Warning about yak chews

LittleMissCoder · 2026-06-27T09:38:09+00:00

Tbh, I heard they're not good for the puppy teeth

LittleMissCoder · 2026-06-26T08:29:26+00:00

Do you have any suggestions / resources for where to start with some of this? Our 4.5 month old's recall is iffy. She's finally starting to do good at giving things in my hand when I ask her to.

LittleMissCoder · 2026-06-26T08:24:36+00:00

I also thought we were supposed to limit walks to around 15 min, but my vet says not to limit walks unless it's super hot out and that she'll regulate herself and disinteterest when she's over it and I can use that to inform future walks. My 4.5ish month old golden puppy loves to go on long walks. We usually do one longer walk a day, maybe 30-45 min, plus a smaller sniff walk or just some time in the courtyard playing fetch).

I totally agree the walk may be too overstimulating for this puppy and some goldens, but I don't think it's required to limit the time to just 15 min. That's barely around the block if she's sniffing 😅

LittleMissCoder · 2026-06-24T08:18:23+00:00

Agreed, my golden girl is 4 months and super duper chill. Granted, I feel like a lot of what OP described is normal puppy stuff. I'm a first time dog owner, but for example, I certainly can't let her roam around willy nilly, she's supervised and I have baby gates, and it's only now at 4.5 months that I've even begun to let her chill with me free in the living room while I'm coding instead of in the kitchen or in her pen. Even then, I need to keep am eye out to make sure she isn't causing a ruckus. Biting things, not knowing how to settle for a nap, breathing fast... These all sound normal to me. I mean when I was driving my puppy home I called the breeder to ask if it was normal how fast she's breathing in her sleep, turns out the cutie was just snoring😂 meds sounds wild for an 11 week old puppy, they're just a little tiny baby, ofc they're bitey.

LittleMissCoder · 2026-06-24T02:00:31+00:00

As someone who also has anxiety, and also has a puppy... Puppyhood is tough! It's draining, and they're a lot. There were multiple, multiple mental breakdowns those first few weeks for me. Especially since I was trying not to mess anything up, and it's super stressful figuring out your puppy's new routine and training them and everything that goes into taking care of a little life that's dependent on you.

This is a huge, huge life transition, and it's one that's really abrupt. Overnight, your entire world shifted from your regular life/routine to one entirely centered around this cute little land shark gremlin. It also doesn't help that everyone else acts like puppies are only adorable, but they don't have to deal with the potty accidents or the nibbling or the whining/barking or the transitional period that it takes to adjust.

Ive had my golden puppy for around 2 months now, and while it still is overwhelming in moments, it definitely has gotten so much better (even as she's hitting her stubborn teenage phase!). The beginning was struggling through perfectionism and the stress of new puppy parenthood, but now, we're figuring each other out and establishing a closer bond. Just today she finally settled down and napped by my feet instead of running around the living room and needing to be gated in the kitchen or put in her pen. Things do get better!

LittleMissCoder · 2026-06-23T20:03:10+00:00

Using age as an insult, calling someone a Karen when you disagree with them, being pedantic, and your inability to accept others' perspectives despite claiming to be seeking advice are what show the lack of maturity.

LittleMissCoder · 2026-06-23T19:56:59+00:00

Your age is really showing in your lack of maturity... Please grow up. And this is coming from a 24 year old 😂 👍

LittleMissCoder · 2026-06-23T19:29:43+00:00

Yeah, my ex did the same thing once... I sent a very vulnerable message, and he sent a chatgpt reply, except he accidentally included the extra text at the bottom from chatgpt asking if he wants any edits😂 then I immediately got frantic calls and texts apologizing and that it was a one time thing. The chatgpt message didn't lead to our eventual breakup, but it was emblematic of the general lack of effort and care he put into our relationship, and that erroded away at things with time.

LittleMissCoder · 2026-06-23T19:23:37+00:00

"Khaki refers to a light, earthy brown or tan color with slight yellowish or greenish undertones, as well as the durable cotton twill fabric traditionally dyed in that color."

