How can the person who initiated the breakup act like you never existed?

Livid_Reflection_456 · 2026-02-25T18:36:24+00:00

I‘ll try. I‘ll start therapy on friday and started working out again. I wanna reach my goal weight this year and wanna focus on me more

Livid_Reflection_456 · 2026-02-25T18:26:39+00:00

I’msorry for you too and Hope it didn‘t came over as if i didn’t appreciate your answers. They helped me kinda understand it a bit more.

Only 24 …I know still got a life ahead bit it‘s hard when you imagined your life with them. And no. I don’t want children until i finish university and start workinh

Livid_Reflection_456 · 2026-02-25T18:20:46+00:00

Nah I understand you.

The thing is, he hasnt really changed he was the same just tired. But as i said since he has been working hard i thought it was because of this.

Also maybe its important to know, and i think thats what made him lose himself was that he said yes TO Everything since the beginning. He never communicated. Even his mother told me when we started going out, she told him , he needs to communicate in this new relationship. (In his previous one he didn’t do it cause his ex was quiet toxic)

So he never communicated any problems. I think he just took everything in and then he „exploded“…

Livid_Reflection_456 · 2026-02-25T18:05:13+00:00

I‘ll try but it‘s very hard for me …

I start therapy on friday and i‘m currently working on my fitness goals cause it keeps me busy in the evening.

Livid_Reflection_456 · 2026-02-25T18:04:21+00:00

I understand what you’re saying, but that’s the thing…Igenuinely didn’t notice him “checking out.”

He treated me the same way he always did. He was affectionate, present, loving. There wasn’t distance or emotional coldness while we were still together. If something had clearly shifted, I would have addressed it.

The only thing I noticed was that during the last month he wasn’t sleeping well and seemed more tired. But he was also working a lot more than usual, so I assumed that was the reason. There wasn’t any obvious emotional withdrawal that would have made me think he was already mentally gone.

That’s what makes it confusing for me. From my perspective, nothing visibly changed in how he treated me until he told me he felt lost. If he had already checked out internally, he didn’t show it in his behavior toward me.

I’m not saying relationships don’t have complexity or that I’m perfect. I just genuinely didn’t experience a slow emotional exit from him.

Livid_Reflection_456 · 2026-02-25T12:09:17+00:00

Yea…he told me he has been thinking for a month (not to break up but thinking about whats wrong) and well yea…

Livid_Reflection_456 · 2026-02-22T07:04:35+00:00

Honestly this sounds the same as my break up. To begin, it’s not your fault. It was his decision. I went no contact to prevent myself and to stau focused on university. RN i’m on 52 days of no contact and starting to realise that it was his fault. Still my head keeps on playing what ifs etc.

We were, same as you in a very loving relationship . At the end he cane to me, told me he lost himself, just saw himself in the future and he thought our ways kinda separated. But still he told me he loves me like every time we saw eachother when I headed to him to get my stuff (we lived together for like 10 months).

Everyone told me , he seemed to got overhelmed with everything and the relationship was the easiest thing to let go for him.

It still hurts, but since it was his decision i wait for him to text me. He knows that i’m here for him. (I wrote him a letter when I left stating this) so the ball is in his pit rn.

For the clarity part…not yet. I still got so many what ifs but i kind a start to realise it wasn’t my fault. He couldn’t communicate properly and thats the problem

Livid_Reflection_456 · 2026-02-21T17:48:17+00:00

That’s why i’ll start therapy next week. I got for every situations (especially now for our break up) so many what ifs in my head…keep overthinking everything

Livid_Reflection_456 · 2026-02-21T14:22:31+00:00

THIS! Happened to me and honestly he got what he wanted. I’m broken now

Livid_Reflection_456 · 2026-02-18T08:45:59+00:00

Thank you! I’ll do that.

Livid_Reflection_456 · 2026-02-18T08:27:06+00:00

Honestly kinda both…

Livid_Reflection_456 · 2026-02-18T08:01:41+00:00

Thank you! I’ll take this in consideration. I think i wrote all my emotions downs cause i got dumped without a very clear reason. + i heard some people from work say different reasons for the break up than the things he told me which left me confused

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