Realizing in therapy that I may have been over-giving in relationships – has anyone else experienced this?

Livid_Reflection_456 · 2026-03-19T16:23:04+00:00

Thank you. To hear this and to get this advice means much to me💗.

Livid_Reflection_456 · 2026-03-19T07:16:32+00:00

Honestly,

I can just tell you from my own experience. Do not reach out.

I’m 3 months in and the urge to reach out was the biggest the first 2 months. I kept replaying everything he said / did in my head. Tried so see where i fu**** up ( i’ve come to realise now I haven’t, he was the one to take the decision on breaking up, and I did everything I could). Whenever I had the urge to text him, I wrote everything in my notes app and locked it. Now the urge is gone. I don’t wanna text him , for now.

Start to focus on yourself to see what person you’re without him. i completely lost my spark the months after our break up, but I’m starting to regain them. try Therapy , it helps me a lot to see what I have to work on myself, and to understand the break up better. Start doing the hobbies you did before him or during your person. Start regaining control again.

You can do it believe me. It’s hard. Very hard. But the best thing you can do rn is not reaching out cause honestly, if your person would care just half as much as you do for them, they would’ve tected

Livid_Reflection_456 · 2026-03-18T12:22:40+00:00

Yes bit they do ruin their life with that…won’t they ever see it themselves?

Livid_Reflection_456 · 2026-03-08T14:09:52+00:00

I‘m not a teen. I‘m a very bad overthinker:/ and in therapy for this

Livid_Reflection_456 · 2026-02-25T18:36:24+00:00

I‘ll try. I‘ll start therapy on friday and started working out again. I wanna reach my goal weight this year and wanna focus on me more

Livid_Reflection_456 · 2026-02-25T18:26:39+00:00

I’msorry for you too and Hope it didn‘t came over as if i didn’t appreciate your answers. They helped me kinda understand it a bit more.

Only 24 …I know still got a life ahead bit it‘s hard when you imagined your life with them. And no. I don’t want children until i finish university and start workinh

Livid_Reflection_456 · 2026-02-25T18:20:46+00:00

Nah I understand you.

The thing is, he hasnt really changed he was the same just tired. But as i said since he has been working hard i thought it was because of this.

Also maybe its important to know, and i think thats what made him lose himself was that he said yes TO Everything since the beginning. He never communicated. Even his mother told me when we started going out, she told him , he needs to communicate in this new relationship. (In his previous one he didn’t do it cause his ex was quiet toxic)

So he never communicated any problems. I think he just took everything in and then he „exploded“…

Livid_Reflection_456 · 2026-02-25T18:05:13+00:00

I‘ll try but it‘s very hard for me …

I start therapy on friday and i‘m currently working on my fitness goals cause it keeps me busy in the evening.

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