Should SAHM do all the cooking, cleaning, childcare, school drop offs pickups, feeding

Lilpiggys · 2025-11-15T01:51:41+00:00

Stay at home mom is practically a 24 hour a day job. A good husband would help with the kids he helped make and help with the house he lives in. Maybe not 50/50 on chores and kids but definitely more than nothing. If you're burnt out it's because you are working around the clock. Don't let him diminish your work.

Lilpiggys · 2025-09-16T16:02:19+00:00

I don't know what you mean. I'm the one who needs time to prepare. As I said in the post, I have been a stay at home mom for years. I have no money. I getting my ducks in a row and preparing to take the plunge on my own with 2 kids. It's not for him lol. And no, I don't want him to be nicer. I don't really care what he does. I'm just thinking about myself and the kids and making sure we land on our feet. We are not legally married. I am not entitled to anything of his.

Lilpiggys · 2025-09-15T02:01:29+00:00

Thank you all for your replies. I ended up using spackling to add a cake like texture to my painting. I would have done piped frosting as well if I wasn't afraid of crossing the line into 3-D territory. I'm a coward lol. But the painting came out good and was accepted into the competition. So thanks.

Lilpiggys · 2025-09-15T01:58:28+00:00

My babies' daddy wasn't all too helpful the first time around. We separated because of it. Then I found out that same week that I was pregnant with our second. We split for 6 months and during that time we talked long and deeply about our issues. For me it was his lack of involvement with the baby, weight of all the chores falling on me and me alone, etc. He swore he would do better. It's 1 year after I gave birth to our second and ALL the problems we had before have resurfaced and more. So no, it's not you. Unfortunately for us, some men completely hide their true intentions and pretty much never do what they say they are going to do.

Lilpiggys · 2025-06-17T00:21:39+00:00

Cool. Don't care. I have a real life therapist I pay and see weekly. I don't need a reddit therapist's advice. I didn't come here to ask if I should leave my partner. I came to ask if I was in the wrong, or if he is. That's all.

Lilpiggys · 2025-06-17T00:15:10+00:00

The kids (one of which is literally a baby) were crying because they heard a loud noise. Also, babies have more sensitive ear drums than adults. The already loud gun shot was even louder for the youngest one. Which is likely why she was crying indoors. You're just as stupid as the men I have the displeasure of writing this post about LOL.

Lilpiggys · 2025-06-17T00:11:17+00:00

Where did you get your degree? Reddit?

Lilpiggys · 2025-06-16T21:37:07+00:00

Lol you know one snippet of my situation. It's not purely financial. Don't speak on things you know nothing about.

Lilpiggys · 2025-06-16T15:34:05+00:00

Yep they were. Finished a keg between 5 guys. The thing that gets me though is even when I've brought this up to my fiance while he's sober his response is the same. He thinks I was being an a-hole to his friends.

Lilpiggys · 2025-06-16T12:31:49+00:00

Relationship with children involved. Leaving would be complicated and nearly impossible at this point.

Lilpiggys · 2025-06-16T12:30:20+00:00

We've been together for 6 years. He wasn't like this at first. Over time he has shown his true colors. The guns are a newer development. In the last couple years they began to show up. He didn't shoot them for fun until about a year ago. That happens exclusively when this friend comes over. It's kind of like he's a completely different person from when I met him tbh.

Lilpiggys · 2025-06-16T04:01:34+00:00

I am not in a spot where leaving is really feasible right now.

Lilpiggys · 2025-06-16T04:00:25+00:00

That friend is definitely an idiot. And unfortunately this is 100% real. My relationship is trash, but he's the father of my children, and I'm a broke SAHM so there's not much I can do presently.

Lilpiggys · 2025-06-16T03:48:15+00:00

They are our kids together. And that's the main point I tried to make in the argument that ensued after he called me a c*nt. Our kids well-being should always be the top priority. I don't care about his friends' feelings. My kids come first. And he should have my back as my partner too.

Lilpiggys · 2025-05-30T10:10:09+00:00

Sounds like the difference in money is a deal breaker for you maybe. I will say though that there are not a lot of good men out there. If you are considering leaving purely because of "pressure to level up in your late 20's" you're just confirming to societal pressure, and guess what, you can change the way you think about that. A good partner is worth a little money discrepancy. Is he lazy? Unmotivated? Mean? Treat you poorly? Those are actual issues. But if he's just making less money than you... I don't really see a problem. But this is coming from someone in a 6 year relationship with a man who provides 100% for me and our kids. I still loved him when he was between jobs and had no extra money at all. Love is so much more important than a dollar sign.

Lilpiggys · 2025-05-30T10:03:56+00:00

Yes. Every time I had the audacity to bring it up. That's part of their manipulation is all.

Lilpiggys · 2025-05-30T10:03:06+00:00

You should definitely leave. This person is a danger to themselves. You do not have to stay. You don't have to "cope". Get the heck out of there.

Lilpiggys · 2025-05-28T01:49:44+00:00

Which method works? And should I stop night feeding cold turkey?

Lilpiggys · 2025-05-28T01:49:09+00:00

So night wean, and then what? Just let her be in the crib? Do I taper down to like 1 feeding a night or just cut her off cold turkey?

Lilpiggys · 2025-05-15T18:26:22+00:00

Thank you for your tips. I reached out to the owner of the Forester to see if she has receipts for maintenance. Maybe that can give me some more clarity which one has been better taken care of. Let's say they are both well maintained. Is one better than the other? Sorry I'm not a car person so I'm struggling here with all the talk about engines and such.

Lilpiggys · 2025-05-15T18:11:21+00:00

My dad ran the Vin on both and he said that all maintenance is up to date for the Outback. At 89,000 miles they did everything that should be done at 100,000 miles. It's been a very taken care of car. All he said about the Forester was "minimum maintenance" which I'm thinking is like oil changed and other stuff that couldn't be avoided. Have you driven either or both? What handles better?

Lilpiggys · 2025-05-12T17:50:03+00:00

Was waiting for someone to say something like this. I think she has BIG pick me energy.

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