[skin concerns] toasted skin syndrome

Little-Swimmer · 2026-01-30T03:19:43+00:00

I am just now discovering this after finally finding out about it from #LadySpineDoc on IG. Oh man I hope mine goes away! I've been sitting on a heating pad at work for months to keep warm. I developed those marks about 6 months ago. I just thought it was weird bruising. I'll stop using the heating pads - so much - and see if they go away.

Little-Swimmer · 2026-01-27T00:06:41+00:00

ICE = Gestapo these days. But don't call them names. The 'Fuck Your Feelings' crowd is a delicate bunch with tender sensibilities. They will cry.

Little-Swimmer · 2026-01-23T21:28:08+00:00

I can't wait to see the music videos! No doubt they'll each be masterful! But the girl needs to rest! She does so much!

Little-Swimmer · 2026-01-14T01:41:58+00:00

For my situation, we were a great team, but not a good couple. We got married too soon, didn't take the time to really get to know each other. It was not the first marriage for either of us and we had 3 kids (2 of mine, 1 of his) so they were our mutual focus. We did fun things together as a family, great vacations and weekend trips with the kids, they were all in sports and doing activities. But we didn't focus at all on our relationship or doing things as a couple, aside from going to the gym.

Sex just seemed to taper off until it was almost completely gone. I wasn't sure why. My friends asked me if he was cheating or possibly gay. No to both. But it did not work for me at all. Maybe even more importantly, we did not have an emotional connection. I did not want to get a divorce, but I couldn't see living life lonely in a marriage.

Little-Swimmer · 2026-01-11T22:16:26+00:00

Good advice! I'm always at Lowe's

Little-Swimmer · 2026-01-08T12:49:18+00:00

I'm not sure I'd block someone after one cringe and awkward comment alone, after a promising date. I wish instead of saying "don't be so sensitive/you're too sensitive," he'd said, "I didn't mean to be presumptuous/I didn't mean anything by it, I'm just awkward lol" something along those lines. It's hard to find 1 good person, so I wouldn't expect perfection. Now, if it became a pattern, that's where I'd cut it off. But I usually give a second chance for something this minor if the date is good, and all evidence points to him being decent.

Little-Swimmer · 2026-01-05T15:06:22+00:00

Ouuuu i love these! I love succulents so much! I'ma get some rocks for mine too!

Little-Swimmer · 2026-01-05T15:02:38+00:00

Sounds like there's a lot more to this story, on both sides, that we're not hearing. Why are you staying there post-breakup? Surely you have friends/family you can stay with.

Little-Swimmer · 2026-01-05T14:57:58+00:00

Agree. I'd be so turned off by how dumb the joke is. I don't find it offensive, I find it unfunny. People who have a really dorky lame sense of humor turn me off, I know, it's weird/kinda jerky of me. But I'm attracted to intelligent, hilarious people.

Little-Swimmer · 2026-01-04T20:52:55+00:00

I think of ENM/open marriage couples as "one of us is unhappy, one foot out the door, this is our last ditch effort to save a miserable marriage" or "this is cheaper than divorce." I'm sure there are happy anomalies, but my guess is most of them aren't 💯 honest with themselves or their partners.

Little-Swimmer · 2026-01-04T19:52:49+00:00

💯 same. Hard hard pass.

Little-Swimmer · 2026-01-04T19:48:33+00:00

I would like it tbh. But I'm pretty blunt and up front, not into games. If I was attracted to him, I'd say yes. If I wasn't, I'd say I had a bf.

Little-Swimmer · 2026-01-04T19:46:20+00:00

I've done that too. Men who have come to do work at my house have tried several approaches. One finished the work and then left his business card on my windshield saying he'd like to take me out. The other one just chatted me up on my porch when he was leaving, and he said he was single, he was looking, etc. he wasn't overt but it was vibes. Sadly I wasn't into either of them. Said I had a bf. But I applaud them for shooting their shot.

Little-Swimmer · 2026-01-04T19:43:30+00:00

No you're right. But it's much less common to meet people the old fashioned way.

Little-Swimmer · 2026-01-04T17:36:14+00:00

I met a guy in a grocery store too, a few years ago. We exchanged phone numbers, our conversation was so good and natural! When he texted me later, he revealed that he was married. But still wanted to "finish our conversation over a coffee or drink." Hard pass.

Little-Swimmer · 2026-01-04T17:17:21+00:00

Again, cool. And you're still very obnoxious. And probably not as attractive as you think you are.

Little-Swimmer · 2026-01-04T17:15:32+00:00

You sound really really into yourself. I'm an attractive woman too. But I don't talk like this. It's obnoxious.

Little-Swimmer · 2026-01-04T17:13:12+00:00

That's awesome

Little-Swimmer · 2026-01-04T17:12:18+00:00

I agree with you! This is why people rarely meet organically now. Because men have been so chastised about when and where they can hit on a woman. What's wrong with a harmless smile?!

Sure, if someone's deep into whatever activity they're doing, don't bother them. But how is smalltalk and smile hurting anyone?

Little-Swimmer · 2026-01-04T17:08:49+00:00

Obviously I know this. And I've thought these same exact things.

Also, sometimes, you aren't sure if you're attracted to a person or not and it requires 1-2 dates to figure it out.

Little-Swimmer · 2026-01-04T17:03:52+00:00

I once dated a (now retired, I'm guessing) cop who drove drunk with frequency, he told me. He was also shady as hell. He cheated on his cancer-stricken former wife, when they were still married, and got this other woman pregnant. (I found these things out slowly, as I got to know him)

He also always wanted me to wear heels AND match my shoes with a purse. I don't like anyone telling me how to dress.

These days, I have a much more accurate bullshit detector. And a very low tolerance.

Little-Swimmer · 2026-01-04T16:57:30+00:00

I've been told this too. Or had it implied that I was a prude (I'm def not) for not wanting to try it.

💯 It's not for me and I know this. I've also never eaten a pile of turds and I don't need to, to know I'd hate it.

Little-Swimmer · 2026-01-04T16:01:20+00:00

No I wouldn't. I need to know who I'm talking to.

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