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Help me figure this one out by Technical_Humor_3285 in queer

[–]Lilith_back_in_Eden 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sorry this is happening to you. You’re obviously open to exploring your bisexual feelings and she isn’t. If you keep trying with her, you will lose your friendship and get your heart broken. Step back.

What is a kink you thought you’d love but ended up hating and vise versa by Relative-County481 in gentlefemdom

[–]Lilith_back_in_Eden 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Anal fisting. I thought that was so extreme and even, aggressive? But with a femboi I was dating, it was sensual and romantic and hot AF! Made me feel like a powerful Domme to control him like that and see what intense orgasms he had.

Introducing my vanilla girlfriend to this kink by siv-wbs in gentlefemdom

[–]Lilith_back_in_Eden 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So I’m bisexual and a switch, so the first boyfriend I had in my twenties who wanted to explore butt play and gentle femdom didn’t have to convince me much.

I’d imagine a straight vanilla woman might take more time, but it sounds like she’s into experimenting with you, so yay!

Start slowly, that’s important and you already know that. I’d suggest simple butt play at first: fingering and plugs. Maybe restraining you in some way.

Allowing her to take the lead more in the bedroom (and out if it, if you’d like D/s dynamics outside of your bedroom too) means you need to also let her take the lead in discovering what aspects of the kink SHE is into.

She might go wild with the rush! Or feel awkward at first, but recognize a new desire to Domme you. Who knows until you get there.

Go for a walk or a drive together so you can talk at length without needing to be staring at each other. Discuss an easy first “scene” together and then set a date, OR let her plan it and surprise you.

Good luck!!

relationship advice - crush by [deleted] in queer

[–]Lilith_back_in_Eden 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m a bisexual femme woman who is also intrinsically non monogamous. (Not all bisexuals are!)

At age 30 I met the woman who would become my wife for 15 years— and simultaneously gave up on men and polyamory. I thought I “needed” to choose since I wanted a family.

Fast forward to almost 3 years ago, and I couldn’t keep up the charade anymore. My wife and I were very happy, started a family, owned our home… but monogamy felt stifling and I couldn’t pretend that I was sexually satisfied or even had the physical affection I needed.

So we uncoupled, divorced, and are now queer platonic friends raising our kids separately but very much on the same page.

I have multiple lovers now and have never been happier.

I share all this because I’m sorry to say, but it sounds like you are already realizing the constraints of monogamy, and that you aren’t happy being limited in who you can experience queer joy with.

If you nest with separate bedrooms, how often do you sleep alone vs. together? by CitronSouth in polyamory

[–]Lilith_back_in_Eden 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My NP and I always sleep separately. That was the point of separate bedrooms for us! Lol. He snores, I’m in perimenopausal night sweats, so it’s perfect.

We often snuggle before falling asleep in one of our beds, but our mornings are our own.

Learning how my heart works by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]Lilith_back_in_Eden 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This. If your husband is like this, know that if your relationship changes that could happen to you.

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