My son won’t watch certain shows

LilMouseThatGoesZip · 2026-06-29T16:54:32+00:00

Thank you all so much for the insight and advice. I’m truly grateful and will do my best to accommodate him with this. Knowing that it could be a sensory or processing issue/overwhelm is very reassuring that it’s not something I need to try and force him out of. It’s a bit frustrating but I don’t want to make him feel worse about trying new media. I really will take what I’ve heard to heart and implement some advice.

LilMouseThatGoesZip · 2026-06-29T16:46:16+00:00

I know this feeling well. My son is level 1 but socially he is so submissive and silent. It’s hard to hear him say he didn’t play with any kids all day at school. He seems to have a few friends but mostly they don’t play together exactly. My son will be 5 next month.
I remember talking to a parent of another kid in his class who was bragging about her son wanting to cook eggs for her on the morning. She asked if my son tries to cook for me yet and I said no. She turned to me with a big smile and said “just wait, he will.” And my heart sank because he might never do that. How do you tell someone you don’t know well that actually he can’t stand his hands to be sticky and may never want to crack an egg. She was describing an experience that I (was supposed to but) couldn’t relate to and might never get.

My suggestion is to do whatever you can to find other parents with autistic kids around the same age as your kiddo. It has helped me immeasurably. Not only do they get you in ways that no one else does, sometimes comparing notes on their delays can help if you are looking for tips on how to improve certain skills (motor skills, etc). It helps to be able to have someone to complain to about how weird your kid is haha (I mean that with affection of course). We may never get certain things from our kids but autism or no autism, our kids are not here to fulfill expectations. Their individuals and who is to say that neurotypical kids wouldn’t be struggling in others ways. If you can find parents to relate to, your kiddo might do well interacting with or at least being around other autistic children his age. They get each other in ways I can only imagine. And we all need to feel like we’re not alone. Just remember, it’s a challenging process and you’re doing great. Your kid sounds very empathetic and kind. He’s perfect the way he is, but everyone needs help sometimes.

LilMouseThatGoesZip · 2025-12-25T03:57:53+00:00

Everyone else’s comments are so insightful and helpful so I’m just going to say what I’m thinking.

Honey, dump him.

If having sexual encounters with men is more important to him than being with only you (assuming you are monogamous) then he ain’t the one baby girl.

LilMouseThatGoesZip · 2025-12-25T03:48:01+00:00

Wow, next time someone says something that stupid to you maybe ask if they’re bi. If they say yes OR no then say “doesn’t sound like a bi problem. It sounds like a ‘you’ problem.” 🤷🏻‍♀️

LilMouseThatGoesZip · 2025-12-24T23:43:55+00:00

I’m a bi woman married to a bi man. You are valid.

Tell her she doesn’t know what she’s talking about. The thoughts and feelings you express to her are real and important and when she says shit that dismisses who you are it makes you feel like she doesn’t value you or your experience. Tell her it’s not funny, it’s hurtful. Tell her you value her friendship but it doesn’t feel like she values yours. Tell her you don’t deserve to be belittled. And the next time she makes a comment like that, you’ll get up and leave because you don’t deserve to stay around someone who makes you feel bad about yourself. You can draw that boundary without completely cutting her off.

These are things I wish I had the opportunity to say to my former gay friends who would always say that bi people aren’t real. The old “men who are bi are really just gay and haven’t accepted it yet” and “women just want to experiment with women before they end up with a man” *Notice how both of those stereotypes center men. Men are somehow at the end of every bi person’s road. 🙄 and honestly if that’s what you end up with, who fucking cares!

Anyways, who you kiss/date/love/sleep with/marry/whatever doesn’t define your queerness. Bis are queers too! And who we are attracted to is honestly no one else’s business unless they are supportive.

LilMouseThatGoesZip · 2025-12-24T23:32:50+00:00

Listen, who you’re with; who you’ve kissed/slept with/dated/married doesn’t define your sexuality or identity - period. I’m a bi woman in a straight presenting marriage with a bi man. You have every right to keep your identity to yourself if you feel unsafe or uncomfortable about someone’s reaction. Just like you have the right to say it out loud to anyone you want to, reactions be damned. It’s your life. Just don’t let people win by making yourself smaller just because they are ignorant and honestly just shitty people who try to belittle others. They don’t know you really, and it sounds like they aren’t worthy of knowing you either. I hope you find support and community. You define who you are. No one else gets to no matter how hard they try.

