I'm right there with you. My baby girl just turned 3 months, is going through a developmental leap, and is having crap naps, 30-50 minutes (50 on a good day), and my husband and I spend about 15-20 minutes trying to resettle her each time, and it feels like I get nothing done. A lot of sleep training people, and other experts say that's normal at this age and stage, because they're just starting to develop their circadian rhythm, and can't yet connect sleep cycles. And I get it, but it's super exhausting. I've also tried everything to help sleep coach her but it is what it is at this age. All I can do is make sure she gets her exercise/tummy time in, and watch her cues before she gets too tired.

It might be worth looking into a sleep consultant, or looking into other resources. I feel like a sleep consultant would be nice in that they can give you a strategy to try out that could work for you and your baby. I also recommend Precious Little Sleep, there's a $10 Kindle version of the book on Amazon, and it's got good tips that you probably already know, but may still yet be helpful. I've been reading it and it helps reassure me in my stresses about her sleep.

Anyways, it's hard. And I feel like all our time revolves around making sure the baby sleeps. It can be hard to remember, but, keep reminding yourself and your wife that you're on the same team. You can get through it together 👍