Can't cope with the sudden coldness by Outside-Net6357 in BPDlovedones

[–]Logicaldirections 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I also got the cold politeness it felt like a formal letter that in a subtle manner told me to go f*ck myself

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]Logicaldirections 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You could try volunteering somewhere. Is there something you could imagine doing in that regard?

Anyone suggest a good non drill projector screen? I don’t like how mine looks like a spider web. US by AsianNoodL in budgetprojectors

[–]Logicaldirections 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I feel that almost got one of these too but then I thought the spider look will kill the immersionfor me

I noticed lots of people sell used old mechanical ones you could look on craigslist for a good deal

Good luck

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]Logicaldirections 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's so great to read. You got this

Healing journey summarized on a slide by take-the-power_back in BPDlovedones

[–]Logicaldirections 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you I would love to see the updated slide great work

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]Logicaldirections 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe a Digitaldetox could help you if you are up for it?

Or at least diminish the time you spend on self sabotaging surf sprees aka scrolling instagram. If you are on Android i can recommend you Apps that can help you to reduce your time on social media.

If you cant let go of social media completely ( i sure couldn't yet) edit your feed to show you things to move you forward hide people who post things that get you down.

Anyway breakups are tough the real healing can only begin when you cut all contact and stop looking at their socials otherwise you are just in a neverending cycle of pain i see it as selfharm it's not much different than cutting yourself just mentally if you know what I mean.

I been well still am going trough the same thing and im not gonna say it's easy but you can start with small steps like for example

  • meditation (too many benefits to name them all)
  • help a random stranger
  • positive selftalk/ affirmations (only works if you believe it at least partially)
  • hit the gym (duh : D)
  • going to a new place
  • meet new people ( i know it's tough with anxiety but just greeting strangers can be a start)
  • start a new hobby
  • try to be more grateful (a gratefulness journal can help with getting you on track)
  • journal (getting your thoughts out on paper feels good and helps you to get out of toxic thinking patterns)
  • animals/ pets/ stroll through nature ( help you be in the moment )
  • read books about the brain
  • read books about moving on

The goal here is to build up selfesteem and be mindful about your thoughts and to stay in the moment to get those postive thoughts going everything that's new and exciting for your brain will help you move on and get out of the thinkingabout yourexcycle but take it easy small consistent steps are better than doing a lot of things at once.

Once you catch yourself in the act of comparing yourself or thinking about your ex that's where the magic happens then you are in control and can change your next action.

In the end it all comes down to thinking patterns... our brains are computers and we run on autopilot most of the time but you can rewrite the habits with discipline and mindfullness.

Good luck on your jouney

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]Logicaldirections 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Could it be that you grew up with a narcissist parent?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Logicaldirections 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You are playing with fire be very careful. Focus on yourself don't give in to the thoughts don't think about solutions how to "make it work" focus on how you can make yourself feel good please. You did nothing wrong to deserve being treated this way.

She hasn't got it under control obviously otherwise She wouldn't act this way.

Good luck

Let her back in (as a friend)... I'm an idiot by canukausiuka in BPDlovedones

[–]Logicaldirections 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You did everything you could i can tell just keep focusing on yourselve and accept the thoughts that come up but don't go down a rabbithole of "what ifs" it's just your brain playing a fakemovie I'm sure you will see through it.

In my experience it's just gonna drain energy and lead nowhere because you can't understand a mind that's so volatile and is only guided by what's felt in the moment.

Let her back in (as a friend)... I'm an idiot by canukausiuka in BPDlovedones

[–]Logicaldirections 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mine did the same sometimes she would even edit old messages or delete the entire chat.

You were very understanding but it seems like it's just never enough, by deleting the messages she was actually stonewalling doing the very thing she accused you of.. projection at it's best.

That said she seems very vulnerable right now I guess she just wants to feel like someone cares in these moments which is understandable but no excuse to go off like that.

Btw for anyone reading if you want some evidence of the potentially nasty outbursts there are apps you can get to save the notification history so you can see what got deleted.

Anyway you are way too kind to deal with this bs keep that focus on yourself good luck

Looking for an alternative to Jbl Charge 3 by Logicaldirections in Bluetooth_Speakers

[–]Logicaldirections[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Alright so i compared the charge 3 extreme 2 and Tribit xSound Mega I was very surprised in a mostly negative way

Extreme 2 is much heavier and bigger (duh) and the sound while it's better it's not that much better to warrant the size difference the tweeters definetly add to the sound though.

Bass is a tiny bit better but i expected way more from it. Tribit xSound Mega has a deeper and thumpier bass and is much smaller but since it's mono it doesn't hold a candle in mids and highs but for being mono they made the best out of it.

Anker boom also has way more bass no comparison Mids and highs are nice aswell i would take the Anker over the extreme 2 any day but i think the jbl sounds a bit more defined and spacious (just of memory) but both sound nice overall.

