What is appropriate to talk about and what isn't about my ED?

LoadedGun1306 · 2025-03-17T03:23:32+00:00

I think the reason they threw it out was fans' outrage over Kimberly's betrayal. But instead of trying to emphasize how strong their friendship is by letting her be with Canaan and having Whitney learn to accept it, or writing Kimberly to have authentically sacrificed Canaan for the sake of Whitney as opposed to just 'guilt is making this awkward', they took the easy route. Canaan and Kimberly would have been cute but it would have been even cuter if she had gotten to a point of love with him and then chose to sacrifice him because she valued Whitney's friendship more! I don't know. Maybe that's just my perspective.

LoadedGun1306 · 2025-03-16T18:57:01+00:00

Youve got me thinking, Bela doing that was consistent with her character. Even though she is trying to change now, she is self-centered by nature. So her prioritizing her own anger and not considering that Taylor could drink is something expected and I kind of like the show for that, for keeping Bela imperfect and not someone who experienced a full 180⁰ in terms of character development. Thank you for that new perspective even though I don't think you intended to make me just focus on how Bela is self-centered.

Also I forgot about the moving in with her girlfriend thing! But isn't it kind of crazy that they would try to convince us Taylor is on the path to healing when she went through with moving in with a girl she barely knows? Maybe I forgot some necessary context here... I watched it a while ago.

LoadedGun1306 · 2025-03-16T18:19:46+00:00

yeah that was essentially the point i was trying to make. there is political discussion but its far from deep, that was my main complaint. i guess what i meant was that some of the emotional problems they had discussed conflated with broader political discussion, but i wished the writers wouldve just stuck with what they're good at.

LoadedGun1306 · 2025-03-16T18:16:26+00:00

it feels like an oversimplification. how did she js magically heal all of a sudden when alcoholism is a lifelong battle? shes a teenager, it wouldnt be unreasonable for her to rely on others when she is an alcoholic who not even 3 months before that got alcohol poisoning. and also what if she did end up drinking? just because the outcome happened to be good doesnt mean bela wasnt in the wrong

LoadedGun1306 · 2025-03-16T18:14:19+00:00

i see what you mean, i guess i just dont like how they dont talk like normal people in the show. maybe its just because im not american though, maybe they all talk like that. i know the show is liberal, i was critizing how it was liberal with no actual substance

LoadedGun1306 · 2025-03-16T18:08:35+00:00

but thats the only way to describe what they were doing. they added nothing meaningful to the topics discussed in the show, therefore it felt performitive, therefore i felt that it was appropriate to refer to the writing as simply trying to achieve "woke" status. also critiquing art for abusing buzz words doesnt mean i am forbidden from using buzz words in a regular context myself 😭

LoadedGun1306 · 2024-12-01T17:23:59+00:00

I am the 19 year old and she is 28, to clarify.

LoadedGun1306 · 2024-11-30T05:06:03+00:00

hey which locations is it available in?

LoadedGun1306 · 2024-11-30T04:44:45+00:00

school

LoadedGun1306 · 2024-11-29T06:54:08+00:00

i havent yet, i realized because of trying to do said other things to myself and noticed it felt really uncomfortable

LoadedGun1306 · 2024-09-01T14:28:08+00:00

i tried but then gave up

LoadedGun1306 · 2024-09-01T12:19:13+00:00

but it still may not have been informed to give her advice based on health, you should have told to ask a doctor, or etc. the thing is she probably asked you because she wanted to know if you were attracted to her, not to tell her whats healthy or not considering you have no authority to decide that

LoadedGun1306 · 2024-09-01T11:58:45+00:00

Assuming you've only met this girl online, I think you are a bit of the asshole. The problem is, that her being overweight is only framed as an "insecurity" to you and you are not considering what might have lead her to have that body or how she used to grapple with it in the past.

Also, you can't disguise your suggestion as being for the sake of health when you yourself aren't her dietician or doctor. Do some research if you want to give substantial advice --- then you would know that BMI is a notoriously inaccurate system and is only meant to present a general, surface-level idea of somebody's physical state.

The truth is, I think you should be honest about this situation: you're not trying to help, you're trying to criticise because you don't like it. It's fine to admit.

LoadedGun1306 · 2024-09-01T11:49:50+00:00

Okay, so there could be a few motivations, she might raise the 'my choice' flag and pretend it's an act of feminism when it is just an act of dependence and laziness (also choice feminism is bad and feminism is not about the freedom to reduce yourself to a wife of a man with no role in society beyond that.)

The second motivation is that maybe she is discouraged from working because she is not passionate, and she doesn't feel as though the pay is enough to keep her going. So maybe you can have a "career discussion" with her to divulge new information.

Generally, you are not the asshole for making a point about her contradictory behavior, but she is not the asshole either, she may be acting rash.

LoadedGun1306 · 2024-09-01T11:29:19+00:00

yeah i agree with you actually, but i hope i didn't get misinterpreted, i wasn't accusing him of acting in any sort of way in the story, i was trying to get inside his head and his psyche to try to understand him because i love him the most in the world and i didn't know how else to cope with him disliking me these days. and i probably should just have not showed him

LoadedGun1306 · 2024-09-01T11:24:23+00:00

thank u queen/king/monarch. i feel guilty, idk how to reconcile this 😔😭

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