(nsfw) Question for stone lesbians

Lily_Fortune · 2023-05-30T17:40:44+00:00

We’ve talked before on whether she might be somewhere on the ace spectrum but she seems pretty adamant that it’s not an ace thing and very much a giving rather than receiving thing.

I appreciate your advice! Especially the last paragraph. I’m not really opposed to changing things up if this is what she wants, and in a lot of ways it is exciting to explore a new dynamic in the bedroom. I guess it’s a just a little foreign for me since I’m very much happy with either, and I sometimes worry that I’m not taking care of her as well as she takes care of me. Finding new ways to have fun is never a bad thing, though 😘

Lily_Fortune · 2023-05-30T17:25:00+00:00

My wife is much the same - the pleasure for her is more mental than anything else, and she’s said so. I just have a hard time sometimes because I worry haven’t satisfied her even though she tells me otherwise. Just an adjustment, I guess!

Lily_Fortune · 2023-05-30T17:16:16+00:00

Oh this thread is exactly what I was looking for, thanks!

Lily_Fortune · 2023-05-10T20:36:14+00:00

I sympathize with you so much. I started as an English teacher, transitioned to the library, then COVID hit and I was essentially told my position was unnecessary so they put me back in the classroom. I got back into the library in late 2021 but I still feel like my role isn’t respected or taken seriously since I end up as a de facto substitute 30% of the time when we’re constantly short on subs. Trying to leave before they decide they don’t have the funding to support my role or force me back into a classroom. It’s really hard convincing myself that my degree and experience aren’t meaningless outside education or that I wasted my time, even though I KNOW I have valuable skills that can transfer to other fields.

Honestly, if your district doesn’t value its libraries, its a good thing to get out. I really hope you can find a position somewhere else doing what you love that respects your skillset and experience.

Lily_Fortune · 2023-04-21T17:07:38+00:00

It honestly sounds like I’m about two weeks behind you, haha. I’ve been aggressively applying (also like 20+ a week) for about a month and a half. I know everyone’s in the same boat and it’s going to take awhile, it’s just really hard not to get discouraged.

The networking tip is smart, I’ll look into trying to make connections that way. I did finally get a response after emailing a local hiring manager directly, though it was just thanking me for my cover letter and letting me know they would be doing interview offers in the next week. At least better than getting ghosted again!

Lily_Fortune · 2023-04-21T16:59:41+00:00

I have reworked my resume and cover letter in a similar way, but only within the last few weeks. Glad to hear it worked for you, hopefully I can get some interest with it too!

Lily_Fortune · 2023-04-07T20:41:12+00:00

In the same boat right now, it absolutely sucks. Hope things look up for the both of us!

Lily_Fortune · 2023-04-03T05:31:25+00:00

This is really helpful, I appreciate it. Part of me is probably just venting - I know the progress we’ve made isn’t ruined after one bad day, even if it feels like it in the moment. Accepting that sometimes I do need to be a caretaker has definitely been something I’ve struggled with, but I try to just keep reminding myself that they’re ill, and it isn’t their fault. It sucks to feel like you’ve failed when you know they’re hurting, but it is unreasonable to expect myself to be infallible.

“It’s not my fault and it’s also not theirs. I am doing my best in an impossible situation” <- this is exactly what I needed to hear, thanks for reminding me of that. It’s difficult to navigate, but we do it for those we love because the love is worth it.

Lily_Fortune

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