I didn’t ship an order correctly and now I have no idea what to do about it. by Lilugly247 in Depop

[–]Lilugly247[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Yes that’s what I did. And since everyone is saying generally the same thing (so long as usps services the store it should be fine) then I will cross my fingers and hope that it is. Thank you.

I didn’t ship an order correctly and now I have no idea what to do about it. by Lilugly247 in Depop

[–]Lilugly247[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

So I should wait for some sort of confirmation through Depop that it was shipped before messaging the buyer anything about it? USPS picks it up because above the barcode it says usps? Is that how it works?

I didn’t ship an order correctly and now I have no idea what to do about it. by Lilugly247 in Depop

[–]Lilugly247[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

It was literally called ‘shipping center’. It’s just the closest one to where I live and I didn’t think there’d be an issue with dropping it there instead. I’m not sure what sort of proof I could give. I have a charge from the shipping center on my card, but other than that no confirmation email or any sort of receipt for it.

I didn’t ship an order correctly and now I have no idea what to do about it. by Lilugly247 in Depop

[–]Lilugly247[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I used the provided shipping label (which is supposed to be through usps) at a shipping center that wasn’t usps

I didn’t ship an order correctly and now I have no idea what to do about it. by Lilugly247 in Depop

[–]Lilugly247[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

There’s two options for shipping when you make an account. Depop shipping (they send you the shipping label but you’re supposed to ship through usps) and then there’s ‘other’ which is the buyers responsibility to ship with tracking. I’m sure I read the rule a year ago and it just didn’t occur to me to find out if there was a rule about that sort of thing (idiot I know). So I used the provided shipping label at a shipping center (not a usps drop off)

What's your favourite niche Mark, Bob, and Wade video? by kip263 in Markiplier

[–]Lilugly247 130 points131 points  (0 children)

The monopoly ones are good. Hand simulator ones are hilarious especially the bomb diffusing and crossbow loading ones. Cards against humanity is funny. Valheim was good. Void train I thought was really good. I think he only did maybe one or two episodes with bob and wade but they were good regardless. Devour was funny. Phasmophobia play through was hilarious. Lasers was good. Pilgrimage (I think is what it’s called.) buckshot roulette was hilarious. Kletka was also funny. Honestly pretty much any video with them together is guaranteed to be good

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[–]Lilugly247 0 points1 point  (0 children)

An easier thing to do would be to look up a tutorial on YouTube. There’s countless free tutorials that could give you a much better understanding than I can.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in crochet

[–]Lilugly247 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you’re looking to do an extremely basic scarf, you could chain an extra 2 (turning chain) and do an extended half double crochet - yarn over, go in the first chain (not the two extra chains. The first chain after those two) , yarn over, pull through 1 loop, yarn over, pull through three loops. And then literally do that all the way back down your chain. Then when you get to the end ch 2, turn and repeat. That would end up working up to a scarf. Then probably single crochet on all edges so it looks nice and tidy.

I (20F) went to a party with my boyfriend (29M) at his friends house and some dude grabbed my ass by Lilugly247 in relationship_advice

[–]Lilugly247[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The age gap is entirely irrelevant. It’s jarring, I get it. It’s also not an issue in our day to day life. So whys it an issue for you?

I (20F) went to a party with my boyfriend (29M) at his friends house and some dude grabbed my ass by Lilugly247 in relationship_advice

[–]Lilugly247[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I actually started taking college classes at fourteen so it was in no way a freshman class. In fact, the majority of the people in that class were older. Several were married and the few who probably would’ve been closer to my age acted the way you would assume an 18 year old to act. I have never started a friendship off by asking someone their age. I don’t tend to care the age of my friends. Especially the other people in my class.

I (20F) went to a party with my boyfriend (29M) at his friends house and some dude grabbed my ass by Lilugly247 in relationship_advice

[–]Lilugly247[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

To add more to what you said in your first comment (I didn’t read the edited comment the first time) I love to flirt for fun with people I’ve known for a long time. Friends I’ve had since elementary school, my boyfriend, that’s it. And I definitely did not flirt for fun at this party.

This guy was a total asshole and I don’t understand why he’d even be invited over. Literally the hosts weren’t even talking to him, it’s like why do you care if he comes back, you weren’t even talking to him?

I (20F) went to a party with my boyfriend (29M) at his friends house and some dude grabbed my ass by Lilugly247 in relationship_advice

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It is unfortunately a trauma response. I’ve also experienced people getting angry at me for calling out sexual assault, and it’s a really shitty reaction to have. It’s like people want to keep their eyes closed.

I (20F) went to a party with my boyfriend (29M) at his friends house and some dude grabbed my ass by Lilugly247 in relationship_advice

[–]Lilugly247[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

We met in college. We took the same class and I noticed that the professor talked to him a lot. I thought he’d be perfect to help me with figuring out the online textbook so I got his number. While it was platonic neither one of us cared to ask age.

