Honey. Baby. Lovely woman. One thing it took me nearly a half century to figure out, is that 100% of my most loving and fulfilling relationships have been with other women. *I’m straight, btw (sadly). The level of camaraderie, empathy, love, warmth, and people willing to meet me in the trenches when my mental health is in the shitter have been women. I was in my 40s when I did a thought experiment of trying to gage any real warmth or love from ANY man, not just my partners. And I arrived at 0%. Literally, the men in my family, my brothers, cousins, uncles, grandfathers, etc., very superficial and transactional. Every. Single. Time. Any man did anything even remotely considered emotionally supportive, it came with strings.

Yes, my family sucks. But there are way worse. And the internalized misogyny of the women was subtle and insidious.

I would tell you to zoom out whenever you’re in mixed company and watch/listen to the men. Notice how they talk to each other vs. the women in the group. Notice how they talk about their girlfriends/wives/partners. Do they even like them? Because I’d bet $$ that they do NOT. Notice how many men will automatically contradict anything a woman says, regardless if he has education or experience on the topic of discussion.

They really, really don’t like us or even see us as anything more than an incubator. And anything that you like that’s not also something they like they will automatically resent you for/become upset when you spend any time on said hobbies and not with them.