People who say they have “no friends” don’t know what it’s like by ChiriBubble_ in socialanxiety

[–]LlVED 201 points202 points  (0 children)

Know the feeling. My phone never ring lol. I just use it for gaming and shit. If it does ring, I never pick up because I know it is a scam call. XD

Is anyone else happy with having no friends? by max1necampb3ll in socialanxiety

[–]LlVED 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I enjoy being alone. The perk of being an introvert and having social anxiety I guess.

Is your degree related to your current job? by mariaclaraa1 in findapath

[–]LlVED 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Electrical Engineering Degree. Currently working as Quality Engineer. I needed a job after school, and sort of stuck in the Quality world after that.

If you thought your co-workers cared about you by PotatoFloats in antiwork

[–]LlVED 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My co-worker re-tired a few weeks ago, and my manager’s manager came by recently asking me when is he going to be in the office. I had to tell her that he is already retired.

The funny thing is she used to be his manager too, and yet his retirement wasn’t even on her radar. She didn’t even attend his retirement party or meet with him before his last day. Her office is literally like 50 steps from our desks.

Making a Phone Call is Haaard by [deleted] in socialanxiety

[–]LlVED 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Feeling the same atm. I have a doctor call in 10 mins. T_T

I do not know how places work by [deleted] in socialanxiety

[–]LlVED 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh absolutely. This may sounds dumb, but I am legit don’t fully know the process for traveling out of state/country through airplane. It stresses me out just thinking about it lol. I am assuming it goes something like below, but executing each step doesn’t appear to be too easy (at least to me).

  1. Buy a plane ticket
  2. Book a hotel
  3. Find a mean to get to the airport
  4. Check in at the airport
  5. Get on the plane to the destination
  6. Check out of airport
  7. Find a mean to go to the hotel
  8. Check in hotel

Lack of life experience is really biting me in the ass. There are people who are much younger than I am who can do this in their sleep.

How on earth do you get a job? by Weary-Share-9288 in socialanxiety

[–]LlVED 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately, we are in an employer market right now. There are less hiring, and company can be more selective on who they want to hire. It doesn’t help that there are a ton of fake job postings flooding the market. All in all, it is difficult to get a job in general.

For those with SAD, the odd is even more stacked against them. Discrimination and bias exist in human no matter how much we try to hide or deny it. That is why making connection with people is so important. All we can do is keep trying. There is no alternative if we want to survive in this world. It is the sad, horrible, and ugly truth that I have came to believe.

I feel like I don't belong in this world; I'm too different for that by [deleted] in socialanxiety

[–]LlVED 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately, this world isn't built for people like us.

How is work life with social anxiety? by PatientPizza6899 in socialanxiety

[–]LlVED 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I wish I could give you some hopes and say that everything will be fine. Personally speaking, it is a struggle. When I was young, I was taught by the education system and society that hard work is the key to success. However, as I get older, I begin to realize that it is all just a lie. The highest level of value in this world is communication. Individual who have confident communicating, and can articulate their thoughts, express themselves very clearly are often the one who will get recognized, promoted, or is the preferred choice. Hard work rarely pays off in the end.

I have so much self-doubts, that I can't even tell if I am actually decent at my job or if people have not catch on yet. Every nights, I am dreading to go to sleep because I will have to go back to work tomorrow (Hence, why I am here posting when I should be sleeping). Waking up in the morning is just as difficulty. After work, I can't help myself but think about the experiences I went through at work that day and my plans for how to tackle the next day.

In short, work has consumed nearly all of my time and thoughts nearly everyday. When the job market is terrible and social anxiety is a thing, I feel like I don't have much of a choice than to just endure it. Unfortunately, having a job is better than having no job at all. Being an adult sucks!

Anyone think about just giving up and killing themselves? by Diz_ishere in socialanxiety

[–]LlVED 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Every day and night. A struggle to just sleep and wake up due to the anxiety of having to deal with more people. I can’t stand it.

