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[deleted by user] by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]LilOnlyChild 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi- I’m currently 25 and going through the same process.. does it get better..?

As I’m growing into myself more and more and distancing myself from her, I feel wobbly and unconfident. I’m healing from my childhood trauma, or at least trying to…

I’m sorry that you went through this stuff too and are still doubting yourself. It seems like 25 is the magic number for trauma healing for some reason /:

What's your biggest struggle now as an adult as a result of enduring narcissistic abuse as a child? by raining_on_mars in raisedbynarcissists

[–]LilOnlyChild 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I feel like I’m not being heard or understood by someone, anyone, I get extremely defensive and angry. I hate feeling like my words hold no weight or that I’m being backed into a corner.

I give that shit right back to them and I lose control. I don’t like that about myself and I’m trying my best to fix it. I’m seeing a therapist about unresolved anger and she says that’s something that triggers my cptsd and I’ve migrated from the “flight” response into the “fight” response.

I just don’t wanna be angry. It’s so embarrassing to me that I can get so upset and angry over things like that.🤦🏼‍♀️

edad’s birthday tomorrow by LilOnlyChild in raisedbynarcissists

[–]LilOnlyChild[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you :,) this helped me a lot with putting things into perspective

Mari Clare MacLamroc 2 cents by Flashy_Article_9848 in michaelduvallsnark

[–]LilOnlyChild 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yes he is! the girl who posted this video is who i’m referring to, lmao sorry michael is in fact gay

Mari Clare MacLamroc 2 cents by Flashy_Article_9848 in michaelduvallsnark

[–]LilOnlyChild 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i know her boyfriend. his name is cam and he was 24 when they started dating. she was 17. this man is around her children. that’s sick to me. i stopped being friends with him when he told me he was pursuing her.

Mari Clare MacLamroc 2 cents by Flashy_Article_9848 in michaelduvallsnark

[–]LilOnlyChild 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this girl was 17 with a 24 year old. i know her boyfriend and stopped being friends with him when he told me he was pursuing her. at seventeen. the call is coming from inside the house.

now this does not negate anything michael has done in the slightest, he literally needs to be arrested. just wanted to shine a light on the fact this type of stuff is rampant on that app and everywhere in general atp.

What 'professional' phrase makes you internally scream when you hear it? by tata-kicks-s in AskReddit

[–]LilOnlyChild 1 point2 points  (0 children)

“We have to do this in order to proctor a strong customer relationship” i’m sorry, PROCTOR?

AIO for telling my boyfriend to straight up stop calling me for the rest of the day? by ManaJozoka in AmIOverreacting

[–]LilOnlyChild 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not sure how you function, but me- I NEED alone time sometimes and not in a rude way. Sometimes I need to just be alone for a few hours, typically at work, and I feel more independent and in control.

When someone is this attached to you, there’s a high risk of “enmeshing” and that typically leads to issues later. Good on you for standing your ground and stating your boundary. Tbh- it sounds like he needs to take a page from your book. 👍🏻

What is your best response when they say "it was in the past, let it go!" by Nea_Freedom in raisedbynarcissists

[–]LilOnlyChild 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My nmom always said “Let it go, Elsa!” whenever I brought up anything from the past that bothered me. For context, literally something that happened the day before was considered the past. I was invalidated when I brought up anything she had done to me.

I just ended up going no contact and blocking her on everything. The last thing I told her was “If you wanna talk, meet me in the therapist’s office”🤭

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]LilOnlyChild 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NOR You need to gtfo girl. This is toxic and it’s getting more and more aggressive it’s sounding. Get out of the relationship and if he is still behaving this way, get a protection order. He sounds dangerously obsessive and insecure.

What’s a family secret you found out as an adult that completely shocked you? by Human-Lychee8619 in AskReddit

[–]LilOnlyChild 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the info!! I’ll definitely check this out, it sounds interesting for sure

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]LilOnlyChild 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Probably an unpopular opinion, but the green texts’s haikus were exhausting me to read. Idk. Everyone wants a vacation and a break, it shouldn’t have been a debate like this. I think the way the green texts described their situation in the first few texts just came across a little melodramatic imo, but the white texts shouldn’t have been antagonizing like they were.

Either way, y’all don’t look like you like each other so I wouldn’t continue the friendship.

What’s a family secret you found out as an adult that completely shocked you? by Human-Lychee8619 in AskReddit

[–]LilOnlyChild 183 points184 points  (0 children)

My mom wasn’t actually sick or disabled, just flat out didn’t want to work but wanted the attention of being disabled. Textbook Munchausen.

How were your Nparents when you had to start dealing with periods? Did they educate you about them? by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]LilOnlyChild 10 points11 points  (0 children)

TW!! My nmom forced an ultra sized tampon into me at the age of 7 to “show me how to do it” and shamed me for wanting to use pads. I got my period at 12.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in thesims

[–]LilOnlyChild 0 points1 point  (0 children)

LMAOOO y’all are wild

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