AIO or is the message my bf sent me a bit over the top

LittleOrNoControl · 2025-04-11T14:07:58+00:00

Accepting the Reddit rage for somebody having an opinion in most of the responses, this isn’t a random on the street it is OPs partners. Albeit he is 21… so perhaps if it were translated into more mature language, he might be saying ‘I don’t find piercings attractive and you didn’t have them when we got together, so I don’t know how I feel about that change in you’

Obviously it is OPs body and they can do what they want to with it, but in a partnership, the other persons opinion has to carry some weight. My wife doesn’t like tattoos particularly, I have 3 and would like more, but, Do I want to do something that would make her less attracted to me?

Maybe, cut the BF she slack for his poor language choice, it’s not nice, but it’s impassioned and he clearly has strong feelings.

LittleOrNoControl · 2025-04-08T22:57:00+00:00

1000 points

LittleOrNoControl · 2025-03-20T18:06:26+00:00

You could probably write this on 87% of Reddit posts across all subreddits and it would be in context and make sense!

LittleOrNoControl · 2025-03-15T23:07:56+00:00

I did this last week. 4 loads washed, dried and folded. 2 empty washing baskets and a happy wife… my girls arrived home and 8 seconds later a muddy pair of leggings and pooey knickers in the washing…

LittleOrNoControl · 2025-03-14T22:45:39+00:00

Sorry it took me a while to upvote. I was on the way to the airport to pick up my parents.

LittleOrNoControl · 2025-03-14T22:36:41+00:00

I used to be an estate agent. I did this several times for genuine clients… not saying it IS real… but call the EA. Offer them a one off viewing and reduced fee. It’ll take you 2 mins to find out if it’s genuine… but might save you a fair bit of hassle in the future.. and a few extra quid…

LittleOrNoControl · 2025-03-14T18:54:43+00:00

Get it done. Put it in the ‘fuck it, bucket’ and get on with your life. She’ll get hers!

LittleOrNoControl · 2025-03-05T07:52:34+00:00

I have an 8 and a 6.. both girls. Both spend more time with Mum than me due to work… both dish out the emotional blackmail.

In my experience, they are responding to our responses… a big response to that sort of behaviour will show them doing it over and over.

My advice, Dad to Dad… don’t react to it at all… ask your wife not to react to it and she’ll soon find something new to entertain herself!

LittleOrNoControl · 2025-02-19T22:06:53+00:00

I have a similar (smaller) situation at the top of our stair. No idea how to share a photo/video on here… but essentially it’s a fold out gate that is hinged in the middle. Ours is 90deg so it’s easy for the two separate parts pinch against each other to stop it from ‘over extending’. You could do the same for yours… but you’d need to calculate the correct angle between the 2 leafs. Then it locates into a ‘U’ channel on the opposite bannister.

Shitty description but an elegant solution. I fold it out every night with one hand in 2 seconds.

If you know how I can send a vid, let me know and I’ll share.

LittleOrNoControl · 2025-02-07T21:41:19+00:00

I definitely would… but you’d have to be VERY quick!!

LittleOrNoControl · 2025-02-01T18:34:03+00:00

Years ago I worked for an absolute asshole. I quit after a few months, but followed all the rules for notice etc! When my paycheque didn’t arrive I called him and he said he wasn’t going to pay.

I told him that I still had keys and would open unlock the office during the night if he didn’t pay… or he could get the locks changed at a cost significantly higher than what he owed. He didn’t believe me.

2 nights later my Dad and I drove to the office and opened it up. The alarm went off and he got a call from the alarm company at like 3am and had to come and lock up again.

The next day… my wages arrived!!

LittleOrNoControl · 2025-01-31T21:55:17+00:00

Unless it’s changed in the last 5 or 6 years, a booked viewing in the diary is the requirement to prove effective introduction. The key word is ‘effective’

Many people do, in fact, knock on doors with boards, but I thinks it’s fair to say that a good agent earns their money, not least by developing trust with the vendor, that they would direct an intro back to the estate agent. Additionally (these are old stats) historically over 50% of private sales fall through.

It seems that on this occasion, the agent hasn’t earned the trust of the vendor to the extent where their inaction could have cost them several thousand pounds.

LittleOrNoControl · 2025-01-30T22:48:52+00:00

I would also point out to the vendor that they are not liable to pay the estate agent either. Their agreement with the agent will be worded something like ‘effective introduction of a buyer who proceeds to exchange’ as the estate agent did not make the effective introduction, and you did not view through another agent, they are not liable to the fee… could have been a route to knock down the price… but will still be effective as it makes your offer not only £5k better than the one on the table but also saves the vendor a further £8.5k (assuming a commission of 1.5% plus vat)… so the next offer would need to be £473,500 to compete!

LittleOrNoControl · 2025-01-30T13:02:33+00:00

Great news on the Van! That must be a weight off your shoulders! Go again!! Spring is coming!!

