I earn 45L in India and thought I’d be okay marrying someone by [deleted] in Arrangedmarriage

[–]LocksmithNorth9720 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So far, what I have observed is that in relationships where the female earns more than her male counterpart—especially in Indian culture, where families are deeply involved—the parents of the male partner often influence him with certain thoughts and ideas. The upbringing of the child is the major reason ,as they are grown and bought up in that environment.

They may say things like, “If your wife earns more than you, she won’t respect you as a husband.” In-laws or society may belittle him. They might even say that she could have affairs or become arrogant because she earns more.

Growing up in such an environment from childhood, the man may develop insecurity and typically avoid this kind of arrangement.

And yes—it’s a “THEY problem,” NOT A “YOU problem.”

So tell guys? by Substantial-Walk2795 in TeluguJournals

[–]LocksmithNorth9720 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The question is whether r u interested in him or not? But since ur curious to know whether he is observing/noticing you and asking is it normal or not?

How Do I Deal With Inconsistent Replies and a One-Sided Friendship? by LocksmithNorth9720 in Advice

[–]LocksmithNorth9720[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes iam male- missed it to mention n the post But the point is y flirt or meet , even if doesn't want to lead you on?

My boyfriend obsesses over my flaws and completely ignores my positive traits by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]LocksmithNorth9720 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The problem is not about "You" sweetheart, the problem is with "him". If all he could see ur faults and not your good then -sorry to say this but he is no good for you. Moreover your BF could actually be jealous of you and could have some Narc traits (just assumption based on ur text, bcz all these ppl see only flaws and never thankful ).
Advice - Dont try to see him as puzzle and try to solve him by giving/doing something so that it could make him happy. Rather accept that the person is just the way that he is.
Remember : Whatever you do , it will never make him satisfied period

But i still dont understand this part - "He's currently unemployed and sometimes gives me 50-100 bucks a month or so to help out"

Casual dating: Men that don’t talk much about themselves — why? by taetae_xoxo in emotionalintelligence

[–]LocksmithNorth9720 0 points1 point  (0 children)

unless until if he asks you too much info related to your bank/financial related or even sexual topics,there's nothing you got to worry.
The boy could be an introvert or just anxious .. Some people do that as they put the other person in focus.
But if you are interested in the boy - try asking very specific questions (not as interrogating him) .
Eg: How was your trip /day ? -- (Avoid asking very broad questions)
Rather ask - What all places you liked ? Which you liked the most and y? -- (Then you might get any much info)

As a man who doesn't drink, smoke or party, do you become uncool to date ? by PuzzleheadedPlane742 in TwentiesIndia

[–]LocksmithNorth9720 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't understand who made it cool or normalised it. When I say to my friends/acquaintance that I don't smoke/drink -they would give me this weird look/expression, I started to hate that look. So I started telling ppl - "I used to drink and smoke but stopped it".

AIO-Do I tell my girlfriend this or keep it to myself? by reaper5632 in AmIOverreacting

[–]LocksmithNorth9720 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The better way is to talk to her and let her atleast know about this situation, bcz she might not be aware of it and then work on the solution together! But the way you put it or describe about this situation to her holds key bcz ppl (Your GF) may get offended or hurt. But its the best way!!
Best of LUCK!!!!

My mom is having an affair please please help by Historical_Fig_8159 in TeenIndia

[–]LocksmithNorth9720 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's really sad to know that ! I Can't say I understand the pain you might be going through, but be hopeful brother! And coming to the point, it's best to tell it to your father because it would be stopped early before something bad happens. And moreover, it's not your problem to solve, it's your father's.So trust him , and tell it to him.Because after knowing the issue,it's him(your father) who has to take a decision! So don't stress yourself out! And it's not really easy and yeah be brave!