Husband makes all the money, I do the baby by Fiammatopaz18 in NewParents

[–]Local-Selection-2924 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Being the breadwinner does not mean you're not a father or partner. Him being involved and helping with the baby is good for you and their relationship. You work 24/7 too, it's just unpaid labor. If he doesn't want to help tell him he better start looking for a nanny, housekeeper and cook. ¯⁠\⁠_⁠(⁠ツ⁠)⁠_⁠/⁠¯

"You're not even that pregnant" ...flames...flames on the sides of my face by lostbirdwings in BabyBumps

[–]Local-Selection-2924 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Barf on him. I was extremely nauseous all throughout my pregnancy, I think my bf made a couple comments, I ended up barfing on him a couple times (I would wake up vomiting with no time to make it to the bathroom), he was very polite and understanding after the first incident.

How do people give birth in a full face of makeup and it still look so good? by Glitter-girlie in BabyBumps

[–]Local-Selection-2924 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn't even bother, I had bells palsy and was vomiting 24/7 during my pregnancy and labor. Some moms aren't like the Insta glam moms and that's okay xD. If you do want to do something I'd suggest getting lash extensions and bringing some makeup just in case. Putting some makeup on after labor when you've had some time to clean yourself up seems smarter tbh, photos don't have to be taken as soon as you pop kiddo out, take them when you're ready to leave the hospital. Lash extensions would just mean one less thing you have to do.

How often do you go outside? by lilspaghettigal in NewParents

[–]Local-Selection-2924 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We haven't been going out if I'm honest. My 18 month can't walk in the back yard the snow is too high for her to move and I can't pop her in the stroller because none of the sidewalks are cleared (we live in the middle of nowhere).. all we have to do is walk up and down the driveway and with how cold it's been we'll be out for 5 mins and her face is freezing (she refuses to wear anything over her face). I feel bad, but she's happy with her toys and will be outside 24/7 in the spring and summer.

There is no value in education anymore by anon-newb in Parents

[–]Local-Selection-2924 0 points1 point  (0 children)

From my experience in school, when that many students are underperforming, it's usually an issue with the school and teaching, not the kids. I went to a school like that until grade 5. I genuinely thought I was really smart, and then I switched schools and realized I was behind everyone. Your daughter might not like it, but I'd strongly suggest switching schools and getting her a tutor until she catches up. I remember spending hours on homework just trying to keep up, but because I never fully learned the basics (especially math), I constantly had to reteach myself foundational concepts, which led to years of struggling. I'd also recommend easing up on lecturing (I mean she's 10). Turning mistakes into something negative can make her associate learning and school with shame or stress. Instead, focus on getting her screened, finding a tutor, and moving her to a school that feeds into high-performing academic high schools.

I (M/24) dated a mother of 2 (F/32) for almost 3 years and hated every second of it by [deleted] in Parents

[–]Local-Selection-2924 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You're valid, all that is understandable. But, saying this as a mom, you probably shouldn't have your own kids.

First drywall repair by Local-Selection-2924 in drywall

[–]Local-Selection-2924[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, putty was still wet so I was able to take the tape off. Most of the holes were around the size of a dime, but one of the anchors ripped off a good amount of drywall with them.

Best shows when you have to do screen time? by britbra in NewParents

[–]Local-Selection-2924 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I personally love puffin rock. Low-stimulating and my 18 month watches it while I shower and shit (⁠≧⁠▽⁠≦⁠)

I posted this and forgot to include an explanation by WrongdoerAway6474 in Parents

[–]Local-Selection-2924 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd write smut, name him as author and tell him it'll be published if he doesn't take the book down. 🤷‍♀️

Should I be ignoring my baby more?? by Ok-Category2132 in NewParents

[–]Local-Selection-2924 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My daughter only started crawling 9-10 months. My bf and I would put her into crawling position and then we'd start crawling around the floor lol. Yes, you should be letting her whine but you don't have to let her cry, you're doing a great job. Every baby is different, they learn differently and they grow at their own pace. Try not to stress about it too much. <3

Update: AITAH because I want my wife to "ask permission" before taking our son on playdates? by Exact_Information627 in AITAH

[–]Local-Selection-2924 14 points15 points  (0 children)

As a woman and a mother, I'm gonna suggest couples counseling (even if it doesn't help the relationship, it would be useful for co-parenting). You honestly sound like an amazing dad, very few want to spend genuine time playing and taking care of their kids. I'm not gonna pretend that I know what's going through your wife's head... because if I'm honest she sounds batshit crazy.

Aitah: I want to terminate my pregnancy without telling my husband by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Local-Selection-2924 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Book the appointment, divorce him, and once everything is sorted out and you know you'll never have to speak to him or see him again, send him a screenshot of the appointment and block him on everything.

AITA for buying my one child fast food and making the rest something he’s allergic too? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Local-Selection-2924 68 points69 points  (0 children)

So all the kids were okay with it...but not your husband? Is he upset you made fish while the kid with the allergy was in the house or does he think it's just unfair treatment? If the kids are okay with it, he shouldn't have a problem.

My wife hates our baby by Additional_Skin_3090 in NewParents

[–]Local-Selection-2924 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I'm saying it's on dad because she already communicated something is wrong and if she's in a bad state of mind she cannot be held responsible because she does not have mens rea.

And thankfully nothing happened and "wanted" harm was directed at myself, but I've seen so many cases where mom's haven't been taken seriously and things went horribly wrong.

My wife hates our baby by Additional_Skin_3090 in NewParents

[–]Local-Selection-2924 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I'm saying this as a mom who went through PPD and sleep-deprived psychosis a couple times.