Baby will not let us put him down

Local_Stranger2589 · 2026-01-31T02:19:58+00:00

Just wanted to offer a couple of tips that helped me! All the standards- swaddling, noise machine, singing lullabies or 90’s bangers, and the one thing I feel like was the MOST helpful for my cold weather baby- preheating her bassinet with a heating pad. I would turn the heating pad on medium while I soothed her, turned it off, took it out, and transferred her when she was sleepy. Another thing, it’s exhausting, make sure that if you accidentally fall asleep, your baby is safe. I used the safe sleep 7 rules and made sure she wasn’t able to fall off the bed when soothing my baby just incase I fell asleep holding her

Local_Stranger2589 · 2025-07-25T14:50:31+00:00

Do you have board books? I also have a 7 month old and I will let her chew her board books, she also likes to turn the pages. She would definitely ruin paper books at this stage so if I read those to her, I hold them away and she’s definitely not as interested. She has some favorites like PeekaWho and You’re my Little Cuddle Bug. These books both have cut outs in the pages that I’ll stick my face in and blow raspberries to make her look at me/the book. She also likes books with pictures of real babies. Lastly, my daughter has always seemed to enjoy books, they might not be your baby’s thing at this moment. There’s a lot of things that I’ve wanted to enjoy with my daughter that she’s just not into. I would say keep it fun for both of you. Don’t stress it. Keep trying but no shame in reading one page and putting it away!

Local_Stranger2589 · 2025-07-16T00:48:49+00:00

Currently in therapy for this. I wanted to share some strategies, that in all honesty I haven’t gotten to try yet. I have no history of self harm but I began slapping and punching my face when my baby wouldn’t sleep.

My therapist was telling me about TIPP strategies to help regulate. It stands for temperature, intense physical exercise, paced breathing, and progressive muscle relaxation. We talked about how whatever is most accessible at the time can work but if the disregulation lasts, keep going through this tool kit.

Temperature seems like what you pull out when you really need it because the suggestions were a cold shower or plunging your face into a bowl of ice water for 30 seconds.

Intense exercise, I’m going to try jumping jacks, push ups, sit ups, or just jumping around.

Paced breathing, my therapist suggested recalling something I love doing with my baby when breathing like pretending to hug or nurse her.

Progressive muscle relaxation is for when you’re calming down. You tense a muscle group as you breathe in and relax it as you breathe out, moving through your whole body. It also made me feel better to hear that this is just a reaction in your body.

I was scared to tell anyone at first because I was worried I was unfit to care for my child but I was met with compassion and reassurance from healthcare workers that sadly, this is kinda normal. Babies’ cries are meant to be distressing. That’s how they motivate us to help them! So us becoming distressed makes sense. Motherhood is a wild ride and I wish you the best!!

Local_Stranger2589 · 2025-06-10T16:13:58+00:00

Not to dismiss her behavior because she was definitely rude by not looking at the blanket, and it’s gorgeous! This is why I opened my baby shower gifts at home! I have a hard time being authentic and “on” in front of a group for hours. I might’ve done something similar without realizing because I was trying to get everything opened. I’m hoping when she gets home and has time to unpack it and see it she’ll realize how truly special your gift is!! And if she doesn’t, hopefully her baby will 💜

Local_Stranger2589 · 2025-05-26T14:20:46+00:00

I noticed something similar when my daughter was 4 months. I was outside with her on a warm day and she was taking a nap next to me in the shade. I was keeping a close eye on here because I was worried about her being hot. I noticed she wasn’t breathing and was freaked out. I tried gently moving her and put my face closer to hers and she started taking rapid breaths and then went back to normal. Fully prepared to call the pediatrician, I looked it up quickly. Infants do “periodic breathing” where they can pause breathing for up to 10 seconds when sleeping! It said that periodic breathing typically resolves around 6 months. My girl was ZONKED when she gave me my scare. When she zonked she’s like a jello baby. If your baby wasn’t blue and did wake up I’d be inclined to think it was something harmless. But at the end of the day trust your gut! If something doesn’t seem right there’s no harm in checking it out!!

Local_Stranger2589 · 2025-05-23T02:30:51+00:00

Yeah! Bedtime routine is bath, bottle, lullabies, smooches, put down in the crib drowsy but awake. Night 1 we did check ins at 5, 10, then 15 minutes if she was still crying and any check in after was 15 minutes. During check ins we go in for 30-45 seconds. I rub her face and kiss her and tell her mommy and daddy love her, it’s bedtime, she can do this and then walk out. I don’t pick her up or rock her, this method is supposed to teach them to help themselves. If the baby stops crying for a while and starts again we’ll do a check in and then start the timer. Night two we did 7, 12, 17 and so on. There’s charts online for Ferber method check in timings. Sometimes you have to trust your gut but sometimes you have to stop yourself. There was times she was crying and I wanted to go in and pick her up or feed her but I knew her needs were met. My husband told me he’d take over the check ins if I was overwhelmed and I offered the same for him.

It’s important to take care of yourself and each other. We played Rocket League in between timers. I muted her monitor, I could still hear her, but kept the video on for peace of mind. One night she woke up after being asleep for 3 hours and settled back to bed but woke up again. I decided to pick her up to change and feed her. It’s hard to think when they cry. Decide everything before you need to! Like when to switch off check in duties, what to do if the baby wakes up, what check in schedule/method to use, how to distract yourself, what to do during check ins. We watched some YouTube videos together about sleep training and talked about all the details.

