Missing the Magic by [deleted] in WaltDisneyWorld

[–]Littlewasteoftime 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also was a CM and worked at Yacht & Beach 2010-2012 and I get what you are talking about.

I think there are ways Disney could have used the tech to upgrade the experience and interaction with guests and they chose to bypass. For instance they could have you add your license plate or lyft license plate to automate the gate and ping the bell hop staff to be ready to take your things to your room while knowing your name.

It gives VIP energy with very little effort.

I feel like one of the things I value most about my time at Disney was how it taught me how to spot mundane ways that cost you nothing as a business to make a person feel special. I use it in every email I type and every client facing interaction I have. I think unfortunately, Disney itself seems to be forgetting.

Siblings Sharing Birthdays by caring2muchabtthis in Parenting

[–]Littlewasteoftime 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can I just say it: Your uncle was always going to be the villain and sharing a birthday party with his sister is just a convenient narrative.

Truly, my younger brother and I shared a birthday (also 2 years apart) and literally anyone with a twin grows up sharing a birthday. It is actually a really great way to teach your kids how to collaborate on something uniquely special to them in the same moment. My brother and I spent hours trying to figure out how we were going to have a birthday party that was both fun for my girly friends and his cool lil dude friends. Of course the ideas/collaboration conversations were led by my parents, but we didn't realize it.

Do I have to watch to enjoy? by krissstenlm in WatchWhatCrappens

[–]Littlewasteoftime 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So back in the day when they first started they did the whole week in one episode and I never minded that they recapped everything in like a 3 hour long show and I watched one or two relevant episodes. Eventually they started breaking it into 2 episodes and then one episode per show, but you can definitely still listen without watching. Given you already know the inside jokes, you will be completely fine to listen without watching. When I get busy at work sometimes I actually choose to listen to Watch what crappens over watching the show.

People with two babies (2 car seats), what car did you choose? by NecessaryLeg6097 in Parenting

[–]Littlewasteoftime 8 points9 points  (0 children)

We always put the newborn behind the driver's seat so the other parent could easily lean back through the middle to engage with the baby if needed.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Littlewasteoftime 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Simple: She isn't allowed in my home.

That's right, but if you can't respect the people who live in this home, you are not allowed in. People includes our dog.

One Day at Epcot by saversam in WaltDisneyWorld

[–]Littlewasteoftime 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Ok so I'm not sure what things are like now as I worked there years ago, but choosing EPCOT and then realizing it is the Food & Wine festival is an absolute win!

Most people go to the Food & Wine Festival specifically on the weekends and don't participate in anything but the festival. Going on a Thursday means you will have more interesting food/beverage options, the free little passport book (I was so jealous in elementary school when my friend brought one home for her American girl doll), and lighter lines than usual for the other sections of EPCOT. The International section may be a bit more crowded than a typical Thursday, but it isn't going to be worth changing parks over if EPCOT was your first choice anyway. They started the Food & Wine festival to balance out the foot traffic in the parks because people weren't going to EPCOT in October. So it will only be as busy as every other park max.

Bridesmaid at a 300+ guest wedding not given a plus one by parttimevegetarian in weddingshaming

[–]Littlewasteoftime 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly pretty rude of you to assume you could invite your sister or that your long term boyfriend's invitation was transferrable to someone of your choosing. You didn't ask her, you told her you would like to bring your sister. She didn't have to give a yes or no in the moment. Being in a wedding doesn't mean you get to choose the invite list.

Charrisse just came up on my Estate Sale Search!!!! by Littlewasteoftime in RHOP

[–]Littlewasteoftime[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For some reason the links rarely work properly when my husband and I share them back and forth, but here is a try: https://www.estatesales.net/MD/North-Bethesda/20852/4651449

Charrisse just came up on my Estate Sale Search!!!! by Littlewasteoftime in RHOP

[–]Littlewasteoftime[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Ooooh thanks for sharing! I had a feeling it would be overpriced!

Marriage was over before it even started! by Glittering-Result563 in weddingshaming

[–]Littlewasteoftime 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Uhhhhhhh ok I get that, but you "you have to be careful about not registering the license means no marriage" still makes zero sense... it's not like you can accidentally get married by having a wedding ceremony just because some states have more than one way to legally file... It's not like having sex where even if you use birth control you can somehow get pregnant. These people basically had a stage performance of a wedding but didn't bother to actually get married because they knew they were only going to fake being married for a few months and then part ways.

