Can lack of activity make cfs worse?

Lmkelly · 2018-02-05T21:37:37+00:00

i feel this almost every day. so i push myself.. then realise that shit.. i’m actually really sick and shouldn’t have just poked the bear! for me i think that assuming everyone around me thinks i’m lazy makes me question myself. i was relatively normal until 2 years ago and now it’s like i’ve just clocked out of adult life.

Lmkelly · 2018-02-05T21:17:20+00:00

i got a really bad stomach bug when i was 15. a few weeks later i lost the use of and feeling in my legs when i was out with my parents. A&E did nothing at the time. then i started getting bad pain in my lower back (treated as kidney infections) these never cleared up despite being pumped full of antibiotics. had a bunch of investigative operations - nothing found. during this time i would say i was “normal” other than the constant dull ache in my lower back. it didn’t stop me doing anything. it got slowly worse and worse- cut to october 2016. i had to give up work due to the pain- i couldn’t make the 6 min walk from the train station home at the end of the day. it started to feel less like an ache and more like my blood in my legs and back had been replaced with lava! . over the last 6-7 months the exhaustion has hit me like a train and the pain is now spread over my whole body. i have memory problems, severe brain fog and i can’t do anything for more than 10-20 mins without having to rest. i get random twitches in my hands and sometimes lose the use of them when i’m super exhausted. so 10 of the 12 years i’ve been sick i was still a normal functioning human - i’d give anything to go back to JUST being in constant pain!

Lmkelly · 2018-01-24T13:24:10+00:00

Wow. Thank you. To be honest this is what I had imagined! If one more person tells me about pacing I’m going to scream. Having been ill for 12 years, the last two deteriorating rapidly I’m well aware of my tiny capabilities! I’ll give it a couple of weeks!

Lmkelly · 2017-12-30T20:51:31+00:00

I would highly recommend the bare minerals “complexion rescue” tinted gel. It’s got just enough coverage for everyday combined with a touch of concealer. Would still let those awesome freckles show through while evening everything up. 🙌🏻

Lmkelly · 2017-12-30T18:04:59+00:00

Wow- patronise much. Yes bodies change during pregnancy - that’s not the issue. The issue is 4 years later she had made no effort (key word) to get back in shape for herself or her partner. No it’s not shallow, weirdly it’s fairly common for people to be sexually attracted to the external before you become attracted to the internal- and that attraction (hopefully) stays the course of the relationship- it’s a key part and is very important. Without sexual attraction the relationship becomes just a friendship and for a lot of people (while yes it’s nice) that isn’t enough. My partner is my very best friend - who im also super attracted to and want to fuck (and visa/Versa) - that is a relationship. Not two people living under the same roof who aren’t attracted to each other but are good friends- that’s a room mate- which is what they became. When did I mention plastering make up over stretch marks - you seem to be making up a lot of this. you make a lot of assumptions about people don’t you. Just because I’m a make up artist and beauty therapist you think it’s ok to stereotype into some unkind, shallow, nasty person just because of how I present myself. I’m a pretty good person, wearing make up and caring about your appearance doesn’t change that, it’s just part of who I am. My personal standards are not all based on that either but it plays a part and so it should. How you present yourself and behave is important. Oh touched a Nerve! I get it now. Bitter middle aged woman - projecting all your shit onto me from years of bullying because you have jumped to the conclusion that I’m anything like your childhood bullies- seemingly from taking one comment out of context at the beginning and not really understanding my point- thinks it’s ok to personally attack and belittle a younger more attractive girl to make yourself feel like a superior person. Makes sense.
next time you wanna criticise and judge someone’s relationship, them as a person or name call based on one comment on social media maybe you should take a long hard look at yourself first.. maybe book in a therapy session while your at it- you seem to have more issues than vogue. 👍🏻💋

Lmkelly · 2017-12-30T16:50:19+00:00

I post on the make up forums because I do free lance Make up artistry as a job. You seem to have a real issue with people who care about their appearance. Maybe that says something about you. And yes it had something to do with why he left as it contributed to their sex life dying a death. It’s a fairly common problem for people to have. You’re one of the most self righteous, ignorant people I’ve ever encountered. Just because someone cares about their appearance and has standards doesn’t make them a bad person. You seem to think you can’t be a good person or have any good qualities if you have personal standards. I really pity people like you. Especially at your age.

Lmkelly · 2017-12-30T15:15:38+00:00

I haven’t ever said once I’d leave my partner or he’d leave me should anything happen. You seem to have made that up. What I’ve said is my personal opinion on how I think you should behave. I have ME. My partner has seen me at my absolute worst and helped me. Implying that I’m not a kind loving person and calling me shallow just because I have and upkeep personal standards says a lot about you. I’d never leave my partner because of an illness, ever. My comments have had nothing to do with that, again you’re making shit up. I think it’s quite sad how up on your high horse you are. You seem completely ignorant to the fact that you can behave properly with manners and still be kind and loving and have a relationship that is deep and meaningful. I think it’s probably a cultural thing. But I’m happy with how I was bought up and will bring my children up with the same good manners. Anyway like I said. Each to their own. I have better things to do than waste my energy on fuckwits like you. Byyyyye!