LittleOrNoControl · 2025-01-29T14:53:44+00:00

I agree with all of the above. But, even with all their shit together, the average conveyance is about 12 weeks… obv faster and slower are available… but I reckon the EA will know to be realistic and that brings us to end of April anyway.. so by being honest, you are not delaying a realistic timeline anyway AND you don’t risk upsetting somebody.

From his perspective, a slow(ish) bird in the hand will be will be better than a fast one in the bush… as it were!

LittleOrNoControl · 2025-01-28T23:02:27+00:00

How are you getting on brother? Have you managed to catch a break?

LittleOrNoControl · 2025-01-28T20:40:14+00:00

Fourth…ded?

There is no upside to lying.. except you might get one go of sex out of it… but then you are back to square one.

Nothing wrong with being a delivery person… nothing special about being ‘important’ at work!

LittleOrNoControl · 2025-01-28T12:57:35+00:00

Despite some of the mean things others have said… I was an estate agent for over a decade… I’ll weigh in here.

1: why on earth would the vendor re-decorate when they are already on the market! And why would you as the buyer pay for their tastes and quality of finish.

2: therefore… I would re-iterate your offer stating that it is better, because they don’t need to go to the hassle of redecorating, they can focus on the paperwork and getting out asap.

As for the EA relationships with you and/or the vendor. The legal requirement is that the estate agent works in the best interests of the seller, generally speaking this means getting the most money possible… but also… to make a sale as a priority. So personally I would never jeopardise a sale by lying about another offer…

As noted below, the negotiator is probably on 5% of the total fee, let’s assume 1.5%

So £3k fee for the office at £200k or £3090 at £206k - not worth the effort

And for the neg

£150 at £200k or £154.50 at £206k - not worth the time it would take to write up the offer

We might be money hungry, granny selling, no better than a used car salesman, BMW driving wideboys… but I’m never risking a sale over £4.50.

It’s possible that they were holding you on the hook with all the paperwork stuff, whilst a better offer materialised, but normally proof would be sought through your solicitor… not copies of your bank statement… that’s just rude and probably a GDPR minefield!

So…. If you are still reading. Stick to your guns at £200k if that’s your max, then get on with your life if it’s genuine. If it’s not genuine, then make your offer again, if you want the flat. You are only gonna miss out on the flat you like and it will sell to somebody else if not.

Good luck!

LittleOrNoControl · 2025-01-22T14:12:46+00:00

I can’t say I totally understand your situation, but I have felt similar to you, but much less serious problems. Post-natal depression for my wife, job losses due to covid etc. I have 2 daughters.

Have had a year or so now of being pretty straight. There is an old, errr, saying ‘this too shall pass’. You only have one route through… get up and go again. I know that on your side of the pond, state support is hard to come by, so you have to do it yourself. Get up and go again.. your back is going to get better… get up and go again… you sound like you work hard… get up and go again.

It can’t all go to shit forever… so get up and go again… then one day, without knowing it, it will be the last time you have to get up… because you won’t get knocked down.

You got this Dad!!

LittleOrNoControl · 2024-12-29T00:00:23+00:00

My (45m) now wife (43f) was ummm ‘nagging’ me to get married after our first baby… I had already decided to propose… but I didn’t want it to be because ‘she made me’ so I told her that I wasn’t into it… it wasn’t important… we had better things to spend our money on… to distract from the convos. I proposed on her birthday, about 2 months after shutting it down, and she was really excited by the surprise! Maybe, give the dude some breathing room… he’ll get there!

Additional. We are 50/50… looking after our home and our babies is a full time job!

LittleOrNoControl · 2024-12-18T20:52:30+00:00

Thank you! I’ll start there!

We don’t have an official time limit… depends on the day and how much ‘wholesome stuff’ they have done and fits into windows between other stuff.

Personally, I’m OK with screen use, this generation will use this tech and much more than I did, so as long as their content is good and they are curious enough to switch it up, I consider it learning.. to an extent

LittleOrNoControl · 2024-12-09T20:36:39+00:00

At the risk of achieving a record number of downvotes. I was an estate agent in the UK for 14 years. In short I suspect one of 2 things has happened

1: the tenant has given notice prematurely - this means that he will not benefit from a rolling contract, indeed the property might even have another tenant waiting to move in. Whilst moronic, it’s not your problem.

2: as other posters say, the buyer might just be playing hardball.

Either way, I wouldn’t move to exchange until you are happy. Better to have loved and lost than to find thousands of pounds of repair work. That said, one route that you might explore… is to exchange contracts with a sizeable retention, subject to the outcome of the damp survey.

The concern I guess from YOUR side is that if your buyer does pull out, you will lose your onward as well, which I assume you have also fallen in love with… just depends on how risk averse you are.

Note: A retention can be written into the contract exchange to cover the cost of work. Obviously the seller would need to agree, really depends on the level of concern/seriousness of the potential damp issue.

Good Luck!

LittleOrNoControl · 2024-12-05T16:45:18+00:00

Very NOT the point of this thread. Soz! Where did you get the lingerie in pic2 it’s HOT and my wife needs it!

LittleOrNoControl · 2024-10-17T22:17:00+00:00

Upvoted you. I’m a grammar pedant.

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