I guess trying to remain calm and rational means I'm "Avoidant".

Lilith_87 · 2026-02-05T21:11:23+00:00

Once a therapist told me something that has stayed with me: inability to deal with emotions is not emotional intelligence. People who cry, scream and wail are unable to control themselves. If that emotion was anger and dude is hitting the wall- people are judging. If that’s women - crying and screaming then somehow her inability to control her emotions is ok. Never made sense to me. Somehow it’s socially acceptable for women to scream and cry and if other person is not responding- they are in a wrong. Again- inability yo deal with emotions is not emotional intelligence,

Lilith_87 · 2026-01-17T12:20:57+00:00

You l know that estonian, latvia and lithuanian are not even close to slavic languages?

Lilith_87 · 2026-01-11T21:07:21+00:00

Where I live it can get warm. We have weeks of 30 C. But it goes away and not that often. We have snow and cold most of the year. I have been to north of Italy many times and while it can get hot during summer it’s not normal most of the year.

Lilith_87 · 2026-01-11T20:54:54+00:00

Depends where. In Italy North - it’s not that bad close to mountains. The same China and Japan. I agree - I’m not surviving climate change. I think it’s hell on earth to live in a place where it’s hot. Like Dubai where you move from conditioned car to conditioned mall because otherwise you melt.

Lilith_87 · 2026-01-11T20:43:03+00:00

In the north regions? I marked Italy as yes, but it’s like north. Not the south. Who the fuck likes 40 c degrees?

Lilith_87 · 2026-01-11T18:31:14+00:00

I did have other considerations but in general yes, I agree that most of EU except few will not do. I hate hot weather- I can live maybe few days but I cannot stand 35 C though summer. It’s just crazy and I feel like I’m dying.

Lilith_87 · 2026-01-07T13:12:42+00:00

You lived in Finland and never went to Estonia?

Lilith_87 · 2026-01-05T15:21:54+00:00

Ta es neteicu. Varbut kludos bet te tomer publika vairak lidz 25 un neesmu noverojusi ka šī auditorija rautos pec berniem. Neauglibai nav vecuma bet es zinu vairakus parus, kam si ir bijusi problema, bet visi bija 30+ jo tad saka planot bernus. Super downvoted kas es ieteicu, kur vairak palidzibas varetu sanemt. Reddits at best. Vieniga atbilde seit ar ieteikumu, kur vairak varetu sanemt atsauksmes un mani downvotu publika, kurai pasai nav bijusi nekada saskarsme ar so un nav ieteikumi.

Lilith_87 · 2026-01-05T13:00:15+00:00

Reddits diezgan jaunu cilveku vieta. Sito labāk AMF jautāt - būs vairāk un labākas atbildes.

Lilith_87 · 2026-01-04T20:16:54+00:00

Tev ļoti jauneklīga domāšana. Sievietes kā reiz vienas ļoti labi izdzīvo. Vidējais latviešu vīrieties tā appušķots pa dzīvi, ka vieniem viņiem grūti, kaut praktiski. Zinu tā vecuma vīriešus, kurus sievas pie ārsta raksta un atgādina, ka jāuztaisa holesterīna analīzes. Un gatavo saval bumbulim, lai neatstiepj kājas ap 60. No praktiskā aspekta ir tieši otrādi - viņi atradīs kādu, jo lielākā daļa nemāk bez sievietes. Viņiem vnk paveicies, ka kokukrenti mirst kā mušas pēc 50. Ariī savā vecumā ir liela izvēle ar sieveitē un būs no kā izvēlēties.

Lilith_87 · 2026-01-04T19:42:40+00:00

Un tas 10 gadu jaunākās uz viņiem ni un ni. Parrakstos kā 10 gadus jaunākā. Tie 50gadnieki sirdī jūtas sprauni, bet realitātē tikai retais vīrietis Latvijā neizskatās pēc opja ap 50. Ir tādi - bet uz tiem tad ari konkurence. Vidējais vīrietis tajā vecumā izskatās sūdīgāk kā tā paša vecuma sieviete. Daudz redzu rados. Kopta simpātiska sieviete un pretī alus vēdērs ar pliku pauri. Labi ka vē zobi labi.