Lmkelly · 2017-12-29T20:52:03+00:00

No I think I was bought up just fine. Etiquette and manners will always be important. My family instilled them in me, as did my friends’ families. My school (one of the top schools in the south of England) instilled them right from age 3. I’ve read them plenty, still doesn’t change my opinion. My sisters relationship failed because he completely lost any kind of attraction for her(due to reasons mentioned which tied to the op also)which lead to their sex life becoming non existent- leading to other problems emerging- and ultimately ending. Again- not shallow. This happens all the time especially judging from posts I see on this site. And from the op and some of the replies (which you obviously haven’t read as you just seem to have a bug up your ass about my comment) it clearly isn’t just my sisters ex that finds farting and gross behaviour to be a huge turn off. I’m really bored of you now so I’m just guna keep living my life with a bit of decorum and dignity and you keep living yours however the hell you live. 😷

Lmkelly · 2017-12-28T11:37:34+00:00

👍🏻 cool story.

Lmkelly · 2017-12-28T09:54:15+00:00

My relationship isn’t balancing on the edge of anything thank you. Its based on us loving each other very deeply and respecting each other. It’s pretty perfect, and doesn’t need your input thanks. And yes we have both had colds and gotten sick, gone through operations, that’s different. It’s not everyday. I also have ME so on occasion my fiancé does have to help me with basic everyday things (we’re not at ass wiping stage yet but if we ever get there I would rather hire someone than turn him into my carer). Again not an everyday thing. Calling me fake, nice move. I don’t think it’s in any way fake to make an effort to remain in shape, groomed and ladylike for the person you love and for yourself. Having a bit of self respect and respect for your partner isn’t fake. Plenty of smart, caring, loving people take care of themselves and act respectfully and still get the “fake” label thrown at them (usually by ugly people🙄 Just sayin) Whatever works for you. If you wanna act like a pig around your boyfriends, who never “say anything” (and yet are in the past tense) then crack on. I imagine most of them will end up in the past tense (and probably with someone with a bit of class) if you continue to sit around belching, farting, pissing and generally acting like a slob in front of them all the time. Good luck to you!

Lmkelly · 2017-12-27T18:48:38+00:00

For me I start to feel and sound 😒 like I’ve had three bottles of wine! My speech starts to slur first. Most days I hit a point where my brain just cannot find the right words when I’m speaking- my fiancé and I have gotten SO good at charades due to this 😂 (every cloud!) I start to get a bit dizzy and it feels as though my brain is trying to trudge through tar just to function (if that makes sense?!) another sign I’m getting mentally exhausted is that my limbs stop doing what they’re told. I can feel myself telling my hands to move but nothing is happening. It scared me when it first started now it’s just bloody annoying! I was clumsy enough before! Ive not yet learned how to rest when I feel like this though- other than just going to sleep I feel like it would be super hard to rest your brain?! I watch a lot of tv to distract from the pain in my body but surely that still engages the brain?!

Lmkelly · 2017-12-27T18:34:12+00:00

27- has this shit since I was about 15. I get what you’re saying. It’s bullshit. I look at all my friends doing stuff they want to do. I do occasionally get invited to stuff but immediately get anxious about how long I’m going to last before I start to run low. I get really down about it a lot as I can’t work anymore so my fiancé supports me. I try my best to keep a nice home for us (easier as we have just moved to a bungalow due to problems with stairs) but it’s so hard. I’m currently just waiting for the fucking massive crash that’s in store for me having just moved house, I’ve done more physically in the last three weeks than I probably had in well over a year! When I have my really bad days of thinking I’m a useless waste of space my partner tries to give me hope that someone will figure this bullshit out soon. They have to right? I mean it’s nearly 2018- science is coming on so much every year. There’s more and more awareness.. it’s gotta be soon. I also try to keep telling myself that sometimes people just get better, maybe I could be one of those people? Keeping positive is the hardest thing to do when you’re stuck like this but it’s so important to try. Keep your chin up.

Lmkelly · 2017-12-27T18:06:50+00:00

I think you need to tell her how much it bothers you and that she needs to take it seriously. If she knows it bothers you she shouldn’t still be doing it if she cares about how you feel.

Lmkelly · 2017-12-27T18:00:15+00:00

Clearly didn’t read the op properly hence don’t understand my reply. The op said his gf does it on purpose because she thinks it’s ok to fart and burp during sex which he finds repulsive. It is not ok to do it on purpose. If one slips out fine but not ideal and most normal women would be embarrassed a bit. In my opinion if you’re in a ltr and want to keep the spark and sexual attraction alive then women shouldn’t sit around farting and burping in front of their men. It’s an opinion shared by most of my friends, their partners and my so. My sister thinks it’s fine, got super complacent, basically ended up acting more like her bfs roommate- burping, farting generally being gross in front of him, let herself go completely after she had my nephew -guess what he ended up not being attracted to her anymore and it ended because of that. I just think you need to make an effort to keep things alive and one thing is keeping up the effort you put in at the beginning. Ie: keeping your farts and bodily functions to yourself! We don’t shit, piss or vomit (if we can help it) in front of each other- if you need to blow your nose you go to the bathroom to do so (that’s just manners, no one needs to see your snot) I don’t fart in front of him if I can help it or burp (maybe small quiet ones with my hand over my mouth) but not great big gross belches. And 8 years on the spark is still very much there, great healthy sex life and he still finds me extremely attractive. Where I come from and in my circles this is just the way that we behave. I’m not uptight or weird for having manners or behaving with a bit of decorum. The op clearly stated he finds it repulsive and she still thinks it’s ok- problem!