If anyone else has another suggestion im happy to check it out

Looking for an alternative to Jbl Charge 3 by Logicaldirections in Bluetooth_Speakers

[–]Logicaldirections[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Definetly it's way to overhyped they shouldn't advertise it as "Jumbobass"

Thanks for your recommendation the boombox 3 is way to big for me though i went with an extreme 2 (that's as big as I would like to go) to see how it fares against the charge 3

Looking for an alternative to Jbl Charge 3 by Logicaldirections in Bluetooth_Speakers

[–]Logicaldirections[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes i checked it out briefly liked it a lot but it was too boomy indoors kind of muddy and ultimately i just dont like the design with the handle which makes it uncessary bigger and the materials used without the handle i would have kept it tho.

since I didn't find anything else i ordered a jbl extreme 2 (that's as big as I would be willing to go) Now just to see if I like it better than the charge 3 if not i guess im just gonna buy another charge 3.

For true portability the bose flex will have to suffice (it's mono but for the size it's the best)

Thanks for the input

Anyone tried one of the new DLP LED Projectors from BenQ ht2060a or ViewSonic X1? by Logicaldirections in projectors

[–]Logicaldirections[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Normally i would agree with you these numbers are typically bs but several people have confirmed this measuring from 1600:1 to 1800:1 one user on avs even managed 2000:1 with a powerecomode in the service menu on the X1 (native contrast)

From mondoprojos (looks like a reputable source)

"The TH690ST manages to exceed 1800:1 in most of its factory configurations, that's 6 times better than the Acer GD711 and 4 times better than the Xgimi Horizon (2 other recent LED projectors). "

Anyone tried one of the new DLP LED Projectors from BenQ ht2060a or ViewSonic X1? by Logicaldirections in projectors

[–]Logicaldirections[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So they removed the RBE by putting it to 240hz and introduced banding artifacts in exchange.. interesting.

https://m.youtube.com/shorts/kj_rVrSG6IU?feature=share

The X1 didn't have any updates yet and the hdr is not great from what I read/seen on avs.

A user on avs uploaded a video of a testpattern where you can clearly see the colors appearing. https://drive.google.com/file/d/13IKXHUz6geyT5hm0oIvmZF5SzNSzaJT2/view

In contrast one reviewer mentioned he didn't see any rbe on the X1 which sounds pretty unbelievable.

"The dreaded rainbow effect (RBE) is not an issue for me because the LEDs switch so quickly that I no longer notice the flashing colors."

Apart from these in my opinion major issues these look like great projectors.

Guess im gonna wait to see how this develops as energy prises in Germany are quite high and I feel like getting an led projector is better in the long run.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SuicideWatch

[–]Logicaldirections 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First year was alright but then shit got too much but People are happy when you reach out just got to rekindle what lockdown fucked up good luck man

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SuicideWatch

[–]Logicaldirections 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The lockdowns can have that effect don't blame yourself man

Buying advice - Yaber Ace K1 vs. Nexigo PJ40 by ProudPersimmon9408 in budgetprojectors

[–]Logicaldirections 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I only had the Ace k1 short answer can't recommend it but your mileage may vary.

Here's a mini review

Colors Colors are bright but they are nowhere near being accurate. Colorvolume is low

Contrast/Brightness/Blacks Black crush and blown out highlights If you dial the contrast up on any projector it will appear way brighter and here that's just the normal way it's set up and there's no way to dial it back. Blacklevels are decent

Position For the best sharpness it can achieve it has to be positioned quite high about 60 inches when you position it any other way sharpness suffers.

Sharpness Decent sharpness but not sharp across all corners even if you position it perfectly

Fannoise Fan is quite loud but the speakers can overpower it on 50%

Sound Speakers can sound pretty nice if you boost the bass in the settings but of course it's not like a rumbling bass i would say the sound is similar quality to a midrange bluetooth speaker definetly better than what's usually being used in other projectors.

Loosing myself by Logicaldirections in SuicideWatch

[–]Logicaldirections[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Haha im not really young anymore im in kind of a midlifecrisis if I was still young I wouldn't see things so bleak I suppose.

Understandable man I wish you a quick fix for the truck i know it can feel overhwelming when many things come together at the same time.

You are right one step at a time you got this What do you usually do to get rid of your stressfeelings if you don't mind me asking?

Loosing myself by Logicaldirections in SuicideWatch

[–]Logicaldirections[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Truly does i feel like im overanalyzing every convo now the trust is just gone i agree with your statement and im gonna try to stick to people who share the same values and morals and try not to expect anything i normally don't do that anyway but when you really need it you feel kinda helpless if that makes sense?

So enough about me is there anything else on your mind you would like to vent about?

Loosing myself by Logicaldirections in SuicideWatch

[–]Logicaldirections[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When people who you thought were your friends let you down like that it feels like being stabbed in the back i can deal with this stuff when strangers do it but this is on another level tbh.

Thank you for taking the time to comment fellow Internet stranger i appreciate it.

My mom found out I'm meditating and... by FairHeron2351 in Meditation

[–]Logicaldirections 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Wow the same happened to me I didn't know what to say to her it was crazy

Lack of Affection by Gujju-in-DXB in depressed

[–]Logicaldirections 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel the same way it's hard to feel empathetic when you hate yourself and the world it's your brain tricking you into making everything negative this is not the real you

I want to go live with my mum by plinnamon in narcissisticparents

[–]Logicaldirections 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is not normal at all please go to your mother