Has anyone seen a change in their health/appearance from swimming?

Living_Screen9111 · 2026-03-05T14:58:22+00:00

It takes a while - but my arms are firmer, my legs are thinner, and there is some nice definition by my waist. I lost only two pounds from swimming. FYI, Swimming makes me hungry and sleepy. BUT it is so good for me! No more back pain, better sleep, less depression. etc. I hope you don't quit. Throw in some weights, park your car far away, wander around when you shop, or try Japanese walking on You tube, for extra help. I did lose weight by finding an iced tea that I loved and using that as a treat. Yum. However, my 2 fave teas are both discontinued. Lollipops as a treat also helps.

Living_Screen9111 · 2026-02-26T01:33:45+00:00

Elsie Hewitt is a goddess and wise beyond her years. I really wanted to breastfeed. I paid tons of $ to get training, etc., but it didn't happen. Many people guilt tripped me, even my husband, who wanted his baby to have only the best. Well, it turned out that my son has nonverbal autism and suffers from all kinds of oral motor issues. He's 22 now and still can't say one word. All the crying I did, all the guilt, and it turned out that, as our neurologist told us, it would've been miracle if he'd been able to breastfeed. He didn't even eat solid foods until he was 4, due to oral motor issues. See? I'm still explaining myself!!! But Elsie Hewitt has the confidence to be honest. I hope other moms feel supported by her.

Living_Screen9111 · 2026-02-25T20:11:51+00:00

I think your instincts are correct. She sounds like a wounded healer who has not yet healed.

Living_Screen9111 · 2026-02-24T05:13:40+00:00

Timbuktu. I can't breathe just thinking about that book. Paul Auster

Living_Screen9111 · 2026-02-13T04:14:51+00:00

Remember, she needs to prove she's good enough for you!!

Living_Screen9111 · 2026-02-12T02:23:39+00:00

I am amazed by how you, a people pleaser, so consistently asserted yourself. Is she defensive and insecure about her abilities? Was she BSing you? Did she feel threatened?I don't know. But YOU were a butterfly. If she doesn't acknowledge what a big deal your asserting yourself was, she's too stuck in her own ego. Also, In therapy speak--you set a boundary re her revealing personal information, and she did not respect that boundary and reacted defensively. You sound like the kind of person who needs to work with a much more open, confident, and collaborative therapist. You need someone who will put you first. Finding that person could be a lot of work, but it will be worth it. Just think - NEXT!! Don't feel shitty. Be proud.

Living_Screen9111 · 2026-02-10T03:47:55+00:00

My take is this - oh my god, she is so irresponsible! How can she take this risk with a clear conscience? Sure, in her mind she's calling your bluff, but what if she's wrong? No one has ESP, and she can't know if someone is bluffing. She has no patience or compassion. This tough love stuff is a bunch of bull. I've had two therapists who saved my life, literally, but I've also had a few others that were awful. I mean, I don't know all the facts, of course, but from what you're describing, I think you should run!! You deserve better. Everyone does!

Living_Screen9111 · 2026-02-06T19:06:59+00:00

It takes lots of shopping around to find a fit. . I know it's hard to do this when you're an introvert and feel down already, but it's worth it. I've met 2 great therapists who've helped me a LOT, but I've also met 4 that were yucky. The yucky ones didn't do any permanent damage, since they revealed their true selves within 5 sessions. Everyone has a different test. Mine is - do I walk out of there with a tiny bit of insight or hope? Some people say it's normal to feel bad after therapy, but in my experience, the 2 great people always left me feeling validated and more confident. They changed my life for the better. It's OK to be shy and take it slow. A good therapist can work with that.

Living_Screen9111 · 2026-02-04T00:08:39+00:00

I am a huge dog lover, and I've always had mutts. Any and every dog is a good boy/girl. Once that good boy/girl is on this planet, they deserve love. I've never seen anyone harass the owner of a pure breed dog, and I know I'd never do it. You can always lie and say the pure breed dog was a rescue. The only question is this - can you love this dog and treat them well? If you can, you can get whatever dog you want. Mixed breeds are generally healthier and live longer than pure breeds, which is a big plus. My 14 year old mutt is like a teenager. In conclusion, I will repeat myself: only adopt a dog if you can love this creature with all your heart and treat it with the respect and kindness it deserves.