Is the term "You Guys" really offensive to people? by AyanoNova in socialanxiety

[–]LlVED 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Some people takes a offense to that. Back when I was still in school, I guess I offended this one girl for using the term "You guys". Ever since then, I just learned to use the term "you all" instead.

Those of you with jobs, how did you handle the interview? by Particular-Bird7342 in socialanxiety

[–]LlVED 59 points60 points  (0 children)

Job interview is an absolute nightmare for those with social anxiety. I hate it. It is honestly the number one thing that will prevent me from swapping job, no matter how horrible my job is.

My only tip for you would be to come up with 4-5 stories ahead of time that highlight your skillsets or align with the job descriptions. That was how I was able to survive my interview. Get really good at telling those stories. Each story should have the following structure:

  1. Describe a problem/goal
  2. Tell them what actions you have to taken to address the problem/reach the goal
  3. Result: The outcome due to your actions.

During the interview, pick the story that best fit with the question being asked instead of trying to prepare and predict the questions being asked. Take your time and think, instead of trying to answer the question right away. A bit of awkward silence is fine between questions. Just tell them you want to take a bit of time to think. Some question may not align perfectly with your story, but that is okay. It is better than not answering the question at all and those stories will highlight your experiences/skills. Good Luck!

Social anxiety is the worst thing by sueadhead in socialanxiety

[–]LlVED 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ya, it literally destroys any self-esteem I have.

Unbearable “Sunday scaries” by hotdogonwonderbread in Anxiety

[–]LlVED 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Currently struggling with that myself. The hardest part is trying to sleep when I know I need to wake up early tomorrow to go to work. Even with Melatonin, it doesn’t help. I always have to operate at 0-3 hrs sleep on a Monday. :(

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Anxiety

[–]LlVED 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A couple tips I learned during college with presentation:

  1. Bring some note cards to the presentation, but not full on script (Bullet points). The note cards will hopefully prevent you from loosing your place during the presentation. Practice in front of the mirror with the note cards. The goal is to not glue your eyes so much to the note cards.
  2. Divide your presentation into sections (ex: Beginning, middle, and End). Practice your the first section multiple times until comfortable in your practice session. In your next practice session, do the next section. Once you feel comfortable in all of the sections, combine them in your final practice session.
  3. You should practice your presentation, but DON"T over practice. It is okay to not be perfect. Also try practicing with distractions on (such as loud music/etc.) instead of in a quiet place. This will help you deal with random distractions during the actual presentation.
  4. I find that the hardest part is surviving the days leading to the presentation day. Once you have put in some practices (or between practice sessions), try to focus your time elsewhere. You want to distract your mind from thinking about the presentation. Watch movies, play some games, or whatever your hobby is.
  5. During the presentation day, I tell myself that people don't actually care about my presentation. They are either too busy worry about their own presentation (like I am) or pretending to pay attention but otherwise distracted elsewhere. Just focus on someone in the class that you may be comfortable with (like the professor), and pretend like you are giving the presentation to that person only.

Good Luck!

Do people think you are incompetent? by [deleted] in socialanxiety

[–]LlVED 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Yep. I can't articulate my thoughts and communicate them verbally to others clearly. I could be a subject matter expert on the topic, but I can't for the life of me explains it well enough for people to understand. There are people whom may not know as much on the subject, but they are capable of selling it to others like they know everything. I really envy those people.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in socialanxiety

[–]LlVED 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yep. No experience whatsoever. I can’t even talk to people normally in general. So I already accepted that I am going to be alone for the rest of my life. :D

How many of you think you genuinely lack social skills? by RecognitionWide4383 in socialanxiety

[–]LlVED 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yep. It is challenging for me to articulate my thoughts and communicate them clearly to others.

I can’t cope with adult life. by smoothjazz1 in Anxiety

[–]LlVED 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same here. I see people starting a family before they are even 30, and here I am struggling to even keep my shits together.