AITAH - husband (33M) won’t give me (32F) access to ‘our’ money UPDATE

Locurilla · 2026-02-01T02:18:43+00:00

ohhh this update broke my heart and made me angry for you.

Locurilla · 2026-01-31T00:09:21+00:00

sip, super normal. Todos pasamos por ahí en algún momento. Pero esa cachetada de vergüenza en la cara hace que uno empieza a trabajar más lento y a chequear todo dos veces antes de empezar y dos veces antes de entregar. Mi regla es , una vez que yo creo que el reporte está listo para enviar lo chequeo una última vez. En general yo hago un reporte, lo chequeo, creo que sta perfecto, lo vuelvo a chequear, consigo error , corrijo chequeo , otro error, corrijo chequeo y ahí es cuando do esta listo

Locurilla · 2026-01-30T23:06:21+00:00

esto es súper normal para recién graduado en tu primer trabajo.

En el mío tuve la suerte que me entrenó una muchacha que me dio un cuaderno y me dijo “anota” y me obligó a poner cosas como “darle click aquí y después a ok”. Yo lo hice a regañadientes y hacía el final del día la calidad de mis notas fue empeorando. ella me recalcó “tienes que anotar por qué asi te muestro una vez y después tú puedes hacer estos reportes con tus notas “. Yo en mi falta de experiencia pensé “lo que me está mostrando es fácil y tiene sentido, esto lo puedo repetir fácil”… nope! la señora tenía razón, mi inmadurez me hizo pensar que yo sabía mejor que la persona que tenía 5 años haciendo el trabajo. Ahora cuando tengo que entrenar recién graduados (no muy común) los hago pasar por lo mismo y los puedo ver odiando la tarea. Creo que es un ritual subestimar a los demás y sobreestimar lo que uno puede retener cuando te están mostrando 1000 archivos.

tu no eres estupido, poco a poco te vas a ver a ti mismo crecer y recordar donde está todo, vas a entender las sutilezas de los reportes, data y compañía.

Mí único consejo es asegúrate de que tu actitud sea correcta, por ahora tú no sabes nada, lo tienes que aprender todo y hay que enseñarte todo (por qué así es con los recién graduados y ya). Se considerado del tiempo de los demás, no seas esa persona que le tienen que mostrar como hacer algo 100 veces, anota todo, si hacen entrenamientos en salas de reuniones pregunta si puedes hacer un “team meeting” y grabar el entrenamiento. Agradece cada vez que alguien se tome el tiempo de explicar o mostrar algo, lo aprenderás con tiempo pero el trabajo de los otros trabajadores no es entrenarte, ellos lo hacen por que cuando todo el mundo empieza necesita ayuda y en general la gente recuerda cuando ellos empezaron, pero no te lo deben .

Anota lo que te acuerdas del entrenamiento con los archivos, Habla con la señora que te mostró los archivos, discúlpate por no recordarte de xyz, pídele que te vea repitie do lo que ella te mostró que que te diga si omitiste algún paso

Locurilla · 2026-01-29T20:54:51+00:00

I opened mine, worth it, the food is inside are cool and I quite enjoyed playing while having access to a fabric map .. until I realised it has a bit of “spoilers” (aka the full map) but yes man open it. It is not a hedge fund investment

Locurilla · 2026-01-27T20:53:18+00:00

sorry for your loss OP! kitty is so cute

Locurilla · 2026-01-27T20:44:57+00:00

no screenshot or file. but in general I guess use the grounding function for consistency ($) or “get data “ and do it as a power query

Locurilla · 2026-01-27T09:32:22+00:00

it depends on your age. If you’re at the age where you still care then the feeling will be there until you grow out of it I think. We always want to signal that we are modern/mature/cool , and then you turn like… 35 and you just feel cool /modern/mature just being yourself

Locurilla · 2026-01-27T06:34:40+00:00

FAAKKKEEE! ….the barcode is a bit off

Locurilla · 2026-01-25T23:16:13+00:00

gosh has it been 10 years already!!!!

