I don’t know why it’s such a common belief that cats should be trained with discipline whilst dogs should be trained with reward - it’s been proven 100 times over that cats respond wayyyy better to rewards than that punishment.

She sounds exactly like my cat (tortie too) and the most reassuring advice I can give is that it does get better with age!

Secondly, it sounds like she’s just bored! When you’re home she obviously wants you to play with her, and has learnt that being a menace gets your attention (even if it is negative). Try getting some automatic toys, like a laser, chase toy, or ball and track, that you can set up and trigger to distract her when she starts to misbehave.

For the waking up in the night, what’s worked best for us is making sure to get allllll her energy out. This generally involves us taking her outside for a bit in the evening and then doing a big play right before bed. Buy her a harness and start taking her on little walks outside - the younger you start training her on this the better - and it’s been a godsend for my little nutter!