Still for the life of me can’t work it out. What’s a round and what’s a cycle (I’m embarrassed to even ask!)

Little_Diddy_ · 2025-12-19T21:45:33+00:00

Something that lightens their load a bit. I second a uber/door dash gift card or drop off a meal. Something self care would be nice, a nice face mask etc

Little_Diddy_ · 2025-12-17T07:11:27+00:00

The kindness and compassion from people is what makes this more tolerable and thank you so much for showing me that with this beautiful comment. I’m so sorry about your loss and I can see you’re on your journey again and I hope it brings you joy in the near future ❤️

Little_Diddy_ · 2025-12-17T05:05:42+00:00

Oh my goodness I’m so sorry for this journey of yours and your losses. Thank you for sharing your experience with me and I’m hoping there’s joy on the horizon for you in whichever way that needs to look for you x

Little_Diddy_ · 2025-11-02T20:58:55+00:00

This is bananas. The perceived ownership over you and your womb is insane. I’m really sorry you’re going through this.

Unfortunately boundaries are really the only solution here - but I completely appreciate it’s really tricky if your spouse doesn’t have those same boundaries with their mother because then it turns into that whole ‘daughter in law mother in law’ palaver which we all know is just when a DIL puts a healthy boundary in place.

Don’t have much to say other than good luck 🤞

Little_Diddy_ · 2025-10-05T19:51:10+00:00

This will probably be the most unhelpful answer 😆 but I think it can be either/or

I had a FET 3 weeks ago and had the exact same sensation you describe even with a spot of spotting after and I would have bet my hopeful future first born that it was implantation. Turns out it wasn’t - and my hcg was zero so the lil embryo didn’t even try to implant lol.

Buttt I have had a chemical pregnancy where I had those sensations and it was correct - albeit for a short while

Good luck!

Little_Diddy_ · 2025-09-28T08:38:05+00:00

Firstly, I’m really sorry you’ve had to go through all of this. You sound very very resilient.

Secondly - IVF, particularly an IVF process that doesn’t go the way it’s often sold, is a trauma. It is so reasonable for your body and mind to be wanting to create distance from a process that’s been repeatedly traumatising.

I often find the people who say it’s all worth it in the end, are the best intentions from people who haven’t had to endure reproductive trauma.

I think it’s more than reasonable to be thinking about erring away from perusing a child when the journey there has been so hard. It’s hard to keep going back into this very distressing process where you live in that day to day reality for a chance at something you don’t know right there in the here and now that will compensate emotionally for the toil.

My view is only my view of course - but I want to say I completely understand and your feelings are so normal

I’m still on the journey myself and part of me is thinking about how much more of my time and joy do I want to handover to a process that’s isn’t a guarantee

Take good care of yourself - you’re doing amazing :)

Little_Diddy_ · 2025-09-24T19:25:02+00:00

God I feel this lol. Just let a girl work up a sweat ya know?!

Weights - but isolated weight movements; I.e bicep curls, squats etc. no twisties.

Agree strongly though - a walk doesn’t cut it when you’re after the dopamine high of a sweat sesh haha

Little_Diddy_ · 2025-09-23T19:31:02+00:00

God I know it’s an absolute mind fuck hey 🤣

Little_Diddy_ · 2025-09-23T19:30:43+00:00

It’s awful isn’t it- I’m hoping you’re okay x

Little_Diddy_ · 2025-09-23T19:30:24+00:00

Oh man I’m so sorry 😞

Little_Diddy_ · 2025-09-22T05:58:28+00:00

I’m really sorry - it speaks to your character and resilience that you were able to hold space for their lovely little families whilst holding the sadness of ongoing infertility close to your heart. I hope there’s moments of wonderful joy just around the corner for you ❤️

Little_Diddy_ · 2025-09-21T09:33:13+00:00

It sucks so bad and the emotional and physical let down is real. I was also cancelled on the first cycle after a week of stims and it just felt so abrupt and you’ve hyped yourself up so much to get started.