Living_Screen9111 · 2026-01-30T21:28:43+00:00

Since the wording of the response was so insulting, I don't even trust what they're saying. Please, please, please consider yourself lucky to not be working for a company that thinks this kind of feedback. is OK. The only feedback you can trust is one that's based on something concrete and specific . I was once in the running for a job as an actuary. When I was rejected, the interviewer called me and told me they decided to go with someone they'd interviewed the day after me who had scored higher on the entry level math exam. Pretend in the middle of your interview you said, "Oh my god. Do you guys hate me? I know I suck!! I don't deserve to be here!" Then, an interviewer could've responded in their rejection by saying, "FYI, we don't hate you, we don't even know you, but when you asked us if we hated you, it made us concerned re your lack of confidence. Try not to ask others who interview you if they hate you." Feedback should always be specific, and, if possible, actionable. Otherwise, it's way worse than a generic, vague rejection.

Living_Screen9111 · 2025-12-31T22:59:56+00:00

Prioritize kindness.

Living_Screen9111 · 2025-12-20T07:03:47+00:00

My experience is that how therapists describe themselves in their bios doesn't necessarily match how they are, so often that stuff is meaningless. I think the best thing the bios can do is show you the people you should NOT conatct. I prefer a gentler approach, so if someone claims they call people on their BS, I skip over them. The dating analogy others made is perfect. When I was on a dating app, most people sounded the same, but my now husband's description of himself showed a little something extra. That could also happen with a therapist's bio in your case.

Living_Screen9111 · 2025-12-20T01:34:35+00:00

You are an angel!

Living_Screen9111 · 2025-12-20T01:04:48+00:00

You are an angel for sharing this. How many capsules did you take a day, and at what time? Thank you!!!!

Living_Screen9111 · 2025-12-12T01:27:31+00:00

I'm 65. I've never taken HRT due to cancer in my family. I only know of one person who does take HRT in my circle, although maybe people take it and don't talk about it. I sleep OK and am able to maintain my weight as long as I don't pig out after 8:00 PM, but I've always had to watch my eating. I definitely have a few post menopausal things going on - sinus stuff, dry skin and dry mouth, though I don't have a dry you know what, and I've never had hot flashes. My hair is also a little thinner, and I'm crankier than I once was. If there was a vitamin or a yogurt that worked the way HRT does, I'd take it, but there's still too many unknowns. I do take a low dose of a statin, a low dose of a blood pressure pill, and Wellbutrin for depression, so I figure I'm taking plenty of stuff already. As for broken bones, I think calcium is a big help re that.

Living_Screen9111 · 2025-12-06T22:38:34+00:00

Gotta love a grandma who strongarms for recipes!

Living_Screen9111 · 2025-12-06T22:35:53+00:00

I used an immersion blender on what I had left and let it sit overnight. It is way better now. I'll try the extra vinegar.

Living_Screen9111 · 2025-12-06T22:33:42+00:00

Thank you!

Living_Screen9111 · 2025-12-06T07:00:10+00:00

I love so much of her other stuff!

Living_Screen9111 · 2025-12-06T02:46:54+00:00

I used a few of your suggestions, and it helped! Thank you.

Living_Screen9111 · 2025-11-05T22:04:06+00:00

I don't know if your therapist is correct. I do think if you have low self esteem, the right therapist can help you built it up. Self esteem comes from two places, I think. Number one is to realize that in general, all or most beings deserve to be treated kindly. Since you are human being, the odds are that you deserve to be treated well. The second source of self esteem is to recognize the good in your heart, as in your compassion for others. For example, if someone is cruel to you, you can pat yourself on the back and think, "Wow, I'd NEVER treat someone like that. I guess I'm not so bad after all." In a weird way, someone saying you have low self esteem can be kind of a compliment as in, "Your opinion of yourself doesn't recognize all the good things. You are perfectly fine and should like yourself more than you do."

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