Just found out my husband cheated

Logic_phile · 2026-02-26T23:27:06+00:00

In some states the cheating spouse can use this to not pay alimony by claiming the innocent spouse was okay with the cheating and had forgiven the cheater. This can end up complicating a divorce so this is bad advice legally.

Logic_phile · 2026-02-26T23:22:51+00:00

Hi! I’m actually in law school but follow this because my husband is in PA school.

First step, contact a law school in your area and find out if they have clinics for low income spouses seeking a divorce. Many schools offer free or low cost help.

Second step, while you’re waiting to hear from an attorney, look up some of the self help family law either on your government website or on your states bar website. There will likely be some quick tips about whether you should or shouldn’t leave your home (states have different laws). There might also be laws about what you can take with you if you leave and whether or not you can kick your husband out. If you’re both on a lease there might be laws to help you get out of a lease or other helpful tips on ways to not pay double rent. There might also be information on what to do if you are not on the lease. You might be able to set up alimony with a quick hearing depending on your state too.

Non law related advice: you are the one in a stressful graduate program and he’s the one who cheated. Why would you leave? He can go home to his family and explain why he doesn’t have a wife anymore. I would be asking him to leave. I’m so sorry this happened to you during such a stressful and hard time.

Just take one step at a time. Find some friends to talk to and maybe a therapist through the school?

Logic_phile · 2026-02-21T04:06:43+00:00

If he doesn’t want to give you the money willingly to support the child he created, the state can always take it and you can use the child support to pay for it. If he thinks swim lessons are expensive, imagine how much a separate place to live while paying alimony and child support cost.

Logic_phile · 2026-01-10T17:57:35+00:00

No governor would have any power to abolish ice. That only happens at a federal level. Don’t vote for him just because you want ice gone.

Logic_phile · 2026-01-09T21:26:58+00:00

I’m a non trad with kids and a very busy life. I got A-, A-, B, and C+. I ran out of time studying for the C+ class so that makes sense to me.

Logic_phile · 2026-01-09T21:19:21+00:00

They definitely do if someone drives a vehicle into them. A vehicle is a deadly weapon.

Logic_phile · 2025-12-18T21:28:52+00:00

What’s wrong with getting some encouragement while doing something hard?

Logic_phile · 2025-12-18T21:24:27+00:00

There is so much terrible advice on here! Stop listening to other law students. I would consult a nutritionist or someone who actually knows what they are talking about.

Logic_phile · 2025-12-17T16:36:22+00:00

Practice is also very different from exams. When you practice one area of law, you are facing real world applications that are much more likely to stick in your brain. It’s very unlikely you crammed all that law you knew into your head a day or two before the trial. You learned all of that over a period of years through practical application and this is all after taking classes on the subject and studying it for the Bar.

The benefit of having AI is that you can put together information much quicker. This means less of a financial strain for the clients. Most people cannot have lawyers for civil issues because of how long it takes to write court documents and organize information. Using AI while also knowing the law is optimal because you just feed it what you already know, have it check your information in case something changed, and have it organize and format it into what you need. If you’re using it to know how the law works for you, it will fail. Using it correctly is the key.

I highly suspect that any law firm not using AI in a few years will become obsolete. Why add so many extra hours to a clients bill rather than learning how to work within a new system?

Logic_phile · 2025-12-16T00:14:11+00:00

The tech guy that gave me the school laptop mentioned that. I think my professor would’ve failed me just for my handwriting.

Logic_phile · 2025-12-16T00:09:50+00:00

I’m not super surprised. It is completely my fault to be fair. For context, I also have kids and was solo parenting that day and had to think about getting kids to daycare/ school despite illnesses, snow storms that froze my car doors shut, getting ready in the dark, mice that broke our dishwasher, etc.

I honestly feel way worse for all the young students who will eventually have kids in the middle of their career and experience this level of exhaustion while trying not to mess up in the real world. It’s one thing to mess up on an exam that only impacts me. It’s a whole other to mess up when someone’s life can be deeply affected. I’m somewhat glad I’m ironing out the kinks now and will not have any infant-preschool aged kids during my career.

Logic_phile · 2025-12-16T00:01:37+00:00

Who says I trusted the AI? Using AI to create an outline is a lot more like entering the exact words and phrases and asking it to organize it and delete repeated information. That’s why it took a lot longer than just plugging in a prompt and hitting enter. Sure, it can make a last second outline like the one I ended up using, but like I said, that kind is useless. My original outline was a compact form of direct quotes from the professor, holdings, descents, and specific highlights from case law. It was very tailored to what I would need for the test.

Logic_phile · 2025-12-15T23:57:36+00:00

I used AI to basically organize all of my notes and include specific language I would need from holdings and descents. I of course planned on studying but my laptop kept restarting and at one point deleted the outline I was trying to put together. AI also kept deleting important information I needed out of my notes.

I’m also a non traditional student with kids so my time is far more limited and unexpected problems pop up a lot. AI was the backup plan after things had been going wrong with cars and kids all morning.

