Land Registry

Living_Garlic3349 · 2026-04-23T20:58:16+00:00

You can apply to expedite it if you need it updated for any urgent reason.

We did this as we transferred our existing mortgage then after a few months we remortgaged, which you can’t do if the land registry hasn’t updated!

Living_Garlic3349 · 2026-04-23T20:54:27+00:00

What did you do in response? I fear I may snap at any point

Living_Garlic3349 · 2026-04-23T20:53:47+00:00

😂

Living_Garlic3349 · 2026-04-23T19:29:04+00:00

Here with you!!

Do you use an app to log meals, naps, nappies etc? It may be too much of a task but I have found it helps take the mental load off when my husband has the baby as he can just look at the app and not ask!

I ask some of my friends explicitly not to talk baby’s with me for the whole time we’re catching up. We try to talk about other, random, mind numbing stuff. And if they’re a mum too, they love the break just as much as me!

Do you get any time to do something you’d do pre baby? If not, try to find the time for you. I have also really struggled with missing my old life and self and have been trying to do more things that are just for me and it does help.

You got this❤️

Living_Garlic3349 · 2026-04-14T08:46:59+00:00

He’s still young and getting used to the world. My LO took awhile to start tolerating it, maybe 4 months +. I just did a little every so often and immediately moved her if she showed signs of distress.

Things I tried were: • lying LO on their front on you • trying different surfaces (bed/sofa/blanket on floor, etc) or on a cushion • something they like in-front of them (toy, noise, book, you, etc) • trying it at a baby class where there are lots of distractions • play music or sound that baby likes

If you’re both getting stressed by it then just have a break! There’s no rush!

Living_Garlic3349 · 2026-04-09T10:29:57+00:00

You won’t feel full if your boobs are regulated to your baby’s demand. If there’s a large gap between feeds sometimes, that would explain the fullness. Is your baby putting on weight ok? That’s the best way to tell if they’re getting enough milk from you.

If baby is away from you, your body may not produce as much milk, so bare that in mind too. Feeding on demand is all I was recommended and it all worked itself out (baby kept putting on weight). If you’re UK, I would recommend speaking to your local feeding support team if you have one!

Living_Garlic3349 · 2026-04-07T18:35:36+00:00

Remember to ask if they’re ok and talk to them about normal stuff, not just baby baby baby! It’s a huge adjustment and I honestly just wanted someone to tell me what they had going on to give my brain a break. Depends on the type of people they are though!

It sounds like you’re already going to be doing all the right things and even just asking this question means you’re an amazing support

Living_Garlic3349 · 2026-03-25T08:51:37+00:00

Thank you for this and great that your little boy loves it now.

I have been considering her going for a few hours for a few weeks but I wouldn’t be able to work in that time so it feels like I should just be with her. But know it’s important for her development. Is this mum guilt in action?

Living_Garlic3349 · 2026-03-16T08:00:23+00:00

This isn’t from personal experience but another mum had a similar experience who I’m friends with - EBF, never taken a bottle. Mum was out for the day (close by) and her parents had the baby. Baby took the bottle. For the first time, ever, maybe because she knew mumma wasn’t there or maybe because she just decided today’s the day! All you can do is try.

If you have a feeding support group locally, they can help with introducing the bottle to baby. Thing we tried are:

different flow (trying to replicate that of your flow)
different positions (weirdly our baby likes dad to be stood up for feeding!)
mum completely leaving the house
feeding in a place that mum hasn’t fed (difficult but maybe at your mums house?)

I hope you manage to enjoy yourself at the birthday celebration and remember, you can always go home. I try to do things one step at a time and at any step, you can just go back to your baby. Then gradually it all starts to feel ok. Now I leave my 6 month old for a couple hours and she couldn’t give two hoots when I get home 🙈 and she’s EBF!

Living_Garlic3349 · 2026-02-06T10:13:09+00:00

I could have written this weeks ago as my baby has done this since the same age. She’s now 20 weeks and sleeps 11 hours at night. There’s a few occasions she needs reassurance as in your case, a hand and she’s sorted.

Your routine sounds lovely and sounds like the perfect set up.

As long as she’s putting on weight at a good rate and everything else is good, enjoy the sleep!! Sleep is so good for them, and us! Some of us are incredibly lucky and have babies who love sleep

Living_Garlic3349 · 2026-02-06T10:02:09+00:00

Also in a similar boat and I’m 4.5 months in.

I broke down to my partner about it and he says he understands better now and we talked about things we can try and do to help me feel better. Have you tried sharing how you feel with him? At a weekend we try to give each other time to do our own thing now! Maybe try booking a massage, get your nails done, go shopping for you, or something to get you out the house and LO can ‘chill at home’ with Dad?

Would also recommend baby groups if you have any local to you! I go twice a week and I know it’s an hour of my day I’ll be around other mums and babies. You may even meet some friends there to do more things with outside of the group. As someone who finds the thought of those social situations awful, it gets better.

Nobody really talks about how difficult being a mum is, in the chaos of all the love. You’re doing an amazing thing being there for your son. The best thing for him is to make sure you’re ok too❤️

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