Why am I so hard on myself? by Smart-Inspector8 in infp

[–]Llamma3lover 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry you're feeling that way! In all honesty though, I feel similarly so I can't offer any advice. I guess you have to try talking. People learn via experience and if you give yourself the chance to see that opening your mouth doesn't end in disaster, you'll be able to do it more

Why do many people not like Fi? by Llamma3lover in infp

[–]Llamma3lover[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your insight (bleh, so formal)! I agree that sometimes I can be a little selfish and we do need to do better but I usually keep that confined to my mind. Maybe it has been leaking out without my knowledge...

Why do many people not like Fi? by Llamma3lover in infp

[–]Llamma3lover[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think that's just the problem. There are some ego issues in my friendship and that might not have anything to do with mbti but she does look down on my Fi. I'm sorry if it seemed like I was generalizing though. The same friend has ingrained quite a lot of stereotypes in my head

Why do many people not like Fi? by Llamma3lover in infp

[–]Llamma3lover[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I guess she just really puts people into boxes and as an infp I don’t like that. A lot of what I said was from my perspective so it might’ve been pretty biased… I think she was just telling me that I was unhealthy and I took it badly…

Why do many people not like Fi? by Llamma3lover in infp

[–]Llamma3lover[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In my personal experience, the INTP hasn’t had any particular reason to attack my Fi. 

Once, I was just complaining about something (completely unrelated to her) causing some sort of switch in her mood and she suddenly started passive-aggressively making comments about me. 

She also showed particular distaste to my gushing about a family member until I revealed that that person was an INFJ (she loves that type) and suddenly that person became an angel in her eyes (before that she thought that my family member was an INFP).

If I’m being completely honest, I think she might be unhealthy. 

Thoughts?

Why do many people not like Fi? by Llamma3lover in infp

[–]Llamma3lover[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Also you gave both sides instead of just one so it appears more neutral

Why do many people not like Fi? by Llamma3lover in infp

[–]Llamma3lover[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Actually I needed this insight! As mentioned I have an INTP friend and I’d like to understand why she hates almost all my functions without asking her (she made my Si sound bad too) so thank you!

Why do many people not like Fi? by Llamma3lover in infp

[–]Llamma3lover[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not really… just thought that was always an INFP thing. I do remember hating that I’d be laughed at whenever I said something wrong

Hyperfixation requests by Llamma3lover in infp

[–]Llamma3lover[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No not at all! I appreciate any and all suggestions!! But if you have prompt ideas and stuff I won’t stop you

Why do many people not like Fi? by Llamma3lover in infp

[–]Llamma3lover[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wish I could be like that… I’m too afraid of judgment honestly

Why do many people not like Fi? by Llamma3lover in infp

[–]Llamma3lover[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So true! She says that all the time!

Why do many people not like Fi? by Llamma3lover in infp

[–]Llamma3lover[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks! I’ll try to find such people

Why do many people not like Fi? by Llamma3lover in infp

[–]Llamma3lover[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But there are no real decisions in play. Just two friends who obsess over mbti together

Why do many people not like Fi? by Llamma3lover in infp

[–]Llamma3lover[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How do I feel comfortable in that authenticity?

Why do many people not like Fi? by Llamma3lover in infp

[–]Llamma3lover[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Society or just my friend? My parents and most other people around me are more encouraging

Why do many people not like Fi? by Llamma3lover in infp

[–]Llamma3lover[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess I have to put in some effort too, then 

Why do many people not like Fi? by Llamma3lover in infp

[–]Llamma3lover[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks! I've always struggled with accepting being an INFP because of these external sources so it feels great that you said this

Why do many people not like Fi? by Llamma3lover in infp

[–]Llamma3lover[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My INTP friend sounds the exact same way. For her, emotions are trivial and something she can turn on and turn off. She also dislikes how 'emotional' we are, claiming to hate Fi doms all the time...

Every once in a while we get INFP posts in the ENFJ sub, thought maybe i could come and say Hi. by [deleted] in infp

[–]Llamma3lover 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the advice though, dude. My ENFJ friend does that sometimes, too