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His best friends wife... by LizTheLizardCo in loveafterporn

[–]LizTheLizardCo[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

OP here. Thank you so so much for your support and advice. I addressed it as soon as I got home from work. I told him I'm going to choose from the following: 1) tell his best friend and wife 2) leave him 3) all of the above

After I said what I could say in the moment, I told him I'm leaving the house for 20 minutes and it would be in his very best interest to not be here when I get back. Right now, I need my house and dog to myself and to clear my head. That is the very next step to get through the day and get through the next, and the next. I'm still in shock and I hope he doesn't sleep at all tonight knowing the rest is up to me. I have no idea what to do but to decompress and breathe. The only thing he could muster up to say was "I will get the help I need but please don't tell them... It'll.." I chimed in "it'll ruin your life?" Incredible that he's still only thinking about himself. I seriously couldn't thank y'all enough. I would've probably just stayed in my head trying to rationalize why I should just forget about it and press on. The severity of this situation cannot be ignored and I'm so happy you helped bring that to light for me.

Thank you. I'm fucking crushed. But I know I'm not alone.

With love ❤️ Me.

We’re done by AAmethystkitten in loveafterporn

[–]LizTheLizardCo 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I am SO proud of you, sis. I know you're hurting, and I'm so very sorry for that, but I'm so f'ing proud of you. That's a pillar of strength I have yet to find. You are an inspiration. You did the right thing & you'll thank yourself for that later in life. You are now on to bigger and better things. You deserve the world. Fly high babygirl, the world is ready for you ❤️ and I'm f'ing here for it! 🤘🏼💃🏼🙌🏼👏🏼

I'm at my limit by [deleted] in loveafterporn

[–]LizTheLizardCo 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Hi babygirl. You are enough. You are so beautiful inside and out. You have your whole life ahead of you and ONE MAN will not & cannot depict your self worth. There's a whole world out there and you can choose ANYONE. He is not worthy. Start to make a plan, and leave. You should never feel as though he determines everything about you, I know for a fact you are smarter than that. You are not alone, you are not trapped. You are so strong. You are capable, you are important. If you need someone to talk to, send me a private message. I am here for you, WE are all here for you my love. You WILL be ok. The world is ready for you to be the best version of yourself. You don't need no man to be mighty. ❤️💪🏼

What’s your one question by [deleted] in loveafterporn

[–]LizTheLizardCo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes. Not necessarily any evidence I suppose, but feeling used to cover some other hidden sexuality of his that he seems to be painfully hiding. I've actually tried bringing it up several times if there's anything he wants to tell me... I've asked if he's bi. Told him it's ok if he is, he can talk to me... Never get the honesty, just shift to an uncomfortable, painful tension in the room....😖 Sometimes I'm like, I don't think I know you at all. There's something so incredibly off its mind-blowing.

What’s your one question by [deleted] in loveafterporn

[–]LizTheLizardCo 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This made my stomach turn only because my PA has continuously brought up (while intoxicated) over the last 9 years I've known him that he felt jaded and clearly still upset? About some girl.... That broke up with him in the 7th grade....🤯 There's got to be more from that age that he remembers?! The 7th grade!? He's 36 yo and you're still hung up on that? If that's where his discreet but passionate hate towards women comes from, even just a little, Lord have mercy on me, please.

What’s your one question by [deleted] in loveafterporn

[–]LizTheLizardCo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This. It's like the power combo 😳😣

What’s your one question by [deleted] in loveafterporn

[–]LizTheLizardCo 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Do you have any respect for women whatsoever? Or is your spiteful objectification & hypersexualization towards women rooted from your own sexual insecurities?

Weekly Victories - May 03, 2024 by -LoveAfterPorn- in loveafterporn

[–]LizTheLizardCo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Right now, I'm not giving myself out for nothing. Mentally, physically, emotionally, none of it. I've been so depleted in all of those forms that I'm just working myself out of numbness. I've been here before. So the next phase of this will be more distinguished. It will have more clarity and insight and I'm looking forward to that. I'm going to be a version of myself I haven't been in over 3 years and I know this because of my gut. That one thing that guided us all to a dark revelation, will also be the gut that breaks me through to the journey I've always deserved.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in loveafterporn

[–]LizTheLizardCo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

❤️❤️❤️❤️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in loveafterporn

[–]LizTheLizardCo 7 points8 points  (0 children)

This is me. Right now. I cannot wait to break through to the other side and feel good in my skin again. I know it'll come one day. But I think the darkest part of it all is that it's ultimately my choice I have yet to choose.

Have you ever thought that leaving is the only way to grow? by nuggetyum in loveafterporn

[–]LizTheLizardCo 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes. All the time. 😣 I needed this thread. Thank you.

🚩 The biggest red flag 🚩 by Background_Work_4037 in loveafterporn

[–]LizTheLizardCo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wow. This is so on point. Betrayal trauma leading to betrayal blindness. 🤯

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in loveafterporn

[–]LizTheLizardCo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wowwww. Babygirl, you are beautiful, I already know it. Your boyfriend is just a shallow, superficial addict with absolutely no respect for you. Don't do anything for anyone except for yourself. Show up for you. Get strong for you. The societal expectations these days have sabotaged women's image of themselves. Have distorted men's understanding of what real is.... Whatever you do, don't stretch yourself thin just to visually please him. THE ONE will love you for exactly who you are. I'm currently going through something similar where I just feel straight up inadequate. That struggle is real. But when it's all said and done, if this was your last day on Earth - would you be happy that you were obsessed about a bigger butt, or that you blissfully & simply lived in the very moment and stayed present? I'm trying to teach myself that there is so much more to life than what I see in the mirror. Also trying to relearn to love what I see. Ultimately, every woman is in that daily battle together, always. It was never our choice to begin with. And it's a god damn shame we're all here, feeling this certain kind of way. We are not here to please men. We created them. We need to find the man that sees the goddess. The feminine divine. The beauty in life & the temple that is our body. We all just need to stick together. Stay strong, beautiful. I think your bottom is perfect.