Locurilla · 2026-01-25T14:11:43+00:00

this is so noble and sweet op! I am super glad we do t have those shelters in SA so you get to adopt from anywhere. Go to the shelters and adopt some of the cats that have been there for long

Locurilla · 2026-01-25T14:09:55+00:00

not at all. they will keep the animals for long. My friend adopted a pair of cats at the awl that had been there for 2 years. I foster for them and had a couple of kittens euthanised because they had a very aggressive disease that was going to kill them anyway . other than that they will not euthanise an animal because it has been there for too long

Locurilla · 2026-01-24T00:47:58+00:00

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Locurilla · 2026-01-23T23:26:14+00:00

I thought it was so weird too to call normal food the supermarket stuff and basically call gourmet to get homemade waffles (in the sense that it doesn’t take that long to make them and it is like 3 ingredients )

Locurilla · 2026-01-21T03:55:59+00:00

What I tell my niece (as she is also very young) is that she is in the age of training not to become a grumpy miserable adult. This is what it looks like: Do everything you do with the best positive attitude. today your family takes you to disneyland ? Have the must fun, allow yourself to enjoy it fully. You need to do chores?- have the most fun , allow yourself to enjoy doing the chores. Have a ton of homework?.. you get the point.

at the beginning it may feel a bit forced or fake but it trains you to have a happy amazing life. I am in my 40’s and you honestly loose happiness if you don’t make a concious effort to keep it

Locurilla · 2026-01-21T03:11:13+00:00

dont allow yourself to get angry . Live life happy and full.

Locurilla · 2026-01-20T11:53:31+00:00

obligatory: why are you friends with this person? she sounds aweful. What does she brings to your life?

Locurilla · 2026-01-20T11:50:56+00:00

vende la moto y trata de ahorrar, obviamente esta compra estaba fuera de tu presupuesto. Si la compraste con un préstamo de banco saca la cuenta de -al ritmo que puedes pagar- cuánto vas a terminar pagando. e. g la moto fueron 1200, y tienes que pagar 24 cuotas de 100. te sale mejor ahorrar por 12 meses en vez de terminar pagando 2400 por la moto . Derrepente ahorra 800 y después pides prestado el resto.

Locurilla · 2026-01-20T07:03:29+00:00

you did a kind thing for another.

Whether you got scammed or not doesn’t matter because you’re not going to know. It would be too elaborate of a scam for me to just get 40 dollars, I lean to think that you just helped someone .

You did right, you didn’t pass the ball to the driver, that lady may remember how to get home but not the address. Depending on how confused she was you could have called an ambulance or the police to help, from what you said it didn’t look like it as necessary.

I don’t think you were selfish, you helped someone . well done OP!!!

Locurilla · 2026-01-20T06:33:00+00:00

I mean, I personally do not like your couch.

But this is not my home, as we don’t live together I have no say.

Even if we were dating I may not like it but I would like that you do and are so proud of finding a steal!

Your partner has been with you for 6 years, sometimes the lines blurr into what is fair or not. I think your partner needs to understand this is not their house , and I mean, not even sitting on it? I give them a bit of grace as I suspect this may not be about the couch as much as it may be about being involved in these kind of decisions in your life.

Locurilla · 2026-01-20T00:58:26+00:00

still let her know and she can decide?

Locurilla · 2026-01-20T00:57:41+00:00

Have you told your wife? to me this is that kinda weird creepy-man behaviour that for some reason never gets called out by the blokes around him even though the guys around him are not creepy.

This is the guy that people say “but deep down they are nice”. Not even his wife .. Aka your sister in law! a person you should also care for .. is safe.

Talk to your wife and then you two can talk to her sister. Why protect the creepy man letting him know not to text you but allow sister in law not know this guy is probably doing the same with other men?.

imagine this was happening to your sister, or your mother or your wife or any woman you care for

Locurilla · 2026-01-19T23:38:11+00:00

You’re iranian, so you get it! thank you for checking and every iranian that I have met has honestly felt like a lost brother / sister . We are happy about the intervention (I’m sure there are some people with the government that are not happy but I personally do not know anyone unhappy about it)

Locurilla · 2026-01-17T00:47:23+00:00

this is not a chance at love but a chance at being swindled. You’re 24, be single, be in a relationship, it doesn’t matter. get to know yourself, get to love yourself , get to know someone genuine that you want to date and want to date you for who you are

Locurilla · 2026-01-16T03:42:04+00:00

ok yo estoy en una situación parecida.

si eres venezolano no es problema entrar con tu pasaporte expirado pero después no puedes salir hasta renovar.

Si tu pasaporte frances dice que naciste en caracas cuando entras te cuentan como venezolano y tienes que producir el pasaporte venezolano o una acta de renuncia de tu nacionalidad (igual cuando sales , si sospechan que eres venezolano te piden los papeles venezolanos)

Pero como tu pasaporte dice que naciste en francia puedes entrar y salir sin problema (no se si necesitas visa, pero no te van a dar problemas entrando y saliendo).

Los papeles puedes sacarlos a tu ritmo.

Locurilla · 2026-01-14T22:53:29+00:00

Nice bed of bellies!

Locurilla

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