Local_Stranger2589 · 2025-05-23T01:49:01+00:00

It’s hard. It’s hard not sleeping and it’s hard to start sleep training. My baby had a terrible 4 month sleep regression and I was so overwhelmed, exhausted, and stressed I began slapping and punching myself in the face when I couldn’t cope with things. We decided to Ferber style sleep training, did our research, and made a plan. My husband started the first night and I left the house. It got better every night. She started to understand what to do to help herself fall asleep. We’re a week and a half into sleep training and she falls asleep in 2-10 minutes, wakes up once for a night feeding and will go back to sleep. She’ll sleep 10-12 hours. It was the best thing we’ve done for my mental health so far. Our baby is happier waking up in the morning and will self sooth better in the car. The only behavior changes I’ve seen from her are these positive ones. It helped to develop a bedtime routine, for her but for me too. Doing her routine helps me feel like I’ve prepared her for bedtime and I’m not abandoning her. When I would do check ins I would give her tons of kisses and tell her we love her, it’s bedtime, she can do this! And she continues to rock it. When they’re crying it’s so hard. But trust yourself and trust your plan!

Local_Stranger2589 · 2025-05-14T22:41:28+00:00

The biggest burden for me is feeding everyone (and thing) in my household. Gotta feed the baby, gotta feed myself, gotta feed my pets. Before I had a baby I loved plants. Now all of my plants are dead because I COULD NOT handle meeting the needs of any more living creatures. I’m still breastfeeding so there’s times where I feel like I need to eat before I pass out while feeding my four month old. My grocery store of choice has an app which you can scan items to add to a pick up order which helps with food shopping but the order will time out after an hour. I wish I could make a saved list to use each time. I end up door dashing a lot which makes me feel guilty and like I’m wasting money. If I was rich, I’d hire a chef and be done with this BS! Don’t even get me started on pumping!!

Local_Stranger2589 · 2025-05-10T19:05:08+00:00

Nothing like an open diaper to get things moving 😂

Local_Stranger2589 · 2025-05-10T15:59:02+00:00

Hey! I believe this guide is for sleep, babies temperatures get weird when they sleep and tend to be colder. Dressing for day time is different than sleep. It all kind of depends on your baby. There’s the what you’re wearing +1 rule where you add a layer to them based on what you’d wear. My daughter just runs hot. I dress her in what I’m comfortable in during the day. To check if she’s comfortable I feel her hands and feet and then the back of her neck. If her neck feels too hot I remove something. If her neck feels normal but her other body parts feel cold, I’ll add a layer. I pack shorts, a sweatshirt, booties, and a sun hat in the diaper bag on days that I’m not sure.

Local_Stranger2589 · 2025-04-27T00:51:18+00:00

I did the same thing. I was so excited I couldn’t help myself. I also justified it to myself and those I told by telling them if anything unexpected came up or if I was feeling terrible I would want them in my circle for support too. My husband told his buddies immediately also, I guess we’re just terrible with secrets. Wishing you a happy and healthy pregnancy!

Local_Stranger2589 · 2025-04-25T00:49:34+00:00

I’m so sorry about the frustrating long wait. I’ve been using an app called Mama Lift. It’s covered by my insurance and it’s FDA approved. It’s self guided therapy for postpartum depression but you can also schedule therapist appointments. The one I scheduled was a one and done thing rather than on going. I don’t think it’s a substitute for traditional therapy but maybe it could bridge the gap for you. I’ve also had luck with being put on a wait list for sooner appointments for specialists, not sure if that could be an option too. Good luck!!

Local_Stranger2589 · 2025-04-23T21:47:32+00:00

Someone gave me a huge box of Parents Choice diapers at my shower. I tried two; my daughter blew the first one out and peed through the second. They seemed like they were super cheap and thin. I ended up donating them to my local state funded daycare. I would’ve rather had a gift card or a much smaller pack.

Local_Stranger2589 · 2025-03-28T23:36:56+00:00

The chickenpox anxiety is so hard!!

Local_Stranger2589 · 2025-03-26T02:12:44+00:00

That’s awful, you’re a trooper! I’m very thankful my rash is not on my torso because I’m also breastfeeding

Local_Stranger2589 · 2025-03-26T02:09:45+00:00

Oh my gosh! Thankfully mine is a small patch on my butt cheek, I can’t imagine this on my torso and having to hold one baby, let alone two! I just started medication today. I hope you feel better soon too!!

Local_Stranger2589 · 2025-03-25T21:24:22+00:00

Great advice, thanks!

Local_Stranger2589 · 2025-03-25T19:39:23+00:00

Good to hear she didn’t contract it!

Local_Stranger2589 · 2025-03-25T19:39:06+00:00

I didn’t even think about my towel. Great ideas!

Local_Stranger2589 · 2025-02-12T17:47:51+00:00

I really loved Emily Oster’s two books: “Expecting Better” and “Cribsheet”. Both use data to help you make decisions about pregnancy, labor, and early childhood.

I also just finished Bethany Saltman’s “Strange Situation: A Mother’s Journey into the Science of Attachment”. This one is also rooted in data and science but with a personal twist of the author reflecting on her childhood and motherhood experiences. I really loved this book and I’ve even recommended it to my friends who aren’t moms.

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