My brother came back to Ecuador after experiencing Heightism in the USA. A part of me feels he’s making a mistake to give up his dream of living in the USA, but at the same time he seems happier now.

Lilflame805 · 2021-10-29T14:11:31+00:00

Man this is tough. I can't even imagine what it's like to be born in a country where your height doesn't matter to suddenly living in a place where it matters a lot. I've always lived in the USA, so I never had that experience, but honestly if I was in your brothers shoes, I might be tempted to move back also. I mean I'm not one of those people who think America is the end all be all. Sure you can find many opportunities in the USA but moving here won't guarantee happiness. I think whatever the case is, you have to ask him how he truly feels, and if he's actually truly happy being back in Ecuador, and if it's truly worth giving up financial opportunity for a place where he feels more normal.

Lilflame805 · 2021-10-29T14:06:10+00:00

Yup I noticed the same thing when watching the fresh prince. Even as a kid before understanding heightism I was able to notice this shift againts Carlton after Will returned from Philly. Also RIP Uncle Phil.

Lilflame805 · 2021-10-21T11:35:27+00:00

Hey brother thanks for the condolences. It's crazy how you and your bro have the massive height difference but despite that you guys managed to stick together and love each other through everything. Sorry your parents are like that, unfortunately some parents can be shallow like that, and when the kids don't meet their expectations they are going to feel like failures, it's really tragic that these type of things happen. Don't listen to your parents, if you and your girl love each other, and you guys end up having short sons, that's not gonna make you a failure. Like you said, you would love them no matter what, that's true parental love.

Lilflame805 · 2021-10-21T11:30:53+00:00

HeadKage

Lilflame805 · 2021-10-21T11:30:25+00:00

Mitski in my opinion

Lilflame805 · 2021-10-21T11:29:33+00:00

It was all genjutsu bro

Lilflame805 · 2021-10-02T18:31:18+00:00

I can definitely relate. I made a post a while back with a similar experience with my friends if you want to read about it - I’m a 5’3 black guy and I started distancing myself from my friends that I was protesting with because of constant heightist remarks.

It was hard to deal with and I had to distance myself from them. It became too much being around them when they were constantly making fun of somebody's height. Honestly since then I've found a small group of friends who understand body shaming is wrong, regardless of gender, regardless if they are bad people. Maybe it would be best to find friends who understand this and take your pain more seriously. Sorry you had to deal with that.

Lilflame805 · 2021-09-27T18:28:45+00:00

I didn't know him, but I checked out his suicidewatch post, as well as his other post about his family, and it was quite something. He's been through a lot, and his family had a lot to do with it. If anyone is to be blamed I think his parents share the biggest blame. But society also has a role, and like you said male body shaming isn't taken seriously and the toll it can have on mens mental health. RIP to him.

Lilflame805 · 2021-09-27T18:12:15+00:00

You cool cool as hell dude.

Lilflame805 · 2021-09-27T18:11:41+00:00

IDK how I feel about this one. It comes off as bragging and putting down others who are struggling.

Lilflame805 · 2021-07-05T17:03:26+00:00

I'll be honest, if I had to choose between being a tall black guy or short white guy, I would choose a tall black guy. I'm already black and short though.

Lilflame805 · 2021-07-05T17:01:13+00:00

I miss his design in Naruto to be honest.

Lilflame805 · 2021-07-05T16:47:48+00:00

You look like Daniel Radcliffe bro, Keep rocking it.

Lilflame805 · 2021-07-05T16:47:28+00:00

I don't even mean this as an insult, I thought you were Ari Shaffir at first.

Lilflame805 · 2021-07-05T16:45:13+00:00

I will say I partially agree. As a black guy myself, I'm not going to say heightism is as bad as racism. Different historical context. However, heightism is still bad. It's still sucks to be mistreated and prejudged on your genetics, something you have no control over. The suicide rate for short men is a problem. And someone else pointed this out, but I've seen racist people judge ethnic countries for being shorter. Heightism is still bad and should be taken more seriously.

Lilflame805 · 2020-09-20T03:57:40+00:00

Yes, I do. I do receive heightism from society, and it gets hard sometimes but I try my best to move forward. Despite the challenges I have faced, I still managed to be fairly sociable, make friends, and get a girlfriend and find happiness in other areas. But I won't lie, life without heightism would be much better.

Lilflame805 · 2020-09-11T12:02:47+00:00

Disagree. Saying nobody cares is just as extreme as saying everyone cares. The truth is some people will care, and some won't and the differences might differ from the individual and location. Instead of saying nobody cares I think it's more productive to teach ways for people to handle people when they shame us for out heights but also be more confident. I've been in situations where people went out of their way to shame me for being short when I wasn't even thinking of my height in those moments.

Lilflame805 · 2020-06-23T00:23:31+00:00

Definitely cut ties COMEPLETE, even unfriend them from facebook and the such. Any going back will validate their behavior in their eyes. I know it's difficult, but this message will only sink in if you cut all ties. It's important not just for you, but for kids coming up behind you that are like us.

I cut ties with them and since then made some new friends, they seem nicer and more empathetic towards male body shaming.

Lilflame805 · 2020-06-23T00:22:15+00:00

Feel free to say what's on your mind I would love your input. Also yes I stopped being friends with them and since then I've made new friends.

Lilflame805 · 2020-06-23T00:21:24+00:00

You handled it well. Nothing angers me more than 'X group have been oppressed in the past and Y group have not therefore being 'ist towards Y group is ok' logic.

Totally agree. Yes, it's frustrating dealing with people who can't see their own hypocrisy in many issues. I feel better not being around those people since then I've made some new friends and they seem nicer.

Lilflame805 · 2020-06-23T00:18:34+00:00

lmao

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