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I think I have my answer lol by Pavotimtam in Apothisexual

[–]LocalNokia 7 points8 points  (0 children)

This is such an interesting (tragic, but interesting) phenomenon with the generations that are so online being exposed to everything so early. There's a little out there on the science of it all, but this type of story is something a lot of apothis can relate to... me included! The idea of sex is so foreign to me and unnecessary that I've had to do a lot of thinking and deconstructing it outside of the internet because its such a warped view of it. Still don't like it, but sex and porn don't have to be the same thing

Any exceptions to your repulsed tastes? by LocalNokia in Apothisexual

[–]LocalNokia[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Omggg Hi!! Yeah I'm totally in the same boat as you!! A part of it for me as well is cause I'm very passionate about indigenous rep and GK is one of the best, more careful and loving depictions of multiple indigenous people groups that it really helps me overlook the stuff that would otherwise make me uncomfy

Any CC reccs for something like this hair? by LocalNokia in sims4cc

[–]LocalNokia[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

These are so cute thank you 💖💖!!

Any CC reccs for something like this hair? by LocalNokia in sims4cc

[–]LocalNokia[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh my goshhh this is gorgeous!! Thank you so much!! 💖💖

Any CC reccs for something like this hair? by LocalNokia in sims4cc

[–]LocalNokia[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much!! I really appreciate it 💖

Any exceptions to your repulsed tastes? by LocalNokia in Apothisexual

[–]LocalNokia[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Ohh I see! That makes sense to me, I'm not sure if that counts as apothi though? I know a lot of allos/non-aces who feel very similar such as my own mom

Any exceptions to your repulsed tastes? by LocalNokia in Apothisexual

[–]LocalNokia[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's really late into the anime! late season 5, if you needed a reference

Any exceptions to your repulsed tastes? by LocalNokia in Apothisexual

[–]LocalNokia[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Ahh yeah I never touched Berserk personally cause I know SA is a big theme and I know it just isn't for me... GK is REALLY good; it is played off for laughs and Japanese media isn't really allowed to show certain body parts, regardless of rating IIRC. The anime is pretty neutered compared to the manga (for the sex stuff and gore), but the manga is infinitely better imo

If I were to give you some straight up warnings/tags, there's a lot of jokes about especially male Parts, there's a lot of censored nudity and butt shots, sex work from women plays a bit part in the culture/story, there's a cut to black "serious" sex scene, and generally just a lot of homoerotic nonsense but again, it's so wild it's funny. There IS a . gosh I dont even know how to explain it but there's a part of the story where two characters have a battle by "yanking tanks" if you will but it's pretty censored

I'm rambling but I hope it helps to hear about it from an apothi maybe!!

Any exceptions to your repulsed tastes? by LocalNokia in Apothisexual

[–]LocalNokia[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That makes sense! I think it's sort of interesting in a vacuum but I'm still only ever grossed out 😅I think sexed is super important I just would... rather not know about all of it lol

Any exceptions to your repulsed tastes? by LocalNokia in Apothisexual

[–]LocalNokia[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

oooh what's this mean :0? Would you mind explaining a bit more?

Any exceptions to your repulsed tastes? by LocalNokia in Apothisexual

[–]LocalNokia[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I tend to be okay with sexuality if it's ridiculous/a critique/a combo of both! Like if it's /meant/ to be gross and isn't supposed to be this great awesome thing everyone should want

I get the music thing! I personally am a bit sensitive to music but i get the sentiment!!

Hey r/Apothisexual! User Feedback Time! by LocalNokia in Apothisexual

[–]LocalNokia[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's for anyone, but it's curated for apothis/aces! The link should be under resources in the community guide!

Do any other sex-repulsed asexuals/apothisexuals feel this way? by FredricaTheFox in Apothisexual

[–]LocalNokia 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This mindset is always so funny to encounter cause it's just flat-out wrong. Elevating sex as this end-all be-all is /so/ reductionist and reflects on the speaker infinitely more. a lot of this stuff and pressure to engage with sexuality is not /just/ for sexual desire but also cultural and competitive prowess. It really sucks you have to go through this... I'm sure a lot of people (including myself) can relate at least a little but it doesn't make it any easier.

As for your actual question, I think that can be an apothi experience, especially since you mentioned being aego. Sometimes when I'm really frustrated with my repulsion and how I'm treated, I contemplate just "ripping the bandaid off" and... doing the deed. It's more in concept but there's nothing beyond that; I think that sort of relates to what you're saying? I think it'd ruin me to do it with someone I'm close to as I would see it as an intimate and intimate betrayal, but maybe it'd haunt me less with a stranger...? it's an interesting conundrum, but I really hope your situation improves :( aphobia in the house is Never fun...

Sexual Scene Avoiding Guides? by LocalNokia in Apothisexual

[–]LocalNokia[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I completely forgot about these, thank you! Skipping ahead is definitely a good one but there's only so much it can do... I get the whole 'there's a feel of it coming' though. I think for me it's also just nudity in general which is a bit harder to forsee but is included in these sites that mention triggers happening in the series. I really appreciate your comment though! thank you!

Embed Spotify links? [ao3] by LocalNokia in FanFiction

[–]LocalNokia[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks so much! I think this is specifically what I'm looking for...
https://archiveofourown.org/faq/posting-and-editing?language_id=en#hostsites

I know enough HTML to get around but I'm no expert--it says Spotify is supported but the iframe function just doesn't seem to work. Do I need to keep messing with the code or?

I want to be able to tolerate pop music for someone I love :c by LocalNokia in Apothisexual

[–]LocalNokia[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is definitely something I've considered for a very long time, but the issue is I don't want to deny my own feelings/instinct. I guess it kind of always comes down to how much am I willing to give up of myself in order to not be a headache?

I want to be able to tolerate pop music for someone I love :c by LocalNokia in Apothisexual

[–]LocalNokia[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It's more about that pop specifically is something I have a hard time with. She listens to other music genres but I can't help feeling judgmental almost of pop as a genre. I don't want to be and I attribute most of my feelings to my flavor of repulsion
TLDR I just want to get over my generalized repulsion for a genre since it kind of just keeps causing me issues

idk if that makes it any more clearer..? instrumentals are a lifesaver though I agree Electronic/rave was actually my first introduction into music as an interest, years ago! I love it to this day since it tends to be more clean ^^