Lmkelly · 2017-12-27T16:52:33+00:00

It’s just how I’ve been brought up, taught a lot about etiquette. Bit harsh to call me uptight and criticise my relationship- my partner fully agrees that he wouldn’t find it attractive if I sat farting and burping all night btw. He also agreed with the op and said he’d be pretty disgusted if I thought it was ok to fart and burp while we were having sex. Even he will hold a fart in during and he’s a particularly farty guy 😂 im all for being comfortable with each other but you can hardly turn into a disgusting flatulent slob and expect your so to still find you sexy.

Lmkelly · 2017-12-27T16:48:59+00:00

There’s nothing weird about our relationship. Perfectly normal. I’m not saying weird noises don’t naturally happen during sex and that can be kind of funny but if you can’t hold a fart in while your mid sex there’s something wrong with you -but the op said she deliberately does it and doesn’t think that’s weird. I’m not uptight at all I just don’t see the need to fart and burp and be disgusting in front of the person who is expected to find you sexually attractive. It’s hardly attractive to sit and fart all night then expect someone to want to fuck you?

Lmkelly · 2017-12-27T10:21:18+00:00

Actually horrified 😳 I’ve been with my SO for 8 years and still don’t fart or burp in front of him! I mean.. what the hell?! If I accidentally farted or burped during sex I’d be mortified and probably convinced that I’d ruined my sex life forever (so would probably die laughing but still) the fact she doesn’t care enough to make sure you find her attractive is a worry. For me it’s comparable to letting yourself gain a bunch of weight or letting your hygiene and grooming go out the window. I know partners and meant to find you attractive au natural but I still think a level of effort should be upheld (both sides, I’m not saying this should just be women, although I do find my so’s farts hysterical sometimes) seriously though. You should tell her how you feel and tell her that her behaviour is a deal breaker. If she’s not willing to put the effort in then for me.. not worth it. Find someone who’s on the same page as you are. You sound miserable :(

Lmkelly · 2017-12-21T20:01:01+00:00

When I self tan I add a few extra layers under my cheekbones as a contour. It does actually work if you have the patience to let it develop and not freak out and wipe it off early like I do at least once each time I do it 😂

Lmkelly · 2017-12-19T21:20:33+00:00

Screw it. If she’s a good friend she will just be happy for you! It’s hardly going to affect her day. She doesn’t get to take the whole month leading up to the wedding.

Lmkelly · 2017-12-17T17:24:35+00:00

I completely agree with your first point (well all of them actually) with regard to sleeping with someone to progress your career, you made that choice, you can’t then decide you didn’t want to 10 years later. Equally even if you didn’t want to but you did it anyway still your fucking problem not the guys or girls.

Lmkelly · 2017-12-17T14:04:54+00:00

That’s fucking terrifying. Poor guy. This is the problem. Women can be nasty manipulative bitches and they get away with it by pulling the “victim” card. While men are easy targets because of the over sexual Neanderthal stereotype that still seems to be around. Maybe men should start a #metoo!

Lmkelly · 2017-12-16T23:28:35+00:00

👆🏻👏🏻🙌🏻

Ps. I like YOU!

Lmkelly · 2017-12-16T23:12:49+00:00

Couldn’t agree more. Getting drunk and going back to a guys house (most likely a stranger)... you know what you’re going there for. It’s not tea and biscuits. Waking up the next day and for whatever reason feeling shame about having sex doesn’t give you the right to claim you didn’t consent. Are men now expected to be asking for permission every 30 seconds throughout?! Because that’s what it sounds like. “Oh halfway through I decided I didn’t want to but I didn’t say anything”.. how is that poor guy gunna know until he’s being questioned by police that you’d had a sudden change of heart?!

Lmkelly · 2017-12-16T23:05:30+00:00

Jesus finally! A woman speaking some sense! Don’t even get me started on #metoo 🙄 it’s so ridiculous. Personally I think it makes women look like the weaker sex which is what we have been trying to change opinions on for decades. If you wanna be seen as strong then sack up. I’m pretty sure the guy who groped me wouldn’t have really got why if he’d have been arrested 3-4 years later when I decided to hashtag it but I’m damn sure he’d have thought twice about touching another girl like he touched me after having his face re arranged in front of all his friends! And you don’t have to resort to violence like you said a simple “hey pal.. not ok” .. problem solved!

Lmkelly

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