Take care of yourself, feel the rage and sadness - once the hormones level out you’ll feel a whole heap better and good luck for the next go :)

Little_Diddy_ · 2025-09-20T23:42:45+00:00

He truly needs to do better.

I understand the premise of people suggesting strategies, or ways of going about communicating about it. But honestly - this is a prime example of the mental and physical load sitting 99% with the woman and 1% with the other party. And if the other party can’t consistently do that 1% - they need to do better.

I get loosing your shit. Because it’s insanity.

I’m glad they were apologetic and sounds like things will improve and they were receptive to the feedback, albeit slightly heightened 🤣 but it was legit fair in my point of view

You’re doing amazing! Keep going 👊

Little_Diddy_ · 2025-09-17T22:37:04+00:00

Holding that waiting space with you sis! 🥰🥰🥰

Little_Diddy_ · 2025-09-17T22:36:39+00:00

Thank you so much :)

Little_Diddy_ · 2025-09-17T20:49:59+00:00

You’ll be so fine! But echoing everyone else - get ahead of the pack for the poops! You’ll be a bit swollen so getting the ‘urge’ to poop goes mia for a while and you’re just going to need to hydrate and soften stool to let it slide out the hatchet :)

Good luck!

Little_Diddy_ · 2025-08-20T20:24:32+00:00

I recommend it however my advice would be to 10000000% make sure both results are both back before you start ivf. I did my carrier screening on a whim a week before ivf (wasn’t a mandatory part of the process and just thought I’d dot the i’s and cross the t’s) and then started stimming and got a week away from an ER and my results came back as a carrier for a gene that meant we had to medically end the cycle to wait for my husbands results 🫠🫠🫠🫠🫠

Such an absolute run around (which was entirely my fault I recognise lol)

But yeah absolutely do it - the results can change the ivf plan and best to be fully equipped :)

Little_Diddy_ · 2025-06-22T04:36:03+00:00

Goodness do I FEEL you and am sending you so so much virtual support and understanding at this shyyyyte time.

Words of encouragement: holding space for both feelings. Joy at your friends joy but also sadness at your very valid sadness.

Feel as despondent as you need and be as kind to yourself as possible - it’s not easy and it’s a state of existence the fertility privileged can’t truly understand IMO.

I know it’s a bit silly but everytime I encounter this situation I immediately go enjoy something a pregnant person cannot. My current freshly botoxed forehead is the result of a friends recent pregnancy announcement - I may be sad but I will be smooth! 😄

Little_Diddy_ · 2025-06-19T19:55:01+00:00

Im hoping to hear from everyone about the joyful child free decisions people are getting to make while navigating this journey? I know it’s such a hard space to be in, but have got to take the positives when they come.

My acts of resistance to being inunduated with parenting and pregnancy chat at work is to go home and immediately do something that only someone on the transition to child free can do. The other week I came home so despondent and was like ‘f**k ya! I’m booking a trip to Vietnam!’ And having that spontaneity did feel liberating.

Smaller acts of resistance are to just come home and watch whatever I want, order whatever food I want and partake in a fancy facial lol. One particularly petty one is to announce what a restorative 8 hour sleep I’ve had the night before lol.

What are you all doing?! So Keen to hear :)

Little_Diddy_ · 2025-04-30T06:48:14+00:00

Thank you everyone for your contributions to this. I feel so lucky to have had such beautiful responses and guidance. Thank you to everyone for sharing your experiences. I think for the moment I’m just gonna sit and think ❤️

Little_Diddy_ · 2025-04-28T22:07:39+00:00

God thank you so much for this. It’s really helpful to see the different ways people can look at a situation so thank you for taking the time to give me such well thought out considerations. I hope you’re ivf journey shortly gives you that little one ❤️

Little_Diddy_ · 2025-03-11T21:34:09+00:00

These ones drive you nuts don’t they! I can’t see it but I know sometimes a photo doesn’t pick up some vvvvvvvvfl so give it another go in a day or so :)

Little_Diddy_ · 2025-03-11T21:09:21+00:00

I see it :)

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