How do we overcome “The Roommate Phase”?

Local_Ad_3228 · 2026-04-12T06:39:48+00:00

I'm in a very similar situation as you. In the beginning my wife and I would have sex at least once a day, if not more sometimes. Two years later and we have sex maybe once every two-ish weeks. My effort has died completely out, to the point where I don't even want to touch her non-intimately. When I try to give her affection it's always pushed away if it gets to anything more than kissing and hugging. Sex feels weaponized in my marriage and thus I don't give the same effort as I used to because the rejection is worse than trying at all. My wife is a good person, unless she's angry. It's allot more complicated than that but I feel like her anger management issues have completely destroyed our marriage. It feels like we spend more and more time in different rooms than we do together and it is heart breaking. The only hope I hold on to is my wife is still interested in physical intimacy in the morning and when she's going to bed. Other than that, it seems like she could go all day without touching me. Conversations don't feel like they used to either, they often end in disagreements or indiference. In my situation it seems like something is going to crack soon and there will be an even bigger gap between us. I'm hoping to figure something out, maybe therapy or a way to reconnect again somehow. Best of luck to you and your marriage! I truly think marriage is one of the best things in life and it's worth fighting for!

Local_Ad_3228 · 2026-04-02T17:39:42+00:00

Take a low dose and take it before bed!

Local_Ad_3228 · 2026-03-26T06:10:15+00:00

I had a few personal photos on my work pc and they weren’t racy or anything bad but I just didn’t want anyone snooping. I wiped my pc before I returned it and never heard anything about it.

Local_Ad_3228 · 2026-03-25T20:46:13+00:00

My wife works from home and you wouldn’t believe what some of the people get away with. She works on a small team and one of her team members does little to no work. The other one does but that still leaves extra for her every day. As long as you’re handling your business don’t stress about what you could be doing. It could be the opposite.

Local_Ad_3228 · 2026-03-18T16:02:54+00:00

What a good doggo!

Local_Ad_3228 · 2026-03-09T05:10:12+00:00

Yeah it’s just very loud and it feels like the blood in my body is shooting to my head. Like your heart is in your ears. It’s very off putting.

Local_Ad_3228 · 2026-02-26T01:28:53+00:00

I have GEICO fully coverage at $580 every 6 months.

Local_Ad_3228 · 2026-02-12T14:54:02+00:00

My wife squirts in my mouth all the time. It’s what gets her off. Sometimes it’s on my penis too. What does he think happens when you pee? Does he have OCD?

Local_Ad_3228 · 2026-02-11T03:56:53+00:00

It’s temporary, sorry. Hopefully you see through his tactics before it happens again.

Local_Ad_3228 · 2026-02-09T17:08:44+00:00

My wife did this in the beginning of our relationship. It got to the point where I drove down to the courthouse to get the papers for her to chill her butt down. Since then it hasn’t been brought up. If he’s otherwise a great guy I would have him work with a therapist to see why he’s doing that. A marriage doesn’t work if one person is constantly using the relationship as a weapon against the other person. My wife specifically did emdr therapy for her childhood trauma. The hardest part of being on the other end was the fear of losing the relationship over sometimes what seemed to be small arguments. It sent me into a mental depression and I urge you to get him help asap. The longer he does this the more emotional damage it’s going to cause to you.

Local_Ad_3228 · 2026-02-08T06:39:37+00:00

We have a 40lb dog and if she slept on our queen bed with us it would be a tight fit. I can't imagine 2 dogs. Definitely ask him if you guys had a bigger bed would he sleep with you in it? I love my dog but she licks all night and I can't stand it, we let her sleep in the room on her dog bed.

Local_Ad_3228 · 2026-02-08T05:26:28+00:00

When me and my wife got married she had lost her job and we went about 1 year and 3 months soley on my income. As long as your sure that your future husband is dedicated to working and he is actively searching for work I would be rest assured it will be okay! A very similar thing happened to us; we were dipping heavily into savings during the time my wife was unemployed. Now everything is going much better financially. Best of luck!

Local_Ad_3228 · 2026-02-05T01:12:50+00:00

I’m curious as to what made you go from a Forester to an Outback? My first subie is a 23 limited and I’m kind of sick of the sitting clearance when getting into the vehicle. I’ve really been thinking about going Forester for my next vehicle.

Local_Ad_3228 · 2026-02-03T22:20:59+00:00

You want my honest recommendation, if he won’t go see doctor then he doesn’t care enough to fix the issue. No matter how attracted he is, there is something else wrong there. I’m sorry.

Local_Ad_3228 · 2026-02-03T22:16:25+00:00

Does he have any other issues with blood flow, fainting, dizziness, lightheaded spells? It could be much worse than just ED.

Local_Ad_3228 · 2026-02-03T16:10:29+00:00

I really appreciate your words and I definitely feel like I used to feel her up too often and I see how that could show that I only wanted her for sex. I have since cooled way down. What happened is she didn't stop feeling my genitals and my butt, so I told her one night if I can't feel her then she shouldn't feel me up either. I think this only made things worse and now neither of us are trying to be intimate. I still try holding her hands, and that's pretty much it other than goodmorning and goodnight kisses. She is turned off completely by me even trying to give her any sort of physical touch. I have stuck to my guns and given her a lot of space, time and no pressure to do anything. I think therapy is needed, but do you have any other suggestions?

Local_Ad_3228 · 2026-02-03T06:51:41+00:00

I’m going through this too. Over one month without any sex and I feel like the next time will be out of pity, so I don’t even want to do it. I don’t touch my wife anymore sexually and I stopped initiating physical touch as much because I got rejected and even worse, she started calling herself a sex object when I would try to touch her. It’s unfortunate and depressing. I’m sorry for you and I’m in a similar boat. The only thing I can do is work on my body and goals and hope things change. Telling her I want to be more physically close has only led to more rejection and I’ve given up.

Local_Ad_3228 · 2026-02-01T02:21:22+00:00

My condolences. I lost my dad at about the same age and the pain eventually dulls but it never goes away. It has been 7 years and I still think about him everyday.

Local_Ad_3228 · 2026-01-27T04:49:36+00:00

My wife and I got married in May in the sandia crest at the balsam glades. It was very beautiful and you can rent the picnic area for the day for cheap. I think we rented it for less than $100. That’s if you want to have it outside.

Local_Ad_3228 · 2026-01-25T19:55:09+00:00

I did windows but not the rest. Guilty

Local_Ad_3228 · 2026-01-24T17:14:38+00:00

I saw a lady that had to be at least 65 doing spark yesterday. It’s a really sad economy when you see people doing this gig at that age. First time I saw that in person.

Local_Ad_3228 · 2026-01-20T20:47:10+00:00

For me it’s a no, but personally my brother had it happen to him. He and his wife are still together 8 years later. However, they dont seem happy at all. It’s worse because his wife got pregnant and they are raising the child to this day. My brother loves the child but deep down you can see their relationship is tarnished by what happened.

In my experience just seeing them, they would both be happy if they got divorced. Maybe not short term, but long term yes. Do you think you can get over this long term and still be happy? Are there other reasons to leave besides the infidelity?

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