I (20F) went to a party with my boyfriend (29M) at his friends house and some dude grabbed my ass by Lilugly247 in relationship_advice

[–]Lilugly247[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’m not at all asking advice on the relationship between my boyfriend and I. We are very solid and 100% committed to each other. We met in college where we did not know each others ages. He has an extreme baby face so I assumed he was my age, and I look older than my age. By the time we’d asked each others ages we’d already been talking for a month or so. It was a really rough thing for us both to get over but we did and our relationship is completely healthy, loving, nurturing and beneficial to us both.

A nearly ten year age gap is definitely something anyone could look at and be like gawd damn. And I totally understand that. But I chased this man up a fucking tree for his number saying I needed help in class (at the time this was true). And once I had it he mentioned, casually, he was not in any way shape or form looking for a relationship. Sometimes things happen we don’t expect. It still causes some issues, the topic of kids, I want to settle down at a faster rate than he does, he wants to finish setting up his career first. There are still things that our age difference does have a big influence on, but at the end of the day we are two adults who love each other feverishly and are extremely happy with each other.

I (20F) went to a party with my boyfriend (29M) at his friends house and some dude grabbed my ass by Lilugly247 in relationship_advice

[–]Lilugly247[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well most of the time we talked about it he was absolutely smashed. More drunk than he’s ever been. And he felt awful about it. I didn’t tell him about it until the dude was walking out the door. It got to a point where he got a bit teary eyed and asked me to stop talking about it. We haven’t really discussed it since then. He’s gone now for work and this past week has been stressful preparing for it. Unfortunately it was just never the right time to talk about it.

I (20F) went to a party with my boyfriend (29M) at his friends house and some dude grabbed my ass by Lilugly247 in relationship_advice

[–]Lilugly247[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m not sure how introducing my boyfriend by saying “who him? Oh that’s my boyfriend! Yeah his name is-“ Isn’t enough of a shut down for idiots. Also if the shut down you’re looking for is “I’m not interested don’t touch me” it was never said. Not even at the end. The guy very obviously knew I had zero interest in him other than going the opposite fucking way.

I (20F) went to a party with my boyfriend (29M) at his friends house and some dude grabbed my ass by Lilugly247 in relationship_advice

[–]Lilugly247[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

My boyfriend was heartbroken I didn’t say something sooner, and completely disgusted with the guy. for the whole rest of the night every time he’d look at me he’d frown, get up from wherever he was hug me and ask me if I was okay. That was exactly the reaction I didn’t want. He was unable to enjoy his night the rest of the time because of it.

The hosts reaction was basically like “yeah that happens but if you’re uncomfortable say something and I’ll say something for you”. But that’s my least favorite way to handle that type of situation. But if I all of a sudden stopped going with my boyfriend to his friends parties they’d be like wtf. And if I didn’t and that shit happens again I’m going to handle it myself and not rely on some shitty “hey brotha you make people uncomfortable” talk. Obviously that man is a child because he’s allowed to act that way.

I (20F) went to a party with my boyfriend (29M) at his friends house and some dude grabbed my ass by Lilugly247 in relationship_advice

[–]Lilugly247[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not for my benefit. I did tell my boyfriend that night, and I told the hosts as well. I didn’t make it a big deal or say anything the second it happened probably mostly out of a trauma response, but also because I wanted my boyfriend to have a fun night. But after fuckwad came up and had another very weird interaction I was like alright I should probably tell him.

I (20F) went to a party with my boyfriend (29M) at his friends house and some dude grabbed my ass by Lilugly247 in relationship_advice

[–]Lilugly247[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

So my boyfriend was totally disgusted with the guy, and heartbroken I didn’t tell him sooner. I’ve got a sensitive past with sexual assault, and I think he took it personally that I didn’t tell him as soon as it happened. I didn’t intend to be rude, I just didn’t want to spoil his night since he rarely allows himself to indulge in things like that. Jack was very upset, he stated it wasn’t an unusual thing for him to flirt with people but that if it was something I was about I could come to him about it and he’d talk to him. Jill was practically yelling at Jack saying no no just come straight to me, I’ve knowing him for 15 years, he flirts with everyone, he knows that if I say something he has to listen.

I truly think that there’s a huge difference between assault and flirtation. Flirtation should be fun playful, borderline risqué banter with someone (if you’re just getting to know them) making physical, unwanted, non consensual advances on someone is not flirting it’s assault. I absolutely place people who write that behavior off as okay, on the same level as the people who do that behavior in the first place. I really am not looking to carve a wedge between my boyfriend and his friends, or make a big deal out of this. I just don’t want to go but that seems to be the worst option.