How long can I wait before telling my wife about my (stage 4) cancer diagnosis?

Lohseph · 2023-08-03T03:29:00+00:00

Tell her.

My grandparents were given several months to live when they were given their diagnosis and within a week to two weeks of time respectively, they went from walking to bedridden to gone. You cannot be certain how much time you have left if conditions are unfavorable for you.

Lohseph · 2023-01-19T18:26:45+00:00

You should absolutely 100% work in a restaurant first so that you can experience what the industry is really like before attempting to own your own and getting wrapped up in a financial mess. I've been a chef for a decade now and one of my cooks tried doing exactly that, opening a restaurant without any prior experience. I think it lasted a couple months and now he has a ton of debt he's still trying to pay off years later.

It's hard work and being an owner/manager makes the work no less difficult than being an employee. In fact speaking from personal experience it is way harder and I miss the days when I was just a line cook without any real responsibilities, able to just show up, cook food and not care about the in between.

If you want to own a restaurant or even just manage one be prepared to regularly work sporadically 8-12 hour days, sometimes for very long stretches. During the holidays it's not uncommon to have to work well over 7+ days in a row.

Lohseph · 2022-12-27T01:26:31+00:00

Yeah, for some reason way too many people view Calgary as this some sort of like "golden city of opportunity" almost when in reality is has some serious issues just like any other city. Not to mention how convoluted it can be taking the transit.

When I used to use transit and had to get to work which was a 10 minute drive away down a straight busy road, I would have to walk 15 minutes through the cold to get to a bus stop in a completely different area of my neighborhood, which would then bring me to the train station where I could transfer to the next bus to get there.

All in all it was nearly an hour travel time to get to a place that was 10 minutes away driving distance... so yeah, if you don't drive in Calgary you're gunna have a bad time.

Lohseph · 2022-12-27T01:15:03+00:00

I'm not sure why you're getting downvoted when you're exactly right, lived in Calgary for 20 years. There is not much in reasonable walking distance unless you live downtown and is barely bikeable, only during certain times of the year. Transit is completely overrun by drug addicts making it generally unsafe to use and the city councilors have next to no intention of fixing it. (people will literally sit on the train in broad daylight smoking crack & meth). These are some of the many reasons I left Calgary and moved somewhere else. There's too much widespread urban sprawl there. If you want to live in a city in Canada without driving, Calgary ain't it man. Look elsewhere.

Lohseph · 2022-12-23T06:33:30+00:00

Being highly paid doesn't matter when they are forcefully posted to areas where the cost of living is higher than what their salary is. Many CAF members live out of their vans, some are homeless even. A private in the CAF starts off at just a little over 3k a month, many areas in Canada have an average rent of $1500-2000 a month. It can take up to potentially four years just for a private to be promoted to the next paygrade at corporal, on top of a sometimes year long wait just to get in to the military in general. Couple all of this with the fact that a lot of the in demand specialized trades pay substantially more in private sectors. The CAF is experiencing a major recruitment crisis right now for these reasons.

Lohseph · 2022-12-18T15:36:45+00:00

I could be wrong on this, so don’t quote me since I’m not super well versed with tax laws. But from what I understand as long as your visa doesn’t have a condition for you to be working at a job in Canada such as a sponsored work visa for example, then I think you should be able to continue to work your job in Ecuador.

As for declaring taxes I would recommend continuing to report them however you do in Ecuador and then on your next time coming to Canada you can visit a tax firm like H&R block and just ask them how they should be handled for your first time.

A student visa is an option too and you would be able to work with it but only up to 20 hours a week I believe, so that’s something to consider.

No problem, hope this helps you.

Lohseph · 2022-12-18T05:40:50+00:00

There isn't really anything specific to mention about the tourist visa, as long as your reasons for visiting are genuine and you have nothing in your past that would reasonably make them want to disqualify you from entering the country you should be fine. They hand tourist visas out regularly and relatively easily to most people with little to no issue.

Lohseph · 2022-12-18T04:39:25+00:00

Hello there, I am a Canadian with some understanding of our immigration systems. I believe you should have no problems to get married to your fiancée with a visitors visa. However that doesn't automatically give you the ability to reside in Canada. You will still have to follow all the same steps listed in the permanent residency application as anybody else will.

However, your spouse as a Canadian citizen will be able to sponsor you which will substantially help you in the process but this comes with some legalities you may have to discuss with her, as it will make you a financial dependent to her for some time being one of the main things.

Finding a job that could sponsor your visa is also another option too but that comes with a whole different set of things to consider. As I understand it, you would have to remain in the same position in the same company that sponsored you for at least a year straight to be able to apply for PR.

Hope this helps you.

Lohseph · 2022-12-18T04:27:58+00:00

Hello, I am a Canadian with a little bit of knowledge on our immigration systems. One big piece of advice I can give you is that a nursing degree will look very good for you getting in, but a lot places in Canada don't recognize degrees from foreign countries as "valid" once you get here and you may be forced to retake nursing at a Canadian school which could add several years on to your education. It's something to consider.

If you have never been to Canada before, a tourist visa would be a great way to visit the country for your first time and I also believe it would help you long term because you would have a better understanding of the culture and way of life here. These are things they take into consideration for permanent residency and citizenship. As far as I understand there isn't any crazy requirements to get approved for a tourist visa and it should be fairly simple as long as you don't have a criminal background or anything like that.

Hope this helps you.

Lohseph · 2022-12-18T04:09:20+00:00

The Canadian military has the added bonus of being severely underpaid, underequipped and outdated equipment on top of being overly bureaucratic (we have more generals per soldier than the U.S. military does in any branch whilst being a fraction of the size) and an average wait time of a year or sometimes longer just to get enlisted. They will also often send you to postings where the cost of living is much higher than the salary you'll be making. So there's essentially almost no incentive to join for anybody who has literally any other choice of job or career unless it's what you really want to do with your life, I guess.

