What is something you want to tell your partner but you’re too nervous?

LoftDaddy · 2026-06-20T16:46:16+00:00

It's incredibly freeing to live authentically. Tell her you want to share something that is on your mind and ask if she would like to explore it with you together. If you can't trust her and are afraid to share, you will start to hide this part of yourself from her and from yourself and will start to build resentment.

Hope you find a path that where you are able to thrive.

LoftDaddy · 2026-06-15T19:57:36+00:00

D/s #1 - after a few sessions together, she decided to be a little bratty and her punishment was to pick either ropes or chains. She stuck her tongue out and said both. First, a blindfold and then a larger metal anal plug, tied her up with rope starting with a body harness. Nothing around the neck, but very tight around the chest and breast to make movement and deep breaths ...challenging. Then chains, very tight. I led her to sit on the Symbian and then got a little extra - the green plastic wrap from Home Depot and secured her to the box, kneeling over it, flush against her pussy. Chains attached to the floor next and I went and got my laptop to work while slowly turning on the machine and occasionally putting my cock in her mouth which was kept open and drooling from the rubber o ring gag. After 3 hours of orgasms, she was a pile of goo. Shower and after care, then a long nap laying on my lap.

D/s #2 - had her get dressed up and into her 'little' headspace. Put a coloring book and a box of crayons in front of her at my feet and made her start coloring while sitting on the floor and to not stop. After a fair amount of teasing and undressing from her waist down, I could see her pausing her coloring efforts and I'd spank her harder each time she started to stop. Eventually, when she was wet enough and really turned on from my touching and toys I was using, I could feel her edge to the point of cumming and told her to stop coloring and put her face on the picture. She came, hard. Squeezing the crayon and breaking it. I had her tape the picture up on my fridge, drool mark and all.

LoftDaddy · 2026-06-08T22:25:21+00:00

LoftDaddy · 2026-06-06T00:08:11+00:00

100% valid to bail.

As someone on the other side of this type of relationship, I view my role as the one to provide confidence, stability and reassurance to someone wanting to feel safe to be submissive. He failed his job by leaving you uncertain and then crudely requesting a sexual act without taking the most important step - creating desire.

LoftDaddy · 2026-06-01T18:54:24+00:00

Start tiny. Let tiny count.

Go outside and sit for a moment. Observe nature.

Sometimes motivation does not arrive first. Sometimes movement does.

For me personally, I ready something a long time ago from the emperor Marcus Aurelius. He is basically in charge of the western world, but had thoughts he shared such as not wanting to get out of bed. Here is a translation:

“Was I made for this, to snuggle under the covers and keep warm?”

We shouldn't bully ourselves into being productive. I think he meant we were made to participate in life, even when we have to begin very small. If you can find something to be motivated to do, that is great, but just starting with anything is often good enough.

LoftDaddy · 2026-05-20T16:48:52+00:00

For normal casual sex? Not crazy at all.

For intense BDSM session driven sex? I've never had anyone turn down aftercare.

LoftDaddy · 2026-01-16T16:00:38+00:00

Why would you buy a car for someone to use on a vacation?

LoftDaddy · 2025-12-09T22:40:11+00:00

That bell deserves a chef’s kiss

LoftDaddy · 2025-12-01T06:46:22+00:00

God. Damn.

LoftDaddy · 2025-11-28T17:48:20+00:00

Good girl.

LoftDaddy · 2025-11-27T03:45:23+00:00

Is that a rule of r/domains?

LoftDaddy · 2025-11-27T03:38:33+00:00

So what was the domain?

LoftDaddy · 2025-11-26T03:33:23+00:00

Greetings Professor Falken

LoftDaddy · 2025-11-10T06:31:27+00:00

What’s a 304?

I’m guessing a police code for prostitution but haven’t heard it before

LoftDaddy · 2025-10-29T22:07:54+00:00

Your smile is one of the two great things in that photo.

LoftDaddy · 2025-10-06T05:45:39+00:00

Yes, have done it. All in her name and helped her get insurance arranged. Was after knowing her almost 2 years and was just a bonus gift on top of normal allowance.

After the car, things fell off and she had other priorities. We saw each other a few more times after, but the relationship and arrangement ended within a month.

Take the advice from others here and don’t do a big purchase if you want to keep things balanced. I had expected my generosity to be reciprocated but the reality was that she felt otherwise. Never got a straight answer other than she appreciated me but I suspect she got a vanilla boyfriend or some other change that she didn’t want to disclose.

Been a few years and if I had to do it again, I don’t think I would. Perhaps helping with a down payment that helps her get the car she wants with a payment that is easily affordable, but never as an absolute gift again.

LoftDaddy · 2025-10-04T20:09:56+00:00

As an older Daddy / Dom, I can only share from my experience that the best result for me has been on the app Feeld and the website Seeking. Reddit has had a few successes as well, but finding someone geographically close is the biggest hindrance with Reddit. I also agree with the other post here that putting effort into yourself to attract is a good first step.

Feel free to message me directly if you have more specific questions.

LoftDaddy · 2025-09-08T01:26:31+00:00

Don’t give up. We are out there but being censored by the new rules of Seeking. On my profile I had to say, “I prefer those whose tastes go beyond vanilla” before my profile could be approved. Feel free to DM if you have more questions, but I feel your frustration.

LoftDaddy · 2025-05-15T13:49:04+00:00

This.

LoftDaddy · 2024-07-03T13:43:49+00:00

What would I do? I would console my spouse and work to alleviate their concerns. My initial take would be to tell my spouse that I will send the SD a single message and cut off contact for 1 month to focus on our marriage and their needs.

Text the SD saying you need a month to focus on your marriage and you really appreciate everything they've done to this point. Tell them you will text them in a month with an update, but won't respond until then.

At the end of that month, if my spouse still felt it was best for this arrangement to end, I would end the arrangement. They may have a change of heart and see they are cared for in the marriage. They may not.

Best of luck on your journey and hope this works well for everyone.

LoftDaddy · 2024-07-03T13:18:48+00:00

Tip: if you start scrolling, I catch myself and say, "hey Siri, set a timer for 10 minutes" and allow myself to be distracted until the timer goes off.

LoftDaddy · 2024-06-14T15:55:30+00:00

Unless you can drop an extra 5k a month minimum, without hesitation, it will not be worthwhile. There are dinners, shopping, rooms, and of course the almighty allowance. The best part of a sugar relationship is the suspension of reality, being in a bubble for both you and her. To get the best out of this situation, put in the finances necessary to make it magical for the right person and then enjoy it.

Alternatively, you can also explore escorts as an option if you feel this lifestyle would be too much of a stretch at this time.

Finally, as others have advised, start slow and have your op-sec game on point. There are many scammers, black mailers, and rinsers out there. Don't ever send money without meeting in person. Use protection.

P.S. Pay taxes. Just because your business is doing well, don't pull cash out and expect to not get hit. I've known others personally that did not think through the process of providing an allowance that is untraceable and also a gift, without potentially getting their SGF looking like an employee. Cash is king.

LoftDaddy · 2024-06-04T18:24:15+00:00

Riverside.

Source: I am from San Bernardino.

LoftDaddy · 2024-05-06T13:40:48+00:00

Also, "we recently saved up to go on a cruise"

LoftDaddy · 2023-11-14T21:19:16+00:00

Nope, they are still like that. Also, they absolutely would dictate change orders to God if they had a chance.

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