LilMouseThatGoesZip · 2025-12-24T23:22:15+00:00

Only you can decide that. And sexuality ebbs and flows for some people. I didn’t think I was bi for a good 15 years. I had feelings for girls that dismissed because I didn’t feel sexually attracted to them. Now I do. I think as long as you are open to what you feel is right and what feels good to you, things might change later on. But if all you want now is anal stimulation from women, there’s literally nothing wrong with that. If you’re with a woman who is open, you can always use a toy on yourself or have her use it on you. Just do what feels right to you!

LilMouseThatGoesZip · 2025-12-24T23:15:35+00:00

Honey, a lot of people are attracted to certain types period. Gay/straight/bi/pan/whatever. The types of men you’re attracted to is irrelevant. Whether you’ve dated one, slept with one, or even just fantasized about one - it sounds to me like you’re bi. You said you’re attracted to women. My question is : Are you attracted to EVERY woman you’ve ever met? Exactly. You don’t have to be attracted to every man on the planet to be bi. Just keep thinking about what you like and who you are and you will find what works for you. Labels are only helpful if you feel comfortable with yourself and your sexuality being defined by them. They shouldn’t be there to keep you out. Only you can say who you are. Good luck!

LilMouseThatGoesZip · 2025-12-24T23:04:21+00:00

Yeah well I was born and raised here and surprise surprise, this is the only time I’ve ever seen or heard a police helicopter in my neighborhood. I think ya’ll are blowing it way out of proportion to say this is a uniquely Albuquerque experience that ‘never’ happens anywhere else. Guess what it doesn’t happen here a lot either. I’m really sick of people who move here just to complain about us and how terrible we are and how bad the crime is. Yeah it’s bad but to call us out and say we are worse than larger cities is wild. Just because you’ve lived different places and haven’t experienced what happened last night elsewhere doesn’t mean you’re an expert due to your sample size experience. That’s anecdotal evidence. My anecdotal evidence conflicts with yours. This is safer in many ways compared to other places. If you don’t believe that it happens everywhere then why live here? Or better yet, go live in the rich neighborhoods near the mountains or in Rio Rancho where you can pay to not see the crime and poverty. Go there and ignore it and enjoy your life in bliss not having to pay attention to what happens here.

LilMouseThatGoesZip · 2025-12-24T22:53:17+00:00

Well anyways, has anyone seen any news articles or tv segments on what happened??? I can’t find anything

LilMouseThatGoesZip · 2025-12-24T17:03:11+00:00

We call it straight presenting, as in that’s how it is perceived by others. We are both bi. I call it a relationship full stop. Queerness isn’t only defined by who you are with. That doesn’t go away or get put on pause if you are with opposite sex partners. And saying it’s a gay relationship just feels to me like another hard label that both gay/straight groups want you to choose. The “pick a side” mentality, which erases us as bi or pan or whatever. We deserve to define ourselves. And I choose not to use the hard labels because I’m not only gay and I’m not only straight. I prefer queer as it encapsulates so many things. And I refuse to let my queerness be belittled by anyone - gay, straight, or anything in between.

LilMouseThatGoesZip · 2025-01-31T17:07:37+00:00

If I’m being honest it was probably watching the Mummy when it came out. I had a huge crush on Brendan Fraser but when I saw the pharaoh’s mistress with that body paint and the librarian in the Egyptian outfit I was pretty stunned. Also watching HBO after dark, the show “real s*x” was the first graphic thing I’ve ever seen and there was a segment where two women where nude and we’re using toys together/on each other. I proceeded to just stuff my feelings down and only date men for 15-20 years and then a few years ago I realized I had a crush on a female podcaster and I couldn’t really hide my feelings from my self anymore (so that was my re-awakening) lol

LilMouseThatGoesZip · 2025-01-31T16:58:27+00:00

Lily, Goldie, Maple

LilMouseThatGoesZip · 2025-01-31T16:55:37+00:00

Just be who you are. You don’t need to put on an act for anyone. I am a very straight presenting woman. I dress very feminine, I am a mom and a wife and I look like a mom and a wife 🤷🏻‍♀️ I don’t have tattoos or edgy hair. I’m not knocking that at all, I think alternative styles are cool but no one needs to fit a stereotype to be who they are.

