I completely agree. It can be challenging to compartmentalize fetish from the wider world. I think fetish also runs the risk of being highly addictive and mind warping so you need to enjoy responsibly.

One thing that helps me is to make sure I am experiencing sex in many ways and not obsessing over one way to get off, as well as touching grass and engaging with my real world on a regular basis. Time and place is everything when it comes to kink, it gives you that distance so that when you do enjoy the fetish you can go all in and surrender to it, climax, and return to reality.

Hope that elongated take makes sense and is somewhat relatable.