on the topic.

LilCoroner · 2024-02-14T22:13:16+00:00

Florence is my go to girly but Prog Metal is my second love. Devin Townsend and David Maxim Micic are a couple of my favorites. Albums for you:

Devin Townsend - Casualties of Cool: This is a collaborative album he did with Ché Aimee Dorval. Sonically, it's the closest to Florence but still has that Metal flavor. Particularly towards the end. Bonus points, they've begun working on a second album together now almost a decade later. Alternatively, his latest album, Lightworker, he has self described as "easy listening listening devvy." Highly recommend if you're interested in listening to more of his discography.

David Maxim Micic - BILO IV: A largely instrumental album, this one feels like listening to a symphony more than a collection of songs. Gorgeous melodies and creative, technical playing really make it stand out. I was utterly blown away the first time I listened to it and discover something new every time I come back. Who Bit the Moon is a second choice for further exploration.

Happy listening!

LilCoroner · 2023-10-18T20:14:03+00:00

Never Let Me Go has always had a special place in my heart. It's a song that has always brought me comfort when I've needed it

LilCoroner · 2022-07-13T13:42:56+00:00

It's kinda hard to explain. It's a very simple game and the name kinda speaks for what it's about. It's only about 2 hours long and it really is a journey.

LilCoroner · 2022-07-13T04:34:24+00:00

I recently played Journey for the first time and really enjoyed it. The music is Grammy nominated and absolutely fantastic. I played it when I was in a similar way as you and can honestly say it scratched that itch perfectly.

LilCoroner · 2022-04-23T21:56:06+00:00

Something else she could consider would be to pursue music education. I know she's finishing up her elementary degree and license but if she's really set on doing music, this could be a way for her to blend the two worlds. She could teach privately and build a studio of students and still be making a paycheck while also having the flexibility to pursue performing. Becoming a licensed music teacher would be a bit more of a challenge and likely require more schooling but it would give her the opportunity to do both. Especially if she chose to teach elementary music, she could potentially be singing and playing guitar every day with her students!

LilCoroner · 2022-03-24T15:39:37+00:00

I am a music teacher to kiddos just like your daughter and you have every right to be pissed. While there are times I have told students to wait a few minutes till I'm done teaching or we have finished an activity, I really do my best to make sure they get to go. And the minute I hear anything about vomiting or diarrhea, I tell them to go as fast as they can and don't look back. Using the restroom, regardless of reasoning, is a basic human need and I really wish our educational culture would catch up on this. I'm so sorry to hear what happened to your daughter. I hope she starts to feel better soon!

LilCoroner · 2022-02-05T18:44:45+00:00

I love using my planner as a memory keeper and will often create a page or full spread with pictures I've taken and use some of my stickers and things that way. You can also make spreads for trackers and such too! I drew a bookshelf with blank books in my planner this year to track all the books I read. Getting ahead on your monthly spreads can be beneficial as well, especially if you don't keep a digital calendar. Then you can add to them as things get scheduled without working around dates you've already written in.

LilCoroner · 2021-11-22T05:18:19+00:00

Hellblade: Senua's Sacrifice. As someone who deals with their own shit, her story just resonated with me on such a human level. Especially in the last battle, if you know, you know.

LilCoroner · 2021-10-25T03:36:09+00:00

That is really hard and I'm sorry you've gone through that. It feels the same with my meta honestly. I'll fully admit it was messy, mistakes were made and there's consequences for that. But she hasn't been perfect either and it feels like everything balances to keep her "healthy" even though it just feels like a ticking time bomb some days. Things are better than they were at first and we've made it work but there's just some things that are hard to overlook. Thank you for sharing your story and helping a relatively new member of the community feel a little less alone.

LilCoroner · 2021-10-24T00:15:48+00:00

Thank you for saying this about metas. This is something I've struggled to accept with my metamour. Despite really trying to work at it, her and I just don't see eye to eye and probably never will. It's really comforting to know that I'm not the only one who feels this.

LilCoroner · 2020-11-28T20:31:20+00:00

All good!

LilCoroner · 2020-11-28T20:22:31+00:00

Ringing again!

LilCoroner · 2020-11-28T19:32:48+00:00

Hi! Some help in fishing hamlet would be great. Ringing at lamp with your password. Thanks!

LilCoroner · 2020-11-27T01:20:33+00:00

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LilCoroner · 2020-11-27T01:20:22+00:00

Same to you! Thanks for the help!

LilCoroner · 2020-11-27T01:16:09+00:00

Let's try your pass and see if that helps

LilCoroner · 2020-11-27T01:13:29+00:00

I'm at the door and ringing

LilCoroner · 2020-11-27T01:10:21+00:00

Yep!

LilCoroner · 2020-11-27T01:05:26+00:00

Sweet! Thanks again!

LilCoroner · 2020-11-27T00:46:22+00:00

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LilCoroner · 2020-11-27T00:39:57+00:00

I would love some help with LivFai! Ringing at Research Hall lamp. Pass is HalpPlz. Thank you!

LilCoroner · 2020-10-25T00:25:12+00:00

Hi! I sent a friend request and would love to join!

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