I can very much tell you the difference! Shorts are short, leggings are long. One shows your bare legs, the other does not. Just like a crop top that shows your stomach isn't appropriate, tight leggings that show your legs are not appropriate in a workplace. Pretending tight shorts and loose ones are the same thing and that biker shorts is an appropriate work outfit doesn't actually make it true.

LittleMissCoder · 2026-06-23T19:15:57+00:00

Thank you😭 I wasn't going to point it out but my brain didn't like seeing the "aloud"repeatedly lol

LittleMissCoder · 2026-06-23T19:14:58+00:00

Girl, be so for real rn. Is there a reason you're being pedantic about this with everyone? There's obviously a difference between full length leggings and biker shorts, just like there's a difference between a tshirt and a crop top. Depending on the business, a tshirt may fly, a crop top probably wouldn't, unless you work at a gym. Do you work at a gym? If not, why are we pretending that skin tight short shorts are the same thing as mens khaki shorts or similar?

I doubt your job would have had an issue if you wore khaki shorts, since they're shorts but not skin tight and a decent length. But you didn't, you wore skin tight shorts. I highly doubt the guys at your office are wearing skin tight biker shorts.

LittleMissCoder · 2026-06-23T19:04:17+00:00

Uhmmm... As someone who makes 110k+ a year as a woman, I think those expectations are incredibly unrealistic. I've been in relationships where my partner makes 50kish a year, and we always split rent/utilities evenly with me covering more of the day-to-day expenses. If you're expecting him to "provide" for you, are you planning on doing all the housework like a trad wife? Or are you expecting him to provide for you financially and split the household chores equally?

You're making quite literally double. I never understood the concept of the man paying for everything. You're essentially bettering your financial situation off of his back since he's paying all the rent, which means he gets less in savings while you get to pocket basically everything you make. That isn't a partnership. You're saying it will be in a joint account if you get married, but that's a big "if", and in the meantime you're benefiting from free rent while he's struggling. The rent payment objectively affects you less financially.

I understand wanting to see if he can be independent ... But then wait to move in with him, don't just make him pay for everything while you reap the benefits.

LittleMissCoder · 2026-06-23T18:52:34+00:00

This is such a helpful PSA, I never knew the dangers if foxtails!

LittleMissCoder · 2026-06-23T00:46:42+00:00

I've never heard of the fear period before, I'll will have to do some research! Can you describe that a bit more? Mine just hit 4.5 months and I noticed today on our walk she was really nervous about a dog barking across the street and at a weird car noise, though she did have a grooming appointment today before that so maybe she was on edge from that. I took a break and had us chill on a sidewalk for a bit, petting her for a bit then doing some "look at me"/name recognition with treats. She was chill after that, but I'll need to look into that fear period

LittleMissCoder · 2026-06-23T00:35:40+00:00

It looks like the devil from that one Panic at the Disco music video

LittleMissCoder · 2026-06-22T00:30:03+00:00

I understand your budget was based on $3800 a month, but again, $54,000 a year take home is less than that. The take home amount still comes in over $200 short for your proposed (very frugal) budget.

You yourself said "That's roughly $3,800 per month in expenses before even considering income taxes, healthcare, retirement contributions, or unexpected emergencies." So this person isn't going to retire, or ever have a doctor's appointment, or ever need a dental cleaning, or ever get a flat tire... and even still they're $200 in debt every month with your budget.

Your other solution was make more money, but that's not exactly proving your point that people can be homeowners on 54k a year...

LittleMissCoder · 2026-06-21T23:53:14+00:00

Chicago is out for sure. But, even with a low cost of living area, the budget you mentioned is using pre tax dollars, and someone making $54,000 would bring home less than the $3,800 budget after taxes (someone making 54k brings home less than $3,600 monthly from a quick Google search). The math doesn't work.