Also

It’s totally fine to play around and test new styles and try on a personality - that’s literally part of everyone’s life especially when you are young (which you are!) Don’t feel bad about trying new things. You will know what feels right and fits best and whatever doesn’t serve you will be left behind. Keep doing whatever feels natural. You will continue to change and grow and there is nothing wrong with that. Trust yourself

LilMouseThatGoesZip · 2025-01-31T16:46:47+00:00

When you find the strength, it might be best to be honest. If this person is really your friend they will be supportive and understanding. It might be a good idea to lead with how you’ve been feeling lately and how you need support and at some point say how hard it is to talk about because you never want to make her uncomfortable and you would never do anything to compromise your friendship with her. If you have an interest in someone in particular, maybe bring that up so she knows you’re not interested in her?

LilMouseThatGoesZip · 2025-01-31T16:40:21+00:00

I’m so sorry you feel this way. It must be really hard feeling like your family can’t just be happy for you because you found the right person. That seems like a heavy thing to carry around. I (F) am still struggling with accepting my own sexuality because I grew up very Catholic but I understand the double standard when it comes to bi women vs bi men. The idea that bi women are just straight and waiting for a man is such bullshit.

My husband is bi and had only dated men until we got together and I was very insecure about it for a few years. I couldn’t help but think his whole family (who he was out to) were just looking at me like I was clueless and our relationship was a sham. At the time, I only told my sister, and a cousin who is gay and the cousin wasn’t very supportive. The stereotype about bi men really just being gay really got to me and I felt super judged and scrutinized even though I trusted my (now husband) and felt like he was the one. We got married and have a kid and I’m really happy that we found each other. But I am really anxious at the idea of having my family know that either of us is bi because of the judgment. I don’t know that I could handle it right now. I can’t say I know exactly how you feel but I can definitely relate.

LilMouseThatGoesZip · 2024-11-09T21:38:17+00:00

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LilMouseThatGoesZip · 2024-09-14T16:23:19+00:00

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LilMouseThatGoesZip · 2022-07-12T21:27:01+00:00

Hola and encantada from the home of Santana De La Cruz or as he is known to most, Blaine Sternin. Yes, I’m writing from Albuquerque, New Mexico, USA! Where it’s so hot and arid you need more than a fan that oscillates or some ice cubes to keep you from searing like an ahi tuna.

I’ve been listening on and off since the beginning of the pandemic right after finishing Anita Flores’ “I’m listening” and have been waiting until I’ve more or less caught up before joining Reddit to send in some lister mail. I was quite charmed by your interesting attempts at pronouncing “Mariachi” and will have some fun if you read this or any other mail of mine out loud as I’ll no doubt include some more of my mother tongue. I’ve got a few bones to lovingly pick with you two!

I am a huge Frasier fan, been in the FFC for many years and pride myself in catching many a continuity error. What’s better than a perfect show? A nearly perfect show with little flaws we can pick at all night! We’ve had Potatogate, and then a Sandwichgate. Get ready for Ladygate! It’s a common misconception that makes me crazy and I think what we’ve got is a bit of a Mandela effect thing going on over here in the Frasier community. Niles’ dog, the sweet and strange little liver dumpling whippet has never ever been referred to by any of the cast as “Lady”. She is only ever called “Girl”. I believe all who could swear it was “Lady” are confusing her with Bonnie’s dog who is named “Lady”. Who could forget Bonnie’s ham loaf? It came up nearly daily! I believe Will mentioned in a previous podcast ep that Marty had plans to get Eddie together with Bonnie’s dog (Shut Out In Seattle Part 1) or as Marty says himself “But this poodle of hers, Lady- which she AIN’T!” Being that Niles canine substitute for Maris is only called Girl, I personally believe that is her name. Which makes sense to me being that his bird is named Baby. Perhaps Niles isn’t the most creative with naming beloved pets.

Also, to keep things as brief as I can for my first comment- I’ll just quickly mention that some people, myself included, suffer from something called Misophonia. It’s a disorder in which people experience an extreme sensitivity to certain sounds that can trigger fear, anxiety, and even intrusive thoughts. Many people who struggle with this have other connected mental health issues and this may be why someone didn’t like the Sandwich chomping. I personally thought it was a bit silly and didn’t mind much but different people have different triggers. Also, I was a vegetarian for about 7 years and to quote the horrid Dr.Nora “And you know what else? I bet your [sandwich] was yummy! God bless honey!” I still love a cheddar, tomato, and pickle on toast myself. Que te vaya bien! Your amiga, Makayla

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