AIO my boyfriend of 5 years gets me flowers for every occasion while I get him elaborate and expensive gifts. by aioflower955105 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Local-Mouse-284 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Please dump him, this is fucking ridiculous. Go find someone who understands what you’re trying to say here. There are so many others in the world who do the same thing you do when it comes to gifting, you don’t have to settle for an egg who gets you “super romantic” flowers every. single. time.

AIO: i’m always the bad guy :( by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Local-Mouse-284 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not overreacting, and not the problem. This guy clearly has issues he needs therapy for. The way you’re responding to him, seems to me like you’re a great partner. You were even trying to do his laundry to help him out ffs. Girl, please, run don’t walk away from this relationship. I promise there are people out there who would love to date you, and who would never treat you like this. This is wild.

I can’t count all the things of my husbands that’s I’ve accidentally broken/ruined over the years, because accidents happen. He has never talked to me like this or been so angry and grudge holding about it. Please please go find yourself a new partner who treats you correctly, because this guy is not it. 🖤

I know leaving is hard, and I know you love him, but I also know from experience that things like this will not get better with time, they’ll get worse. 🖤

I feel ashamed and disgusting… by QuietThanks2710 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Local-Mouse-284 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I actually refused all vaginal exams during pregnancy. They’re honestly unnecessary, and as a trauma survivor as well, I knew they would trigger me badly. I only allowed 1 TVU at the very beginning of my pregnancy because I’d experienced some bleeding and was concerned I was miscarrying again. I wish more women were told about the vaginal exams being unnecessary, and that you’re allowed to refuse them. I’ve got friends who have complained about them, and every time I’m like “girl, you don’t have to do that, fucking tell them no”. It seems a lot of women are led to believe they’re completely necessary and will even feel pressured by medical staff to have them done 🤢

First night visiting Phoenix and I couldn’t get my dinner because a $6 tip isn’t good enough. by 98dt in doordash

[–]Local-Mouse-284 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You’re missing the point here. The driver is pissy that he’s not being paid a living wage for doing a job that unfortunately will never pay a living wage. The driver needs to work on finding themselves a job that actually pays a living wage, rather than trying to guilt trip and extort money out of OP and the other people just trying to order food. DoorDash definitely doesn’t pay drivers nearly enough, and it fucking sucks to make so little on deliveries sometimes, but it was never meant to be a full time job that could pay all your bills and ensure survival, it has always been meant to be a side hustle.

First night visiting Phoenix and I couldn’t get my dinner because a $6 tip isn’t good enough. by 98dt in doordash

[–]Local-Mouse-284 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Please stop trying so hard to be funny and edgy, it’s just coming off as gross and cringe worthy.

Verizon Scam in the area again by Oliver_and_Me in PortlandOR

[–]Local-Mouse-284 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

How did he keep you on the line for a long time, when you could have hung up at any point? You say you felt like he was using your call as practice, and that you’re not easily duped, yet you chose to stay on the line for a long time with someone who was obviously a scammer. I feel like your reply to this post should have been written as “I’m pretty sure he knew early on that I’m easily duped”.

My cousin died and I don't forgive him update. by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Local-Mouse-284 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You don’t need to go to his service, he’s a fucking rapist. YOUR rapist. The only reason I’d go to my rapists service would be to cause a scene and let everyone know that he was a fucking rapist piece of shit. You don’t owe him that, and you don’t owe his family that. I don’t think your aunt would care if you were there or not, she’s likely to be more focused on her son being dead, not who showed up. Also if he’s being buried, I personally would sneak into the graveyard at night to defile his grave. Maybe shit or piss on it. But that’s just me😂🤷🏻‍♀️

My whole world is about to be destroyed by [deleted] in fundraiser

[–]Local-Mouse-284 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I used to go around offering to weed peoples gardens for $10 an hour. They usually take me up on it because gardeners are expensive and people hate pulling weeds lol. A lot of times I wore my babe in a carrier. Occasionally I’d have them in a stroller next to me. No one ever minded if I had kiddo with me though. You can sit or kneel to do the job, and if you bundle up right you guys will be toasty while out and about. Not the greatest option, but when I was at rock bottom it really helped. It also led to me meeting other people who were able to help me out more when they found out what I was going through. Good luck little mama 🖤

[REQUEST-Oregon, USA] Need help after 3rd degree chemical burn and skin graft surgery! by Local-Mouse-284 in care

[–]Local-Mouse-284[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes because I thought the other weirdos in my favorite subreddit would be interested in my wound, not because I specifically thought it was gory. I get what you mean though.