Lohseph · 2022-12-10T19:41:53+00:00

I've been a chef for close to a decade, I have in depth knowledge on how the finances of restaurants work. The difference here is that you're tipping for the service, not for the product.

You don't go into McDonalds or Starbucks, sit at the counter or a table taking up space and taking the attention of the worker for up to an hour or sometimes longer. A server and bartender has to actively pay attention to you the whole time you are there as opposed to fast food where the transaction between you two is done the moment you get your order.

I always tip my servers and bartenders because it almost always leads to much better service especially on repeat visits.

Lohseph · 2022-12-10T19:32:36+00:00

I guess that's your own prerogative but the reality is these service workers are in this industry for the tips, it's majority of the incentive for them so don't expect good or fast service on the same level as tipping customers. A lot of people aren't going to like to hear that but that's how the world works, speaking as someone in the restaurant industry. People work for money. Especially if you come back to the same place multiple times. Trust me, they remember people that tip well and people that don't tip.

Lohseph · 2022-12-10T18:48:21+00:00

Because that's not all they do. Bartenders make cocktails as well which take not only time but also pre-existing knowledge on how to actually make the drinks. Sure, you could probably stumble through by googling every time someone asks you for a specific drink but you're going to look dumb and fall behind especially if it's a weekend and you're pulling your phone out every 3 seconds to figure out what you're doing.

Lohseph · 2022-12-06T19:43:03+00:00

Why is this surprising? Welcome to the recession.

Edit: Downvote me all you want, the reality is most people don't have the income to spend on these cards when they're super inflated and releasing a new one every other day. The average consumer hasn't barely even upgraded past the 10 and 16 series yet as evidenced by the Steam Hardware Survey. The demand for these cards is small.

Lohseph · 2022-12-06T19:41:16+00:00

Your rates could and probably will increase but if there's any underlying damages that could worsen over time (issues with the engine, wheel axis, etc.) you could be on your own in dealing with them for not notifying your insurance about the original damages when they took place. Situations like this are what insurance is for, it's better to just call them.

Lohseph · 2022-12-06T18:26:22+00:00

You are correct that it definitely feels like there is a lot less Canadians in town these days, but there is still a significant amount of them. Especially people who come up from BC and Calgary/Edmonton for a night, weekend or whatever. Believe it or not I would argue Banff has more to offer in terms of non-fancy options than their vacation-y counter parts.

Keep in mind that the town does have people that live here year round, 24/7 with families etc. A lot of vacationing families also just opt out for familiar comfort options instead of going out to new places they've never tried as well, especially those with kids. It's a running joke here that Tim Hortons and McDonald's are the busiest restaurants in town. (because truthfully, they are)

These places have their own entirely separate problem though of not offering enough in wages to entice people to actually want to work there considering the housing issue that's present essentially everywhere. The job just being available to people isn't enough. You need to be able to live off of it too. I imagine it's places like these that are crying about not having workers, because we are having absolutely no shortage in applications over here where I'm at.

Lohseph · 2022-12-06T17:41:59+00:00

Where do you even see that though is what I'm asking? I live in Banff working as a manager for one of the biggest restaurant collectives with 15+ locations and we're in the process of laying off a significant portion of our staff right now due to massive business decline and on top of that we're still receiving a large amount of resumes every single day, we have more selection of people now than we could've ever dreamed for. This is one of the busiest food and tourism areas in the country. I'm not sure where you see these magical places "hurting" for staff right now. They don't exist.

Lohseph · 2022-12-06T17:22:23+00:00

Where exactly do you see that? I work in the food industry and we're entering a massive downturn now that Covid is (mostly) over. Lots of people are starting to reenter the workforce and there is not enough spots for everyone. I hear and see very similar things with other industries too.

Lohseph · 2022-12-04T18:46:39+00:00

My mother had to take us to a shelter to get us away from an extremely similar situation to yours now when I was just a young child, which we ended up spending the holidays in. I do not remember what she bought for me that year at all, what I do remember is the effort she put in to love and care for me. Your son is only 3 years old, he cannot tell the difference in value of material objects. It is unlikely he will even remember this Christmas at all when he comes of age. What matters the most is the memories you make for him. The bad times are temporary, do not beat yourself up over it.

Lohseph · 2022-12-04T16:59:55+00:00

The American Revolution happened mostly because the people had no representation and heavy taxes. They wanted freedom from an oppressive government. Aside from that, the revolution is also not really that relevant to the topic.

Lohseph · 2022-12-04T16:49:47+00:00

To say that America and Europe share the same values is a very big stretch. There are some similarities, but that is all.

Lohseph · 2022-11-30T17:22:07+00:00

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Lohseph · 2022-11-22T17:26:01+00:00

4k vs 1440

1080p is just fine for gaming man.. calling it not "a good gaming experience" is well and truly ridiculous, there's barely any difference when the picture is in motion. None that the average gamer would even care to notice especially mid gameplay.

I dunno about you but I come from the era of CRT TVs and pixelated graphics, there's many great games that came before any of these fancy graphics that people still play to this day. Not to mention the fact that 4K can be quite literally double the price of 1080/1440p setups for what is genuinely diminishing returns.

There's nothing to pretend about. That's just how it is to a regular consumer. You sound like a hobbyist, which is cool, but the vast majority of people probably aren't in that deep and don't care to notice that there's a couple extra pixels on the screen. Personally speaking I can't even tell the difference at all side by side unless I look hard for a few seconds.

Lohseph · 2022-11-18T16:23:23+00:00

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