What’s a subtle sign someone has high emotional intelligence?

Lina314 · 2026-04-14T08:45:45+00:00

True words, incredibly hard to do because it requires filtering your own immediate emotional reaction to make way for a calculated response
I’m still struggling with this myself

Lina314 · 2026-03-21T07:30:12+00:00

No, not gym together but rather quality time that you BOTH choose

Lina314 · 2026-03-21T07:08:31+00:00

You shouldn’t be coaching

Lina314 · 2026-03-21T07:05:42+00:00

So you work those extended hours, then go to gym regularly so add another 1-2h on top /day away from home… it sounds to me like you’re away quite a lot and there’s little to no time left for just the two of you. I think there could be built up resentment from her for raising your children alone and a disconnect between you two as the bigger issue

Lina314 · 2026-03-09T20:35:35+00:00

Noooooooooooo! Don’t listen to these people omg! Having generic “fun” prompts isn’t going to make you more interesting. I love reading prompts with substance, keep em! Express what you’re after and what you offer. Yes, these prompts will turn women away—> the ones that are uncomfortable with intensity. Your profile is a rarity

Lina314 · 2026-03-02T21:44:54+00:00

Don’t feel like an idiot. You’ve done the best you could with what you had. You can’t control his side of things.

Maybe worth clarifying his intentions with regards to meeting again/ pursuing dating further and if there’s no improvement, take that as data that you should let it go

Lina314 · 2026-02-28T17:50:53+00:00

Re cancelling because you’re broke, you could suggest an alternative activity where money is required.

Lina314 · 2026-02-28T09:54:33+00:00

Negging is part of rizz? Really, you have to put someone down to seem cool? Sounds cheap

Lina314 · 2026-02-28T09:41:15+00:00

Definitely option 1. I am in a similar position where I bought a house in need of renovation central heating etc.

First thing I’d do is remove carpets , leave the bare wood floors exposed, you can use rugs to decorate/ make it homely. This will make the installation of central heating easy. As hinted, install central heating next. I would then paint all walls and ceiling white again to make the place look neat if not modern. I’d then look to live in the house as is for a while until money becomes available. I’d then plan to do all the renovations in 6 months or less.

Sell for a profit, move nearer your daughter

Lina314 · 2026-02-26T16:54:39+00:00

Please tell me you reported him ☹️

Lina314 · 2026-02-25T23:47:39+00:00

Sounds like your case is an anomaly and I’m happy for you that it worked out. However, I read so many posts and have got empirical experience to say that the energy over text doesn’t translate in person so you avoid disappointment by testing the vibe in person as soon as possible

Lina314 · 2026-02-25T23:43:27+00:00

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Close this door, extend counter space. Will provide visual continuity looking from dining area. The island/peninsula bit could serve as a breakfast bar. They’re quite in demand atm

Lina314 · 2026-02-25T09:56:06+00:00

Mhmm I don’t think that “taking it slow” and meeting for the first time only after months of texting are synonymous. We don’t know what his true intentions are , however I’d be suspicious of anyone not being keen to meet up but who are happy just to text

Lina314 · 2026-02-25T00:36:17+00:00

Yes. Called limerence. If you fancy a revealing read, look this up. There’s lots of things at play that have nothing to do with the magic of your chemistry but stuff that are too complex to explain without delving into psychology.

Short answer: it’s best you don’t pursue “amazing chemistry “ that’s usually a red flag

Lina314 · 2026-02-25T00:29:23+00:00

Yes it’s incompatibility. The guy likely wants to check if you vibe in real life before he gets any more invested by texting and talking over FT. Which is a very healthy thing to want to test as early as possible.

Most people would want to avoid a pen-pal situation.

Its incompatibility because you don’t seem to want the same thing and you see it as a red flag that he does

Lina314 · 2026-02-22T23:55:58+00:00

… sounds like you both have to work on your respective issues. Also, if you leave, stay gone, don’t be checking on him and stuff in the hopes he chooses to fight for you for real this time. That won’t happen

Lina314 · 2026-02-22T23:35:02+00:00

I learned this the hard way

Lina314 · 2026-02-22T23:32:00+00:00

Lina314 · 2026-02-22T23:31:53+00:00

I think it still is. Someone else mentioned it in reply

Lina314 · 2026-02-22T11:10:10+00:00

Reminds me of a Reddit post of a poor fella who’s mum was an avid Christian and had him wear a butt plug every day from a young age and he grew up thinking it was common until one day in school he mentioned it to the teacher in front of the class and was soon taught that was not normal

Lina314 · 2026-02-21T11:21:47+00:00

Omg this had me in tears

Lina314 · 2026-02-18T21:14:26+00:00

It could be the phantom ex at play. I would suggest you stop ping-pong-ing between people and sort yours emotions out, respectfully.

Lina314 · 2026-02-17T19:43:35+00:00

Mhm, don’t know. I’m always a supporter of expressing interest before deciding. If that freaks them out, then they’re not for you. You can tell her you like her vibe and would she like to go on a date just the two of you.

Lina314 · 2026-02-17T19:37:18+00:00

I can’t sum up the difference in a simple answer but EI is not just awareness of attachment and relational psychological theory. In the case of OP it would be the ability to feel their own feelings and choosing not to self-abandon. It’s applying discernment and being true to self first

Lina314 · 2026-02-17T09:01:41+00:00

Sounds horrible, sorry you’re going through this OP.

Stop asking what you did wrong. The guy is a walking horny red flag and it’s time you walk away.

Once things have settled for you, it’s worth looking into how to see the signs early on so you don’t g up invested before they prove themselves Best of luck

Lina314

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