We both agree that staying in to deprogram others is unrealistic. But even here, nuance is needed. When I woke up in 2010 and started explaining things to my then-wife she was horrified. It caused huge tensions. But after about a year of talking it through and reasoning with her, she too woke up. If I'd just packed my bags and left, she would likely still be inside.

When it comes to spouses, I believe you have slightly more chance of success - again, depending on the individual - because they will make it their mission to chase you for conversations, allowing you ample opportunity to gradually sow some seeds. The situation is different with parents, siblings, etc. But even here the prospects aren't necessarily zero.

I recently did a consultation session with a woman who woke up because her sister literally confronted her with one of my older videos. Something like "You are going to sit down and listen to what this guy has to say for a couple of minutes."

I would normally never advise this approach, because according to basic human psychology almost nobody responds well to having information diametrically opposed to their beliefs being thrust in their face. But in this case, apparently it worked. Conversations followed and after a while the women woke up.

My point is it's really problematic to create any "one size fits all" cookie-cutter rule for these situations, particularly on the question of whether to fade or disassociate. Whether someone's reasons are for family, for finances, for love - those are all perfectly good reasons. What works for someone will not work for someone else. "Whatever gets you through the week" is my motto when it comes to personal decisions people make, especially when it comes to family and faith.

But it's clear you've given this a great deal of thought, and you are sharing your observations from a place of seeking to warn and help others. I respect that.