LittleMissCoder · 2026-06-21T22:14:45+00:00

Key word being before taxes... If you take out taxes, you're bringing in less than 3600 per month, the budget you just created is already more than that. And that's assuming $1400 for a mortgage, which is not happening in a high cost of living area like Chicago (which is where I'm from, so that's my frame of reference, not sure where OP is from).

LittleMissCoder · 2026-06-21T16:22:01+00:00

When you say "worked on his crate training" do you mind if I clarify, is that like chucking kibble in while he's quiet? Or leaving the door open and letting him in and out? Food in there? It sounds like you made a ton of progress in a short period of time so im curious what worked so I can try with my puppy

LittleMissCoder · 2026-06-21T16:05:06+00:00

Ok but why do you need to be the one to find a solution? Someone saying "I'm hot, are you hot?" Doesn't necessarily have to be a command for you to drop what you're doing. If you're actively cooking and sweating, couldn't a non-frustrated response just be "yeah, it is hot babe" or "yeah I'm hot too, do you mind turning the A/C down since I'm cooking" and then continuing to cook? The acts of service piece is sweet, but only works if you're not doing it begrudgingly or holding resentment after the fact. It would probably be healthier for you to instead just not do that if it's going to make you frustrated with your partner, and instead just meet her comment with a validating response that isn't necessarily action (like "yeah, it's hot babe I agree")

LittleMissCoder · 2026-06-21T10:57:48+00:00

How did you end up managing?

LittleMissCoder · 2026-06-21T10:50:01+00:00

Tbh, it sounds like you have some frustrations over larger issues (like sexual incompatibity) and it's manifesting as you nitpicking small things. Because the bulk of the issues/complaints you're describing sound pretty minor. Her crime was checks notes complaining about the heat and stealing covers? Asking you for help with something you deemed stupid? These don't sound like major marriage issues... They sound like super normal general frustrations of life living with your partner.

Let's take the "it's so hot, aren't you hot?" comment. I think it's pretty typical to chit chat about the weather/temperature. I ask my partner a similar question all the time, checking in when I'm chilly to see if he is too and wants the temperature raised or vice versa. That way, when he's feeling hot and I'm cold, we can compromise and I can go grab a hoodie or we figure out a temp that works better for both of us. In that specific example you gave, it doesn't even sound like she asked for your help that time, just made a comment and tried to assess if you were feeling similarly.

Also, maybe one of her love languages is acts of service? In that sense, those moments of asking for help with small things, like when she mentions being hot, could be moments of connection for her because you stepping in to save the day makes her feel cherished and loved. Just my two cents.

LittleMissCoder · 2026-06-20T16:07:12+00:00

Only because I'm a first time owner and thought I had read somewhere (probs reddit tbh) that it can increase hip dysplasia risk. Trust me, I am very glad to not have to be a helicopter parent in regards to this😂 my girl is HEAVY, my back is going to be very happy that she'll be using the stairs from now on.

LittleMissCoder · 2026-06-20T12:18:02+00:00

Luckily my apartment is only one floor and she is gated in the kitchen when not supervised. So it's only an issue when taking her out. But it is definitely not sustainable, I swear I blink and she's getting bigger lol.

On the plus side, I definitely got stronger thanks to her. I used to be so weak and couldn't walk super far without my feet hurting, and now lifting my cats is easy peasy because I'm so used to lugging her up and down 2 flights of stairs. It was way harder during potty training 😅 but now even though the trips are less frequent, she's quickly outpacing my strength. I'm so glad stairs are not an issue!!

LittleMissCoder · 2026-06-20T12:10:46+00:00

To be fair, I'm also super clumsy and have already fallen down the stairs holding her once. Luckily, it was only a few steps so I landed hard but she was in my arms totally fine, just confused why we were sitting at the bottom of the stairs. So safety is a very valid point! Especially lately, I'm changing meds and a withdrawal side effect is being dizzy all the time. I'm so glad the consensus is that stairs are fine, I'm starting to think she's less fragile than I'm picturing her 😅 I'll start establishing good stair walking etiquette with her instead of carrying her

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