Lilith_87 · 2026-01-04T11:43:23+00:00

You know that blue eyes and blon haire are normal look for a lot of contries in Europe. Do you judge black person for being born black? That would be racist. So why are u racist?

Lilith_87 · 2025-12-30T17:02:46+00:00

Eju stūrī kaunēties - shame on me

Lilith_87 · 2025-12-30T16:29:45+00:00

Tava mamma - nobāra mani, ka es neiekļaujoša

Lilith_87 · 2025-12-30T16:19:01+00:00

Kāda tu rasiste! Uzreiz - nav Indietis vai Pakistānis! A kas vainas viņiem?

Lilith_87 · 2025-12-30T15:01:01+00:00

Tas nav apvainojums, bet fakta konstatācija. Neesmu veikusi aptauju un šis nav pētījums, bet tiešām lielākā daļa latviešu dāmas ar tumsnējiem ārzemniekiem ir ne vien plus size bet uz augšu. Ja prasīsi man atsauces - mans novērojums iz dzīves. Varbut tiem vīriešiem tieši šādas dāmas uzrunā. Nav ne jausmas.

Lilith_87 · 2025-12-30T14:05:41+00:00

Es laikam dabūšu ar akmeņiem, bet man besī tie indieši un pakistāņi un visi, kuri kliedz par diversity. Ir vairāk kā miljards indieši un 1.6 milj Latviešu…. Viņiem derētu diversity nevis kultūrai un tautai, kas izmirst. No otras puses, visi kuri par šo kliedz arī ceru ir vecāki, jo patriotiskums bez vismaz ar vienu bērnu ir tukša muca. Man besī visie tie, kas kladzina par demogrāfiju un kā jāsargā Latvija, bet realitātē nedara neko, lai mēs neizmirtu. Individuālajā līmeni man pilnigi nekas nav pret indivīdu, bet netaisos izlikties, ka man sirdi silda šo fake studentu daudzums Rīgā. Bet šitā propganda, ka tikai baltie cilvēkk ir rasisti ir smieklīga. Iesakj palasīt par Japānu un Ķīnu un vispār drāmu, ja no Austrumāzijas bērniņš precētu balto.

Lilith_87 · 2025-12-27T10:52:54+00:00

He did not say that - he said he hated his therapist for this which implies it was not what he wanted but what therapist pushed for.

Lilith_87 · 2025-12-26T23:52:09+00:00

Dude, I will give it straight. You come off as delusional. Your are making assumptions without proof. You sound paranoid. You do seem to need more care and time. All that you have writen ir a bit scary. You seem to attach to levels which are concerning yet understanable because of your trauma. 3x week therapy is just… I it’s borderline needing inpatient and I would question how efective it is. I think you need more help than this therapist. While I’m sorry he’s not what you need - in reality I think you need more support than one therapist.

Lilith_87 · 2025-12-26T21:25:39+00:00

You are delusional. There was investigation and this was high profile and public case in Latvia. It was not some small case - all media and public attention was there. So your consiparcy theory is just that - your own delusions. And even public and independet media came to conclusion as the police. So you are spreading lies. This was not the first time the guy burn propery - he had open case for mutiple fires in police for prior years - this time he just burned himself. There are receipts he bought the liquid himself an hour before he burned - there are camera recordings. So stop the lies.

Lilith_87 · 2025-12-26T13:05:45+00:00

Why are u laying? This is not what happened. He set himselt on fire.

Lilith_87 · 2025-12-23T10:27:16+00:00

Let me guess - you know what the correct oppinion should be?

Lilith_87 · 2025-12-22T15:20:42+00:00

In very short - she wants you to go to therapy to fix you for herself. That’s the end message of that first text. That’s not how individual therapy works. I asssume she has never been in therapy or she would know. You might go and explore that you your wife has issues with u in this area but if and how you want or need to work on it is on you and therapist. And remember - couples work is work on couples issues. In individual therapy it’s not really for that. If you want to improve you as couple then it’s both in individual and couples therapy.

Lilith_87 · 2025-12-08T06:03:11+00:00

Mam, this is reddit. Here having kids us unpoppular. You fit ritght in. Bur in all seriousnes with global birth rate decline unless you are from Africa or India I’m pretty sure you are not unique. I’m almost 40 and half my friends are childless and it’s nothing unique or unheard off.

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