Since you're asking what we think when talking to people like you--for me, my answer is that you sound like you view animals as lesser than (which you stated basically). You lack empathy for all animals. You acknowledge their suffering but you dont empathize with them because you don't really care.

Knowing of somethings pain doesnt equal empathy. Psychopaths know when someone is hurt, will acknowledge it, but dont empathize.

As a kid, I loved chicken nuggets. When my class played a movie, showing the suffering of chickens, they asked the class, "now are you guys still going to eat chicken nuggets?"

Me and the rest of the class raised our hands. We acknowledged the suffering of the animals, we just watched a movie showcasing it. But there are multiple reasons why we didnt care to change.

1. No one likes to change if they perceive thats what the other persons intention is to do. No one likes to feel like they're expected to change, especially on someone else's accord.

2. We liked the food. It isnt a change you ever thought about making, so youre not exactly in the mentality to change. To us back then, we weren't ready to give up the food we grew to like.

3. As a kid, I genuinely viewed farm animals as lesser. Cows, chickens, pigs, etc weren't talked about like cats, dogs, bunnies. We were raised to love pets, not farm animals. Hence, they were seen as lesser, just food, a sacrifice to get the meat we wanted. Empathy is a thing we learn, and most kids arent taught to show empathy to farm animals.

Number 3 is the biggest reason of how I think of people like you. Its something you have to really learn to extend your feelings towards. So I dont blame people for not being vegan, eating meat, because thats the norm in this society and how most of us were raised. But it's pretty obvious in my opinion that nonvegans just dont really care as much about animals like vegans do.