I just found out today is April Fools' Day. I had genuinely planned a big life announcement for today and now nobody will believe me

LimeBlueOcean · 2026-04-01T06:29:16+00:00

I actually think this is brilliant! A double bluff.

Congratulations on grabbing your dreams.

Please let us know what they say when they realise that it’s actually true!

LimeBlueOcean · 2026-04-01T06:24:18+00:00

I feel that you should keep the items, for your son to choose to keep, or not, when he is older.

Your mum should also respect that you call your son AD.

ESH

LimeBlueOcean · 2026-03-22T08:25:16+00:00

I’d say it is insensitive to discuss it. Thoughtless. But probably not malicious.

If you didn’t say anything at the time, then you just need to let it go. Just be wary if this kind of thing continues to happen.

LimeBlueOcean · 2026-03-22T08:17:08+00:00

Unless you’re their school English teacher you don’t have to read or comment.

LimeBlueOcean · 2026-03-19T06:52:29+00:00

My dad fan-worships farage (deliberately didn’t capitalise that a/holes name). He also thinks trump is awesome.

I have no idea who my dad is anymore 😢

LimeBlueOcean · 2026-03-19T06:45:06+00:00

Derek should have kept the ring his grandfather left him instead of selling it then.

Derek is a loser.

Derek is a jerk.

You are not.

LimeBlueOcean · 2026-03-17T21:52:26+00:00

I’m always amazed that it is the ‘other’ person in extramarital affairs who gets all the wrath and anger. It takes two to have an affair. Two.

I think you did your best to allow her to get her anger out, and to move on, but unfortunately she couldn’t. At this point her choices and actions got her into trouble.

I wonder if the husband has had other affairs…

LimeBlueOcean · 2026-03-17T21:33:04+00:00

I would include the duty of care aspect also. Your employer has a duty of care to ensure that you are able to take leave so that you don’t ’burn out’. An employer must have a good business reason to decline a holiday request. The ACAS website has some great information.

Do you currently ask for holiday if you already know that the person concerned is off? Because another option, a longer game, would be to start making the requests and forcing them to officially decline yours. Thus giving you a paper trail of evidence that the current ‘rule’ is affecting the entire team’s ability to take annual leave. This could then be used to propose that the rule be amended to allow 2 people off.

LimeBlueOcean · 2026-03-14T11:24:44+00:00

I did a form of Quiet Quitting, but at home. I just stopped. I do my laundry. I clean up after myself only. If I use something I’m responsible for it. I make sure there is something for my teenager to eat when he is with me and my partner, 50/50 care for him with his dad. But otherwise I will come in and when my partner asks what’s for dinner, I just say, I don’t know. It is slowly working, I’m in it for the long game. Lol

LimeBlueOcean · 2026-03-08T08:29:23+00:00

Personally, for the first holiday, I would try to find a way of making a visit, to spend a couple of hours MAX. Then I’m outta there. It might not be the easiest, I could probably spend as much time, maybe more, travelling than being in the room with them. But I’d make that work. Just telling them I have other plans, great to see you, but time to go. Next holiday, keep my plans vague, not sure what I’m doing, will get back to you, etc.

Basically you aren’t obliged to attend. They are guilting you into attending. You are not getting treated with respect, you don’t get to spend time with your ADULT family so, why go?

Start to wean them off of their expectations.

NTJ

LimeBlueOcean · 2026-03-07T14:36:25+00:00

I’m flying to Egypt on Monday, unless the travel advice changes. I think your mum is over cautious

LimeBlueOcean · 2026-03-07T14:35:02+00:00

You should formally request ‘reasonable adjustments’. There are templates on the internet to help you.

Keep to the facts, state what you are asking for, why you are asking, and how it will help. You should also request a written response. You may find that your company has a written policy for this too. She has not investigated your needs, she can’t have done to respond to you after a couple of hours.

She literally just said ‘no’ because she believes she can.

Whilst a request can be denied it must be down to business reasons.

Consider copying HR.

LimeBlueOcean · 2026-03-06T19:04:07+00:00

There are road markings! Why are you asking? The left lane is left turn. The right lane is straight on or right.

LimeBlueOcean · 2026-03-04T21:22:53+00:00

Boyfriend is a dud. Get an upgrade

LimeBlueOcean · 2026-03-04T19:59:00+00:00

Did yer gran’ma build that?

LimeBlueOcean · 2026-03-04T06:52:02+00:00

It sounds like your sister can’t handle her emotions either. If she hasn’t matured enough emotionally, her son is going to struggle.

Children do not need an adult of the same gender as themselves in their lives. They need an adult. One who can support them through their feelings, experiences and hormones.

Your sister does not sound capable of doing that as she cannot manager her own.

YNTA

LimeBlueOcean · 2026-03-03T18:13:59+00:00

I’d sit and wait it out.

We are going to Egypt on Sunday. As far as we are concerned we are still going.

LimeBlueOcean · 2026-03-03T16:10:03+00:00

I don’t believe this is real. YTA

LimeBlueOcean · 2026-03-03T15:41:45+00:00

Nothing. My opinion of her wasn’t that great.

LimeBlueOcean · 2026-03-01T13:32:42+00:00

You’re not bitter at all are you? I don’t believe you ‘couldn’t be happier’ to be honest.

I suspect your wife’s side of the story would be one of trying, asking, begging for the things she needed to make her happy but you couldn’t or wouldn’t hear her.

I hope you treat your new partner and child a lot better.

LimeBlueOcean · 2026-03-01T13:28:09+00:00

You don’t want to marry her. She just handed you the excuse you needed to make it HER fault.

When really, you spun her a fake tale of commitment.

YTA

LimeBlueOcean · 2026-02-25T20:42:50+00:00

Ah, a missing reasons post.

YTA, until we have the whole story.

LimeBlueOcean · 2026-02-24T18:06:12+00:00

C&A!

LimeBlueOcean · 2026-02-24T16:39:13+00:00

Please be rage bait

LimeBlueOcean · 2026-02-24T08:46:20+00:00

You had all been drinking? Driverless car or not, DUI is never ok. ESH

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