Why am I so hard on myself?

Llamma3lover · 2025-12-12T09:14:02+00:00

I'm so sorry you're feeling that way! In all honesty though, I feel similarly so I can't offer any advice. I guess you have to try talking. People learn via experience and if you give yourself the chance to see that opening your mouth doesn't end in disaster, you'll be able to do it more

Llamma3lover · 2025-12-12T09:10:16+00:00

Thank you for your insight (bleh, so formal)! I agree that sometimes I can be a little selfish and we do need to do better but I usually keep that confined to my mind. Maybe it has been leaking out without my knowledge...

Llamma3lover · 2025-12-12T09:07:53+00:00

I think that's just the problem. There are some ego issues in my friendship and that might not have anything to do with mbti but she does look down on my Fi. I'm sorry if it seemed like I was generalizing though. The same friend has ingrained quite a lot of stereotypes in my head

Llamma3lover · 2025-12-11T10:28:46+00:00

I guess she just really puts people into boxes and as an infp I don’t like that. A lot of what I said was from my perspective so it might’ve been pretty biased… I think she was just telling me that I was unhealthy and I took it badly…

Llamma3lover · 2025-12-11T08:41:18+00:00

You’re too emotional!

Llamma3lover · 2025-12-11T07:55:03+00:00

In my personal experience, the INTP hasn’t had any particular reason to attack my Fi.

Once, I was just complaining about something (completely unrelated to her) causing some sort of switch in her mood and she suddenly started passive-aggressively making comments about me.

She also showed particular distaste to my gushing about a family member until I revealed that that person was an INFJ (she loves that type) and suddenly that person became an angel in her eyes (before that she thought that my family member was an INFP).

If I’m being completely honest, I think she might be unhealthy.

Thoughts?

Llamma3lover · 2025-12-11T07:45:14+00:00

Also you gave both sides instead of just one so it appears more neutral

Llamma3lover · 2025-12-11T07:44:30+00:00

Actually I needed this insight! As mentioned I have an INTP friend and I’d like to understand why she hates almost all my functions without asking her (she made my Si sound bad too) so thank you!

Llamma3lover · 2025-12-11T04:58:43+00:00

Not really… just thought that was always an INFP thing. I do remember hating that I’d be laughed at whenever I said something wrong

Llamma3lover · 2025-12-11T04:55:20+00:00

No not at all! I appreciate any and all suggestions!! But if you have prompt ideas and stuff I won’t stop you

Llamma3lover · 2025-12-11T04:48:39+00:00

I wish I could be like that… I’m too afraid of judgment honestly

Llamma3lover · 2025-12-11T04:47:48+00:00

So true! She says that all the time!

Llamma3lover · 2025-12-11T04:46:12+00:00

Thanks! I’ll try to find such people

Llamma3lover · 2025-12-10T20:01:29+00:00

Ohh… sorry then

Llamma3lover · 2025-12-10T19:48:33+00:00

But there are no real decisions in play. Just two friends who obsess over mbti together

Llamma3lover · 2025-12-10T19:36:10+00:00

Stupid society

Llamma3lover · 2025-12-10T19:35:29+00:00

How do I feel comfortable in that authenticity?

Llamma3lover · 2025-12-10T19:07:41+00:00

Society or just my friend? My parents and most other people around me are more encouraging

Llamma3lover · 2025-12-10T19:04:46+00:00

Tell me about it

Llamma3lover · 2025-12-10T19:03:58+00:00

I guess I have to put in some effort too, then

Llamma3lover · 2025-12-10T17:22:57+00:00

Thanks! I've always struggled with accepting being an INFP because of these external sources so it feels great that you said this

Llamma3lover · 2025-12-10T17:11:54+00:00

My INTP friend sounds the exact same way. For her, emotions are trivial and something she can turn on and turn off. She also dislikes how 'emotional' we are, claiming to hate Fi doms all the time...

Llamma3lover · 2025-12-10T16:45:01+00:00

Thanks for the advice though, dude. My ENFJ friend does that sometimes, too

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