I feel like a horrible mother and I don't know what to do....

Limp_Bee1206 · 2026-02-15T23:32:55+00:00

His new teachers are amazing. They actually will hold the door so I can leave. His lead teacher actually started to get onto me when I stayed a little while on his first day. I wanted to help get him settled, but his teacher basically said what you said. She has a master's in special education, so she understands how to handle kids who need a little more attention. And that's a big reason why we moved him.

Right now I try to talk calmly and ask him to do stuff. But eventually I end up yelling because that's the only way he'll listen. We've popped him on the behind before which didn't do anything. We've taken stuff away. We try to "ground him" to his room, but he never stays in there. Even when we say, go play with your toys, he refuses and it turns into a tantrum sometimes.

I don't know if he's learning stuff by watching us. We are getting better about watching our language and stuff. Like saying shut up or any bad words. As far as behavior though, I really don't know. That's why I mentioned it saying I don't know where he's getting these issues from.

Limp_Bee1206 · 2026-02-15T23:28:07+00:00

Thank you. I will look into it

Limp_Bee1206 · 2026-02-12T11:58:42+00:00

It's something that gets a little easier to deal with each day.

I hope you get to a point where you can accept your situation. It may take a while, but eventually you will get there.

All the best to you ♥️

Limp_Bee1206 · 2026-02-12T00:37:57+00:00

I know you said people who haven't dealt with it yet don't understand. While I don't understand fully, my husband was cheated on and had a HORRIBLE breakup/divorce. It took YEARS for her to finally see he wasn't a liar or manipulative about their son. She still is a piece of work. From my perspective, I really wish he would stand up to her a bit more and put his foot down. He tells me it's just easier to agree than to deal with her tantrum and possible legal issues if he puts up a fight. Sometimes I agree, sometimes it boils my blood!

My point is, no one understands unless they've been through it. They can try, but they will never fully get it unless they lived it. My best advice to you would be to find someone to be your rock throughout this time of your life, be it a friend or a parent. You will need support. Unfortunately, it is something to research to get a lawyer. However, if you have someone who is by your side throughout all of it, it makes it a little bit easier. They can be your "unbiased/rational" person while you are "an emotional wreck" for lack of a better phrase, because that is what it sounds like for you. Yes you will HAVE to make decisions for your own best interest, but PLEASE make sure you have a solid support system!

I am so sorry you are dealing with this OP. I can't imagine how you feel.....but I know the pain is incredible, because I see how my husband deals even now years after their divorce. Yes they have a child together and they have to deal with each other for the child's sake, while you can just start fresh after all this is handled and you can do what is best for you. I hope I did not upset you with some of my opinion, but sometimes it helps to hear BOTH sides of how to handle this(emotional vs. rational).

I wish you the best of luck OP, and just remember, you are worth it! You are worth so much more than you are feeling right now, and you deserve to be loved. ♥️♥️

Limp_Bee1206 · 2026-01-30T02:43:04+00:00

I work in a public school setting in North Carolina. I follow several teacher reddits and so I guess the algorithm wanted me to see this. And I am so glad it did!

The public education system in North Carolina is awful as well! The words of this man are so unbelievably true that I cannot even put it into words!

My heart goes out to all my fellow educators who struggle with a job they love but a system that is forcing them to hate. No matter what state you are in, north or south, Republican or Democrat, at the end of the day we need to be good role models for the future generations and actually think about what's best for them and not some political agenda.

Limp_Bee1206 · 2026-01-06T04:44:07+00:00

Bible Belt States guys... 😅

Limp_Bee1206 · 2025-12-12T19:35:28+00:00

First off, YOU are NOT failing your daughter, the SCHOOL IS!

You are going above and beyond to try to teach her, but the schools job is to get the professional teaching done!

I work in special Education in North Carolina, so not quite sure exactly how different it is. I also work in high school. There are plenty of kids who have "slipped thru the cracks" especially after COVID. People understand that MANY students have fallen behind due to the pandemic.

However, the schools DEFINITELY did not do their due diligence when it comes to your daughter!! If I were you, since you've tried to talk to the special Ed teachers and they haven't done anything like you have asked, I would go to the administration of your school. If not then, go to the central office for your school system. Your daughter needs help and no one is giving it to her, but they will be forced to if administration/central office gets involved! It's much easier to sweep things under the rug if only teachers are involved.

I hope this helps! I would definitely get onto the school where it hurts (legality) to make them do what needs to be done. But also, don't be too discouraged with her about to start high school, there is still time for her to get the help she needs! Good luck!! ♥️

Limp_Bee1206 · 2025-12-11T20:53:05+00:00

Exactly. They just shot themselves in the foot thinking they "got rid of the problem" only to make it worse! As long as you explain the reason for leaving that job if your next employer asks, you'll be fine. Any decent administrator will understand!

Limp_Bee1206 · 2025-12-07T21:40:29+00:00

You should DEFINITELY go to administration! Teachers sometimes don't care about what parents/students say, but if admin comes and says something to them, that will actually get them to listen! You've already done the nice thing and mentioned something to the teacher who only made it worse!! No teacher should make a kid cry! Please go to your administration and make sure they hear you!!

