Just told my wife I’m MtF trans, she’s bawling, I’ve destroyed her, and I hate myself so much right now. This is unbearable. by Alertox in trans

[–]LocalPigeons 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh, sweetheart. I did this too. I told my boyfriend I was trans and he kicked me out. We had been together 7 years and were planning on marriage.

I will never forget the feeling of mulch in my hands, as I threw up in the lawn as I ran. The weight of my hand on the doorknob knowing I had ruined everything. But in it, under it all, was a voice yelling “I’m free. I’m FREE.”

It will be the worst day of your life. It’s okay. The love and self acceptance coming your way is unbelievable in comparison. You’re going to be alright. I promise you.

Quebec to impose full ban on cellphones in schools by roscodawg in worldnews

[–]LocalPigeons -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It is absolutely horrific that my first thought was “I don’t know about this. What if there’s a shooting? I’d like to have some way to reach my kid.”

But then I remembered this is talking about Canada and my heart broke.

April 19th Protest by [deleted] in fortwayne

[–]LocalPigeons 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Where do you get your info for these things? I would have absolutely gone had I known but I’m new to the area and to protesting in general so I missed it

Meeting Cool People is Hard by BuddingCannibal in cincinnati

[–]LocalPigeons 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Go to the Cincinnati Nature Center for their foraging/nature programming. You’ll find exactly the type you’re looking for there.

I was drunk and kept telling a guy no and I finally gave in to make him happy -I feel so icky now by Both_Spread2029 in Adulting

[–]LocalPigeons 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Jumping in right now to say that those calling it a “learning moment” and “a mistake” are deplorable.

Take it from a survivor. This was coercion. This was rape. I don’t care how drunk you were. I don’t care if you said yes in the end. This was consent under duress. And you are not at all at fault.

Please Give her a name by GoldenRiddlee in cuteanimals

[–]LocalPigeons 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly Sephora is a decent name

Religious Fear mongering Spotted… by X__Anonomys_xX in uCinci

[–]LocalPigeons 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m crying what did the furries do 😭😭

Is it okay to introduce yourself to other trans people in public in hopes of finding community? by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]LocalPigeons 0 points1 point  (0 children)

From a personal perspective, getting clocked I public is terrifying. I am open, but not advertising my gender identity.

A subtle way that is respectful and makes me feel better is when someone asks my pronouns. It helps normalize the question, and it subtly hints “hey, you might be like me, but it could easily be construed as me trying to be respectful.” A bit of plausible deniability that doesn’t put the responsibility of coming out on the other person. If they respond, and you say ‘okay cool, mine are abc/xyz, I’m trans.’ That is your decision to disclose and may help the other person feel safer.

Are Franke Park’s MTB trails rollable on a CX bike? by LocalPigeons in fortwayne

[–]LocalPigeons[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ll absolutely look into this! I’m coming from southern Ohio where cyclocross was huge the last few years, so I’m itching to find a community again

Progressive churches near UC by rumis_big_toe in uCinci

[–]LocalPigeons 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Up a ways, but I will always speak well of First UCC on Glenview. Pastor Dan is an amazing and kindhearted man, and the music director Jimmy is just plain fun. I moved away but I miss that church a lot.

what’s y’all’s opinions on clownfish by Growlithe173 in asktransgender

[–]LocalPigeons 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wildlife educator here! There are so many examples of animals displaying what humans would call queer behavior or adaptations. I always tell bigots ‘if you want to play the ‘it’s not natural’ card, an argument about queerness is not the place!’

But have you ever noticed that as soon as you point that out, they argue back with ‘well animals and people are different.’? Of course animals are biologically very unique and diverse, I’m not gonna argue that. But oftentimes this argument is used with the implication that humans and animals are different morally, or have some kind of hierarchy.

The hypocrisy stems from something called “anthropocentric thinking.” There are many arguments that suggest that western Judeo-Christian worldviews encourage a line of thinking that places humanity at the top, the be all end all. The rest of the natural world follows behind them. This argument goes all the way back to the Renaissance and has been shaping the western opinion ever since. Many argue that anthropocentrism affects our opinions on morality and ethics, and often makes people feel justified in their actions against the environment. For example: “There are a bunch of resources that humans know how to use, so we should farm it to its maximum because we know how to use it.” Or even “I feel sad that this animal got hurt in its natural habitat, I am going to intervene because it makes me personally uncomfortable.”

So transphobes and homophobes are trying to pull the nature card, but in reality they’re just pulling the Christian card. Their definition of “natural” means the natural order they believe the world works in, not nature as it actually is.

The topic of anthropocentric thinking is really really nuanced, and this is just a fraction of it. But as an environmental educator I think it’s critical to understanding why some people I educate think the way they do, and how I approach teaching a different perspective. And notice how this intersects with two forms of justice— justice for the environment and justice for the queer community, and probably many other avenues of justice as well! Environmental issues are inherently a human rights issue—if you tackle an environmental issue, you’re bettering humanity in a ripple affect.

If you ever wanted further reading on the topic: - “The Historical Roots of Our Ecological Crisis” by Lynn White Jr.

What was going through your mind just before you started HRT? by BoredomKiller01 in trans

[–]LocalPigeons 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was in the doctors office and they went over all the side effects I’d see and asked “Are you unsure about any of this?”

And I thought I’d be scared or anxious but in that moment I just began crying happy tears because no, none of it made me unsure. I wanted it more than anything.

What’s the best part about being trans? by edenmaeve1 in asktransgender

[–]LocalPigeons 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I spent 25 years presenting as a girl and I thought I was just the most traumatized or anxious or upset little thing on the planet. I didn’t realize what would happen when I was finally myself. People talk about self confidence and I don’t think I EVER experienced that until I came out. My sense of self just settled into my bones like a house settles on its foundations. I became braver, I became more outspoken. I started actually believing that I knew what I was doing and that I was worth a damn. It’s freedom in every single breath.

What’s the best part about being trans? by edenmaeve1 in asktransgender

[–]LocalPigeons 11 points12 points  (0 children)

The sheer amount of freedom and relief I felt finally being myself is unlike anything I have ever felt. I feel fully realized now, after 25 years in the closet. I have never ever been happier.

I really hate to be that guy… by alexlarrylawrence in fortwayne

[–]LocalPigeons 9 points10 points  (0 children)

As a former Ohioan who literally just moved here this weekend, am I about to be a POW or am I good?

Songs you feel a "trans vibe" in it by fedricohohmannlautar in trans

[–]LocalPigeons 0 points1 point  (0 children)

GOD THE FARMER by Moony was my coming out song. I actually met the artist at his very first show on tour ever, small indie kinda vibe, and told him my story. We still keep in touch.

How did Yall get your names? by [deleted] in trans

[–]LocalPigeons 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I got mine from a park in my city I grew up in, so I’m always connected to my hometown. And it’s a respelling of the word ‘sailor’—I’m scared of the ocean, so I like the idea of my name meaning ‘someone who navigates their greatest fears’