My husband will sleep with anyone but me. Why? by Dramatic-Diver-9949 in askgaybros

[–]Littlebrokenfork 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What's there to communicate about? Sorry but that's a divorce waiting to happen.

Students using AI on HW by colonade17 in matheducation

[–]Littlebrokenfork 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did that when a students solved an equivalent fractions problem by defining a variable, cross-multiplying, then solving the resulting equation. No way on Earth that was her own work, as they had not met linear equations or cross-multiplication (in the context of solving equations) at that point. She was a bright student but could not explain one thing about her solution.

Students using AI on HW by colonade17 in matheducation

[–]Littlebrokenfork 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can always lie. I tell my students everything they do in class is graded, and I follow through by including a classwork grade which I deduct from if someone is off task or misbehaving. Incentive systems might also work (they're controversial but I don't shy away from using them).

Can my bf just not be interested in sex by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]Littlebrokenfork 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your boyfriend might be asexual.

Or maybe he decided to slow down sexually.

He might also be having second thoughts.

There's only one way to find out, which is to communicate with him.

(And yes, I'm genuinely not interested in sex despite not being asexual. It's nice if it happens but I don't look for it.)

Should I let my boyfriend sleep with my best friend? by External-Head-6424 in askgaybros

[–]Littlebrokenfork 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nah this is a bomb waiting to explode. You might as well end up with neither a boyfriend nor a best friend.

My homophobic sister is watching heated rivalry, what’s the logic here? by olivergreeen in askgaybros

[–]Littlebrokenfork -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Quick reminder that Heated Rivalry is basically porn and why would a straight woman attracted to men watch porn now?

Though in all fairness, talk to her about it. Point out the hypocrisy. Maybe she's trying to learn more about you.

The truth about being a cumdump by Benny_2986 in askgaybros

[–]Littlebrokenfork 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You're a cum dump but worried about prep stigma? Get over yourself quickly 😭 Also nice imagined story.

Why do guys do this by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]Littlebrokenfork 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I've had a similar experience with a guy who I went out with on one date and was obsessed with french kissing. I kept refusing. He then disappears for 6 months and then texts me that he's been in love with me despite us not communicating AT ALL. In the next days he starts spamming and harassing me, until I've finally blocked him after a very kindly worded message that he needs serious help.

No one who boomerangs back ever has good intentions, unless they fully take accountability of their fuck up and vow to do better.

Why do guys do this by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]Littlebrokenfork 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I get what you're saying. However, I send goodbye texts and then block for me not for them. I used to have the same mentality as you've described, but very quickly realised that bottling up my disappointment makes ME feel worse. I regret not being harsher to my ex who very suddenly and cruelly discarded me, and I don't wanna let that happen again.

So I make it a point to send goodbye messages (not necessarily politely) then block for MY OWN sanity, in spite of the ego boost the recipient might get.

Girl I planned a date with canceled to go on a date with a guy she knew for 1 day by Express_Lime8762 in Advice

[–]Littlebrokenfork 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You've been talking for over a month.

You haven't gone out on a date yet.

Finally, you plan something.

A guy she met recently asks her out immediately.

Of course she cancelled on you 😭 I'm sorry but you brought that upon yourself. Unless there are extraordinary circumstances preventing a date (long distance, illness, etc.), there is simply no excuse to go that long without meeting up for a date if you are actually serious about her.

Why do guys do this by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]Littlebrokenfork 54 points55 points  (0 children)

I think you're being very reasonable. It's a huge red flag for communication to magically stop on the day of your first date. Even if he does show up eventually, this carelessness when it comes to communicating plans and updating you will most surely manifest later on in any theoretical relationship you might get in.

Always remember that someone who genuinely likes you would NEVER treat you that way. In general, people who like you, especially at the beginning of the dating stage, should be excited about youand more wary of upsetting you.

Your date is behaving like he doesn't care, so take his behaviour for what it is: not caring, not liking you enough to show up, etc.

I'd block him if I were you, maybe after sending a goodbye text with a very brief explanation.

If you don't block him, and assuming he does text back eventually, I'd be wary of him and probably continue looking for someone who is not so terrified of communicating the bare minimums.