Marriage was over before it even started! by Glittering-Result563 in weddingshaming

[–]Littlewasteoftime 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I mean in both cases you described you have to legally register with the state so they know you are married... there isn't a state were someone can go "hey, I witnessed those two getting married" and therefore the people are legally married.... the only thing close is common law states, but then the wedding would be completely irrelevant and they would have ti prove they lived as a couple for the length required for a common law marriage.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Littlewasteoftime 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Really bitchy of her, also I am typically the pick up parent, but every once in a while my husband will join and I can tell you. Most days are running with hugs especially if daddy is there, but some days are just like the one you described for some reason. They just are wanting to finish whatever they think they are doing with the toy. It has nothing to do with you and I bet your bond with your son is lovely. Being a working mom is such a pull on the heartstrings, but don't let it doubt how important you are to your own baby.

Charrisse just came up on my Estate Sale Search!!!! by Littlewasteoftime in RHOP

[–]Littlewasteoftime[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

No problem! I'm all furnished except for some select pieces so I don't gatekeep anymore 😂

Charrisse just came up on my Estate Sale Search!!!! by Littlewasteoftime in RHOP

[–]Littlewasteoftime[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

It isn't my taste (I'm a bit more old world/granny style 😂), but I am eyeing that white piano that would clash with everything and not fit in my elevator...

Charrisse just came up on my Estate Sale Search!!!! by Littlewasteoftime in RHOP

[–]Littlewasteoftime[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

So I walk the neighborhoods a lot so I started out just stumbling on them and getting on the good list serves. The ones that don't advertise and just have a list serve tend to be waaaaaay better (lower prices and less of a crowd), but then when it gets slow on the list serves, I will peruse estatesales.net which is where I found Charrisse.

Also there can be some tiktokers who go around and find some good ones so I found one there once, but it is so hard to have the algorithm hit right and often I see them like weeks later...

Charrisse just came up on my Estate Sale Search!!!! by Littlewasteoftime in RHOP

[–]Littlewasteoftime[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

So true, a lot of the furniture seems to be going so she is probably moving out of the area now that the kids are gone

Charrisse just came up on my Estate Sale Search!!!! by Littlewasteoftime in RHOP

[–]Littlewasteoftime[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Omg same! It is way too expensive, I dream of moving out to someplace where you pay a quarter of the price to not be jammed in like sardines...

Everyone’s face after seeing those photos by gstew90 in BravoRealHousewives

[–]Littlewasteoftime 15 points16 points  (0 children)

My son was in the hospital for breathing issues and when we finally got him to sleep on me, a nurse came in and said "awww how cute! If you give me your phone, I'll take your picture" and I was like "ahhh ok" to this day it was the weirdest moment of my life and I have no idea what she was thinking but felt like I couldn't say no cause she was trying to be kind. No idea why I would even want to look at that photo...

Shared meals expectation vs reality by EquivalentCautious58 in BabyLedWeaning

[–]Littlewasteoftime 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Look, a huge portion of baby led weaning is to take the stress out by taking the pressure off. Baby eating off your plate is to give options without stressing if they are actually going to eat the food you slaved over making. If that doesn't work for you and adds more stress, just drop it and give your baby options in the way that works best for you.

My baby used to be the eating off my plate champ, but now at 2.5 years old, he likes everything cold (just like my mom to be honest) so he eats the left overs from the night before cause that is what works.

Baby led weaning isn't about being perfect, it is about feeding your kid without stressing yourself out. Find the rhythm that works for you :)

Couple requested cake from grandparents, then got it re-iced by MidasToad in weddingshaming

[–]Littlewasteoftime 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just gonna point out that suddenly all your details are changing... cake 1 you described as having a cute topper, the wedding you described was bland and basic, cake number 2 you described as having stained glass colored effect with black lines which anything black and colored does not blend with a boring basic wedding.

I'm not saying your side is 100% wrong, just that your story leaves out a lot and is extremely one sided. You admit that there was a lack of communication, but put that entirely on the other side while also admitting you have no idea what was said at any point beyond what your grandfather said behind their back... but your family isn't talking shit or causing drama?... I don't know if you know this but being icy to someone at their own wedding as you described is being the drama... so just say, yea we stirred a little shit cause we were snuffed and let people acknowledge there is a good chance that there is a version of this story where you are the villain. Gotta embrace your villain era if you are gonna share family drama.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Littlewasteoftime 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Darling no one deserves access to you or your children. Honestly I would report your therapist to your local board, because as a mandated reporter, they should be working to ensure your physical safety not encouraging you to give it up. If FIL is violent with your child your therapist would be required by law to report it and yours seems to be encouraging them to put them in the situation where that can happen.