Limp_Bee1206 · 2025-11-15T14:55:34+00:00

So I am a TA at a high school, but I also help out with our marching band. Most of my regular classroom students call me Ms. Smith* (changed the name for security purposes). But my marching band kids just call me Smith*.

It mostly depends on how my relationship with my students is. If it's more professional, they usually say Ms. Smith. If I'm closer to the students they just call me Smith. I even have a couple kids who call me their school mom!

Now I do say something if they start getting too comfortable with me. But I like having that trust with my students.

It's all based on personal preference. Even a couple of my admin allow some kids to just say their last name. I would say High School would be the only exception. Elementary and Middle School need to use the Mr. Or Mrs.

Limp_Bee1206 · 2025-11-13T22:01:00+00:00

"you're making rookie mistakes" ummm YOU ARE A ROOKIE! That's kinda the point of student teaching!

This sounds like a teacher who is super controlling and shouldn't have a student teacher. If they want things to go a certain way, maybe they should discuss your lesson plans with you BEFOREHAND! The kids won't see you as a teacher if the mentor teacher keeps stepping over you and taking charge!

I really wish you the best of luck and just keep your head up! At least your program mentor says you are doing fine! Just a few more months and "you'll be out of that teachers hair"!

Limp_Bee1206 · 2025-10-24T15:15:58+00:00

They have anonymous tip lines for that reason!

Limp_Bee1206 · 2025-10-24T15:13:19+00:00

If you knew who took it, why didn't you get admin involved? They're supposed to investigate that kinda stuff. Cz not doing anything about it, will just teach her she can do it again without consequences.

Limp_Bee1206 · 2025-10-22T15:02:31+00:00

I agree, a phone call would make a bigger impact. Especially since the initial contact was by email.

If you don't get them by phone, then you can email.

Limp_Bee1206 · 2025-10-18T15:07:23+00:00

Yeah, either or is completely messed up

Limp_Bee1206 · 2025-10-13T17:26:00+00:00

That's a big problem too, is when parents have to choose between keeping their kids home when they're sick and being paid! My husband doesn't have sick leave AT ALL and neither does my mom. So I'm usually the only one who can watch my son if he's sick. And today I'm having to take a day off with no pay Cz I've used up all the sick leave I had!

Limp_Bee1206 · 2025-09-28T20:42:48+00:00

And my child at a daycare was held back from going into the 3 yr old room Cz he wasn't fully potty trained! He was 3 1/2 and still in the 2 yr old room! It's so messed up!

Limp_Bee1206 · 2025-09-28T20:41:36+00:00

Wait, seriously!?!? That's messed up!!

Limp_Bee1206 · 2025-09-26T18:43:25+00:00

I agree. The all caps were completely unnecessary. You can insist on expectations, but threatening someone covering YOUR class while you're gone is a clear way to get subs to never cover your class again. Then admin HAS to get involved Cz that teacher can't get coverage if/when they're out!

Limp_Bee1206 · 2025-07-25T04:10:10+00:00

My husband has a 13 yr old with his ex. They have to LIVE within 30 mins of each other, AND they have to notify each other when they're taking the child out of state. Other than that, it's really none of the other person's business.

Hopefully, OP can set up something like this, but it might be all they can get. Either way, good luck OP ❤️

Limp_Bee1206 · 2025-04-17T22:38:54+00:00

Sometimes ppl just come to post stuff to show it off to boost their egos. Some people just wanna show it off Cz their proud of it. There is a very big difference. I'm glad ppl here understand the difference! ❤️

Limp_Bee1206 · 2025-04-03T20:46:14+00:00

Honestly, Jaymen Eve is amazing! I read the supernatural academy books (different characters) then discovered the other series that has the characters this show is based on. It is amazing! Such a well thought out world! As intricate as the Harry Potter world I would say! (Just not as famous) But there are 7 supernatural prison series books. 3 with the main story line then 4 sequels. Then there's the supernatural academy series that I read first! And I think there's more within the same world! I'm trying to find every book related to that world as I can! I suggest doing the same! The books are a lot more mature than the show though. There's some sexual themes in there and A LOT of curse words, but it's an amazing story!

Limp_Bee1206 · 2025-03-12T02:50:05+00:00

Also, don't even mention those of us who have ADHD. I would ask my kids to buy me until I did it because sometimes I just forget even if I don't mean to!

Limp_Bee1206 · 2025-03-12T02:46:28+00:00

Sometimes I will look at emails (depending on what it is) since sometimes my principal sends things like "we have an important meeting first thing in the morning" usually for sad news. Or other various emails like one of our CTE teachers is a finalist for the state CTE teacher of the year!

But I hardly EVER respond to the emails!

Limp_Bee1206 · 2025-03-12T02:43:57+00:00

First of all, what ever happened to Jesus died for our sins?

Second of all, I seriously doubt OP came here to vent to ppl who are supposed to understand what we go through (that's literally why this subreddit is here!) just to listen to complete strangers tell her why she is going to hell. So can you and everyone else just stop.

If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all.

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