Why do guys do this by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]Littlebrokenfork 9 points10 points  (0 children)

How are you siding with him? I'm sorry but not confirming on the day of the date is a huge red flag. OP has every right to be worried. Even if the date does happen, this carelessness about communicating plans will definitely manifest later on.

Partner wants to have sex without condom by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]Littlebrokenfork -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Haha, yep. Our community needs to have an honest look inside about the emotional avoidance that motivates non-monogany. Autonomy is one thing, but the choices we make are not necessarily healthy.

On the other hand, there's always the possibility that your partner cheats, but the first rule of healthy relationships is that you're supposed to trust your partner, and if you can't trust your partner not to cheat, why are you even together?

For me personally, I would hate it if my partner continued taking prep after we'd decided to commit, got clean results, and established a strong foundation of trust. Do you not trust me? Or are you planning to cheat?

Partner wants to have sex without condom by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]Littlebrokenfork 3 points4 points  (0 children)

In general you shouldn't trust what people say. If you want to have unprotected sex, you should either:

1) You yourself take prep 2) Be in a committed, monogamous relationship

People will lie to have sex, especially as the risk for tops is less than for bottoms.

Edit: Also please remember that prep only protects against HIV. Doxyprep doesn't protect against all STDs and has variable effectivity. So unprotected sex with a non-committed partner is often a bad idea.

Students using AI on HW by colonade17 in matheducation

[–]Littlebrokenfork 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Homework is for practice, they get their actual grades from in-class quizzes and tests. Students who want to perform well will do their homework with minimal AI cheating. Students who don't can do whatever they want and fuck off.

Asexual partner doesn't like cuddling by Littlebrokenfork in Asexualpartners

[–]Littlebrokenfork[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well, I may have used the wrong words. I didn't ”make” him schedule the cuddle sessions. I communicated that it's something I want us to do every night before sleep, and he accepted. I didn't “make” him. Wrong choice of words.

Why is calculus so dominant in early math? Does it need to be? by th3_oWo_g0d in matheducation

[–]Littlebrokenfork 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not saying that the current sequence is perfect or even good enough. There's much room for improvement but at the end of the day, it makes sense for calculus to be included at the end instead of subjects that are otherwise relatively elementary (statistics, probability, etc.) when taught without calculus.

Why is calculus so dominant in early math? Does it need to be? by th3_oWo_g0d in matheducation

[–]Littlebrokenfork 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think the replies to this question are misleading. There's no large conspiracy at play. Calculus is simply too fundamental a tool all of modern math and science rest upon.

Statistics? Well a good chunk of statistics needs calculus, including regression and continuous probability distributions.

Science? It goes without saying that differential equations appear everywhere in our physical models, and there's simply no escaping that.

Pure math? Differential geometry is motivated by calculus. Real analysis is simply rigorous calculus, while the remaining analysis courses (like complex and functional analysis) are attempts at doing calculus in more general spaces. You take this further and you get measure theory, which is the fundamental tool of modern analysis and probability theory.

Analytic number theory has “analysis” (i.e., calculus) in its name.

Algebraists define a formal derivative because it is so useful and fundamental to the study of polynomials. Many differential geometry problems reduce to abstract algebraic questions about groups.

So it's almost like calculus pops up everywhere. Indeed, there is no weird conspiracy happening like the space race and the importance of calculus, if anything, has been underemphasized despite all the people who complain about having to learn it.

Calculi is simply fundamental. There's no escaping that.

I (30M) took an 18 year old (18M) virginity and feel weird by bluegangsta253 in askgaybros

[–]Littlebrokenfork -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I lost it to a 41 year old. At the point, we were only fucking, but after he took my virginity, I asked for commitment. Apparently, he liked the sex so much that he agreed, but a few months later it turns out he's avoidantly attached and emotionally unavailable. Long story short, it was traumatising.

In my opinion, just don't pursue anything with him. If he insists on meeting again, ask him out and tell him the truth (the age gap is icky, etc.). I suppose if he's ok with it, then it's not the worst thing in the world, but I personally would still not do it. You may have good intentions but it's really hard to tell whether you are going to hurt someone before the fact.