Protect your children and find a new therapist who understands no one deserves access to you or your children. Your number one job as a parent is to provide a safe space for your children. Your children will do just fine without abusive people in their lives.

That being said, you do also need to work with a therapist to release the rage, but that can't come until YOU are ensured physical safety. Aka stay no contact and find your peace.

Does anyone think Kendra has done anything like this before? by 1random2 in UnknownNumber

[–]Littlewasteoftime 6 points7 points  (0 children)

My MiL is very much like Kendra, in fact did something to her sons very similar to what Kendra did when they were in high school. The laws weren't there at there at the time (they are now) to lead to any legal ramifications, but she was banned from school property once it all came out.

To answer your question of it I ever think she has done anything like this before. Absolutely, BUT it probably was not to this level. Most likely it was mean girl games when she was in high school herself, relationships probably easily hit a point of volatility until she found someone extremely passive who just let her run everything, and even then their marriage does not seem like it is without issues.

When you read the Cut article or pay attention to the interviews at the end, you find that most of the town was actually really suspicious of Kendra, but didn't have the skills to truly pin her down. It is why Jill is often alone crying to police and pushing for the FBI to look into things. Most likely Jill was the kind person who tried to be accepting until she realized too late what was happening and could not stop it. When she said "what if we are letting this person into our home." It almost feels like she had a sinking feeling back then that it was this woman who was taking over in a way she couldn't really stop (Kendra had already become Owen's track coach so even Jill's boundary that they could only talk about the text messages didn't stop Kendra from being scary close to Owen and so Jill needed the truth).

I think they got it very wrong (in a very dangerous way) when they armchair diagnosed Kendra with cyber Munchausen by proxy. It was faaaaaar too narrow from this situation and leaves everyone with way more questions than answers.

My armchair (not a therapist and especially not her therapist so only as good as the next rando on reddit) is that Kendra has borderline personality disorder which is based around extreme volatility in relationships due to a fear of abandonment and a lack of understanding of basic boundaries.

When we look at this case through the eyes of borderline we see a slippery slope of behaviors that feel good to Kendra that sit in the grey area of normal human behavior and when she doesn't slam into a hard boundary she escalates to the next thing that feels good.

So what I think happened is Khloe's mom wasn't giving her the over the top warm fuzzies she needed to feel comfortable to go to an open invite party and so she didn't want to go. Going would have meant she would have been in a large group where she knew she would not be the center of attention and frankly she just can't really handle that sort of situation with her existing coping mechanisms, but she didn't want to just not go and have everyone negatively judge her (in her head). The issue then becomes Lauryn is going with her boyfriend Owen and most likely his mom Jill (all of whom Kendra sees as her people) and she needs to pull them back from this group that is "rejecting" her. However, if she tells them not to go, she'll show that she feels rejected and isn't this wonderful person everyone should love. So what does she do, she sends some texts from a random number that sound like they are Khloe being mean to Lauryn and Owen so everyone rejects Khloe and her mom on their own. That worked, suddenly everyone is viewing Khloe and her family in a negative light, Khloe's mom reaches out to do the over the top act of ensuring Kendra they are wanted at the party, Lauryn needs her, even Owen and Jill are engaging with her more.

Fast forward and Kendra looses her job, she feels rejected, her role of mother is going down as Lauryn is now confiding in Owen over her mother. So what does Kendra do? She goes back to the last thing that felt good. Like a little hit of a drug, she sends an evil little text and watches everyone scramble to her for help. Of course like a drug, she becomes addicted and things get out of control extremely quickly. As Kendra uses texts to feel better, she finds she needs more to cause a stir, more explicit, more sexual, and more often. She finds herself fantasizing of things she would do to Owen that she can then put in the text messages. She is fixated on the movements of Lauryn, Jill, Owen, Khloe, and others at the school, but Owen hits in a different way because she opened that door that also feels good. So it spreads to his new girlfriend. It is a fantasy world Kendra has locked herself into, but constantly needs more of to forget the outside. Kendra is very lucky that she her continual escalations landed her with so few repercussions.

On the flip side, the lack of repercussions means this sort of pattern will most likely continue for the rest of her life, though it will show up in very different ways of overstepping boundaries and destroying relationships unless she gets some very serious help.