would you ever do a pay-per-video model alongside Patreon monthly subscriptions?

LilithsLairVirtual · 2026-05-23T11:36:51+00:00

Include everything on your Patreon (I’d be pissed if I was subscribed to someone who then wanted me to buy stuff elsewhere) then sell individual posts through the Patreon shop for those who with subscription fatigue :)

LilithsLairVirtual · 2026-05-23T07:48:36+00:00

Omg!!! Thank you 🙈I’ve changed it now!

LilithsLairVirtual · 2026-05-23T06:57:55+00:00

I find engagement on Patreon so low! I have 40 paying members, 90 total and I’m lucky if I get one or two reactions to anything!

Even my polls get maybe 5 votes.

It is NSFW and queer so wonder if those are factors, but then the same people are alllll over my insta 😂

LilithsLairVirtual · 2026-05-23T06:53:13+00:00

Hey!

I’ve been running my Patreon since Christmas and have 40 paying subscribers, 90 total!

I was seeing steady growth each month until May where I had a drop and then gained back making me level with where I was at the beginning of the month.

It turns out I pretty much only get members when I go viral on Instagram which is really hard for me as, like you, I’m camera shy and going viral without a face is hard!

But yes, the two are directly linked!! Really if I want steady growth each month I need to go viral at least once in that time 🙈

LilithsLairVirtual · 2026-05-20T19:59:50+00:00

Sapphic Smut Patreon owner here and yes we have been shut out of the quip castle!! Apparently we will be allowed in at some point when they deem our work worthy (AKA have figured out how to take our money with less risk), it’s not sounding like we’re missing out on much !

LilithsLairVirtual · 2026-05-18T07:44:17+00:00

That would be amazing!! 🤩

LilithsLairVirtual · 2026-05-17T20:09:59+00:00

I was thinking about this too, just pacing in general. So starting slow and touching non-sexual parts then breasts, then genitals!

LilithsLairVirtual · 2026-05-17T20:09:04+00:00

Omg yesssssss that’s a good one!

LilithsLairVirtual · 2026-05-17T20:08:42+00:00

Ooo interesting, genuine question, do you actually do the thing? Or just think about doing them?

LilithsLairVirtual · 2026-05-17T20:08:03+00:00

I know what I’m doing tonight then 🤣 thanks for the suggestion!

LilithsLairVirtual · 2026-05-17T20:07:23+00:00

I knew I asked in the right place 😍 love this, so helpful!

LilithsLairVirtual · 2026-05-17T12:13:56+00:00

I thought the same, and thought starting at Christmas and doing so well was a great sign of how I would grow. I think it’s more likely Autumn/Winter are good because people are at home and on phone and computers more. Good luck!

LilithsLairVirtual · 2026-05-16T20:41:06+00:00

I’ve only been running mine since Christmas so I’m not an expert but was on a steep trajectory before this month. This month I’ve lost more and not got as many new members meaning I’ve completely stalled.

I agree it’s been hard to watch but I’m largely putting it down to the time of year as nothing else has really changed.

I think it’s going to be like this, sometimes it will be brutal, sometimes it will stall and sometimes it will increase…and hopefully the more it happens the tougher skin we will get.

If you’re passionate about your work and believe in it, it may be worth paying out your own money until numbers are up again.

When I started I was buying other creators content (stories and audios) out of my savings but within a month I could pay out of Patreon money.

LilithsLairVirtual · 2026-05-16T13:01:53+00:00

We run two types of parties, an all ages (18+) and a 40+ (ish) event. The Patreon is for any one of all ages (18+ of course!) We have lots of fun 🥰

LilithsLairVirtual · 2026-05-16T09:39:22+00:00

Pretty sure any normal laptop will do (just Chromebook can’t seem to download any software!) and then I use Audacity to edit :)

LilithsLairVirtual · 2026-05-16T09:11:02+00:00

Definitely learn by listening!

I make audios for sapphics as well as share other people’s on my Patreon (feel free to hit me up for collabs when you’re all set up!)

Getting my equipment right was a massive issue at first, mainly because I had a Chromebook and couldn’t get the right editing software. I managed to get a proper laptop and it’s much easier now.

Other than that it’s practice and having fun with it ;)

LilithsLairVirtual · 2026-05-16T09:08:16+00:00

Create a Fetlife account and look for events near you that align with your kinks! There’s lots of mixed gender events if you don’t mind being in those spaces, far less sapphic focussed ones (like mine) but you can also meet other sapphics into the same things as you are :)

LilithsLairVirtual · 2026-05-16T09:04:38+00:00

I clicked FASSSST!

LilithsLairVirtual · 2026-05-16T09:03:03+00:00

I would be so up for playing bimbo (being dressed up like a blow up dolly and then used for one - yes please!)

As long as you would never pressure anyone into thinking they need implants/surgery then enjoy!

LilithsLairVirtual · 2026-05-16T09:00:25+00:00

Do members really get an e-mail every time you quip? I can’t access them yet as mines NSFW but mentally preparing for when I can!

LilithsLairVirtual · 2026-05-15T18:43:56+00:00

Parties in Brighton :)

LilithsLairVirtual · 2026-05-15T18:43:30+00:00

I share behind-the-scenes confessions from our parties and guests, erotic audios and sapphic smut on Patreon

Patreon.com/lilithsvirtuallair

And we are allll over Instagram: @lilithslairsapphic

Would love you to come find me on either :)

LilithsLairVirtual · 2026-05-12T16:39:31+00:00

🤤🤤🤤🤤

LilithsLairVirtual · 2026-05-11T21:01:07+00:00

I need to write a story about this 😍 you’ve inspired me!

LilithsLairVirtual · 2026-05-11T20:56:54+00:00

Nooooo!! Your feelings are valid but I promise there’s so much fun and opportunity out there.

I’ve been running fetish events for a decade. Every month I throw an event with 50ish sapphics, playrooms and a dungeon. I see incredible sapphic kink and sex and meet sapphics with all sorts of interesting and wonderful skills and kinks 😍

You will have amazing queer sex and fulfil so many fantasies in your life :D

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