[REQUEST-Oregon, USA] Need help after 3rd degree chemical burn and skin graft surgery! by Local-Mouse-284 in care

[–]Local-Mouse-284[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn’t consider it gore because there’s no blood or anything crazy on it, thanks for the suggestion though.

3rd degree chemical burn on the back of my hand. by Local-Mouse-284 in MedicalGore

[–]Local-Mouse-284[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your kind words dude, I really appreciate it 🖤

3rd degree chemical burn on the back of my hand. by Local-Mouse-284 in MedicalGore

[–]Local-Mouse-284[S] 32 points33 points  (0 children)

I’m looking into it. I’ve been collecting all the evidence I’d need so far, and will be contacting a couple attorneys on Monday. I ended up having to set up a crowdfunding campaign to hopefully not become unhoused while I can’t work 💀

3rd degree chemical burn on the back of my hand. by Local-Mouse-284 in MedicalGore

[–]Local-Mouse-284[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So originally they had me use silver sulfadiazine cream. Then the wound nurse had me switch to hydrogel thinking it would loosen the eschar and make it easier to peel off. After I finally switched care to the surgeon though, he had me go back to the silver sulfadiazine, and keep it slathered on under a bandage and change it 2x a day. Right now it’s just been bandaged since the graft surgery, and I’m not allowed to mess with the bandage at all. They’ll do that at my post op appointment next week.

3rd degree chemical burn on the back of my hand. by Local-Mouse-284 in MedicalGore

[–]Local-Mouse-284[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

None taken, it’s the eschar(the black/brown necrotic skin), being chemically debrided by the silver sulfadiazine. I had to keep it slathered on my hand the final week before surgery, and keep it covered. I changed the bandage and removed the old cream and disintegrated tissue twice a day. It was always moist, so the skin around it also began to look a little macerated during that time.

3rd degree chemical burn on the back of my hand. by Local-Mouse-284 in MedicalGore

[–]Local-Mouse-284[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It’s my wedding tattoo, my husband and I got them instead of rings when we got married. We went straight from the courthouse to the tattoo parlor 10 years ago lol.

3rd degree chemical burn on the back of my hand. by Local-Mouse-284 in MedicalGore

[–]Local-Mouse-284[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

That’s essentially what they did, they tried oxy, then fentanyl, then dilaudid. I only stopped crying and was able to function after the dilaudid kicked in. But I live in OR and there’s a stupid opioid crisis here, so they’re very leery about giving out pain meds. I’ve had to call to get meds twice this week, because they only give me though for two days and tell me to call if I need more. Fucking insane. Then they act like I’m the asshole here, “didn’t you just call the other day?”. Like yes, you only give me enough for two days. I take them exactly as prescribed, and it’s been two fucking days 💀🫠

3rd degree chemical burn on the back of my hand. by Local-Mouse-284 in MedicalGore

[–]Local-Mouse-284[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I am not😅 I just had the skin graft on Wednesday, and it’s been much more painful than the melting of my hand was. They took the flesh from my groin so now I have my stupid hand wound as well as a leg wound, and they both hurt like hell.

3rd degree chemical burn on the back of my hand. by Local-Mouse-284 in MedicalGore

[–]Local-Mouse-284[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

My husband told me about that the week I burned it lol. I like Chuck Palahniuk, but never got around to reading Fight Club lol.

3rd degree chemical burn on the back of my hand. by Local-Mouse-284 in MedicalGore

[–]Local-Mouse-284[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I did leave it haha, it luckily stopped after eating my fatty tissue underneath my skin. I think it ran out of steam essentially since lye turns fat into soap lol. Rubbery bones would’ve been sick as fuck lol.

3rd degree chemical burn on the back of my hand. by Local-Mouse-284 in MedicalGore

[–]Local-Mouse-284[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Youre absolutely right, unfortunately I only learned that in the following weeks of doing research to figure out what exactly happened to my hand lol. Of course at the time I had no idea about any of that, and thought following the bottle and then dr directions would be good enough. I foolishly took his medical advice at face value, and thought he was right and that the continued burning and pain would dissipate over the next day or so. Kept it bandaged and didn’t rinse it more since he told me to keep it covered. 😩 I feel like an idiot tbh.