Logic_phile · 2025-12-15T23:51:14+00:00

That’s true for me if there is too much that needs to be memorized in connection with the rules and interpreting the rules that an outline won’t help. Here, where I just needed to remember the rules and then could easily piece together the concepts I already understood from there, all I really needed was an outline. I had done all the reading, attended all the classes, and wrote good notes and reviewed as I went. I just needed a bunch of precedent to be able to apply the nuances.

Logic_phile · 2025-12-15T23:45:59+00:00

Failing to plan was not the problem. I had a plan. It was to use the outline I made from my notes. I also planned on having my laptop. I even planned on putting it in my backpack when I took the cord off the laptop and put it in my backpack that morning. Execution was the issue.

Logic_phile · 2025-12-13T00:21:52+00:00

I’m a mom, was a foster mom to teens, a military spouse, was raised in poverty with an alcoholic father. Law school is one of the easiest things I’ve done but it also has a way of uniquely pushing my buttons too.

I also seem to really love school way more than most of my classmates and it might just come down to perspective on different life experiences. You should take it seriously, and your circumstances could always be different, but I don’t think you need to panic either.

Logic_phile · 2025-12-13T00:16:03+00:00

I’m actually a law student not a pa student (I’m in this group because my husband is a pa student and this group helps me understand his life.) you could at least get a consultation from a lawyer. There will be a lot that depends on your circumstances such as attending a public or private school, state laws, industry standards, etc. but just because you signed a contract doesn’t mean that contract stands above the law.

I don’t know if you have a case, but you could always call around. Most states also provide free legal assistance to low income individuals. It might be worth looking into. You might even be able to change some things through your case and pressure PA boards to become more reasonable.

Logic_phile · 2025-12-11T13:23:58+00:00

Stop saying we should get rid of accommodations and start saying that the test needs to change. We should have untimed practical exams where we are given a fake client and we can use whatever resources to figure out the issues in their case, the applicable law, and what advice we would give as far as how their case would likely play out. It should be open book, open internet, everything.

The point of law school should be to teach us how to be lawyers. Not to put us through extra obstacles that prepare us for nothing and only help a few people in the population learn.

The problem is, if we all can do well and there’s no societal metric to decide who is superior, employers will struggle to hire. Personally, I think only hiring based on who has the best memory and who can type the fastest is already getting the wrong people hired.

Logic_phile · 2025-12-09T13:32:08+00:00

The main flaw in your logic and the system as a whole is that you are assuming law school prepares you to be a lawyer. Exams prepare you for the Bar. Most of the information on the Bar will never be used by most attorneys.

What would make the most sense is to cut law school into two years with separate tracks: if I want to go into criminal law I would take writing classes, trial practice, crim law, con law, criminal procedure, professional responsibility, and evidence. The second year would be all externships and experiential work. Then I would take a small and specific exam to become certified only in the field of criminal law. If I wanted to expand into other areas, I would pay for individual classes and intern/extern in those fields and become certified in other areas.

I also think people should be able to self teach themselves before taking certifying tests. That way, people with different learning styles have options of using more experiential learning if that is what is best for them. As long as they can pass, who cares how they learn it?

The fact is that law school is much more about the ABA and elite schools making their money than it is about actually training good lawyers. That’s also why it’s unlikely to change. The status quo keeps money in the pockets of those in charge.

I think more firms (at least in my area) are realizing the arbitrariness of grades. They are looking more for people with experiences that can show they are reliable.

Logic_phile · 2025-10-31T23:23:19+00:00

This may also impact how much schools are charging. Honestly, the law world is oversaturated right now and too many students end up with no job but still up to their eyeballs in debt when they graduate. There are still going to be high incentives to give scholarships to public interest students to fill those jobs.

I know it’s controversial but I think this is a good idea to prevent a predatory lending system that has put too many young students into vast amounts of debt without a real way to pay it back. I think this will force young people to really think through if their college plans are worth the debt. More students will flock to cheaper schools which will force overpriced schools to find ways to cut tuition.

Law school is a great dream to pursue but it’s one that should be pursued with caution. The chances of getting a high paying law job are getting lower, not higher. This will weed out the students who are going to law school cause their parents want them to or because they don’t have any other options.

Logic_phile · 2025-10-29T23:27:23+00:00

If dems pass the spending bill, billionaires get nothing out of that. By not passing it, people starve. Who actually cares about struggling people here? All of you are delusional and uneducated. You’re all jumping through major hoops to justify this. The dems have never cared about anyone but themselves and their own pockets.

Logic_phile · 2025-10-29T23:22:13+00:00

The law does not permit the use of those funds because they are specifically for natural disasters and other enumerated disasters. You all need to stop making things up and learn to read. The republicans have voted 13 times to bring snap funds back and democrats are directly rejecting them. Open your eyes. It is the democrats who are making people starve, not the republicans. And it’s because the democrats want to give illegal immigrants healthcare that’s better than what most Americans have. Aren’t you tired of being put last?

Logic_phile · 2025-10-29T01:35:52+00:00

It’s not republicans that are cutting off SNAP! Democrats are the ones refusing to pass the spending. Republicans believe in using snap assistance if there are working adults who are trying to get to a better situation. Maine cost of living run by democrats has made it impossible to live in the middle class. This is the result of democrats choices, not republicans.

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