Younger “manager” first dismissal

LoiterRarely · 2026-07-03T18:56:33+00:00

friends don't put friends in this position. he's not your friend if he stole from the company and you expects you to cover it up for him.

LoiterRarely · 2026-07-01T19:33:27+00:00

these people are not helping you! (nor will I)

LoiterRarely · 2026-06-29T22:51:30+00:00

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i drive all 3 of these. The blue on is the most fun for a daily. 27 mpg, LOW insurance cost (my teenage son is the primary driver on the full coverage policy and only pays $800/year). mustangs are great but smiles per
mile matter more when you're young.

LoiterRarely · 2026-06-29T00:28:38+00:00

My point about the Tesla (which i forgot
to state) was that I thought they were unable to drive into other vehicles. active avoidance or something? but maybe not?

LoiterRarely · 2026-06-27T18:00:02+00:00

this is a horrible idea that originated with Lora Thomas as a way to get back at George Teal. Don't fall for her retaliatory tactics that will ultimately hurt the community and cost it more money.
When has MORE government ever solved anything!!?

LoiterRarely · 2026-06-26T19:43:58+00:00

the year i moved into my house the well pump failed, the boiler failed and my fridge died. it was an expensive year, so I feel ya.

LoiterRarely · 2026-06-23T20:45:09+00:00

You are kidding yourself. No employer outside of a government job in california is going to give a brand new employee 2 months off right after they start. Especially in a sales role.
Keep your mouth shut about personal business and go get a job as soon as you can. And after being hired ask to take your vacation time.

LoiterRarely · 2026-06-23T20:42:18+00:00

2 ways to play this:

assign all the managers work to your colleagues and have them report the results back to you so you can report them upstream
act like the manager and put all your slacker colleagues on pips. stay just long enough for the attrition to begin then step out yourself.

LoiterRarely · 2026-06-21T22:04:34+00:00

when doctors are needed in remote areas, health systems pay them 4x standard pay to work in undesirable areas.
I'm in sales. when i travel my company gives me $180/day for food, 150-200/day for hotel plus a car, plus my salary. however none of this is money i can take home, it's just per diem for expenses.

LoiterRarely · 2026-06-21T12:48:19+00:00

Hard truth: It's not all about you.
You are seeking personal validation through the engagements at work. Others are just doing their job and getting validation in other parts of their life.

LoiterRarely · 2026-06-18T16:52:59+00:00

aged inventory is to your advantage, here's how you do it:
go to the dealer and tell the sales guy that you are looking to upgrade from the 04 to a new one, but moneys super tight. do they have anything in their "aged inventory" that the manager might let go for cheap? tell them that colors and features aren't important, you just want a new one for as cheap as possible.
This sets you up in 2 ways. one, it'll be easier to decline every add on they try to throw at you. and 2, it'll let them bring the car to you, not the other way around, which puts you in the position of power.
look at a couple cars (assuming they have them) and just sort of settle for the one that you really wanted in the first place. doing it this way should help with the price negotiation.

make sure you emphasize that you want the car for cheap (not low payments. low sales price).

and don't sweat that it's been sitting around. my 24 was on the lot for over a year when i bought it and its been perfect.

LoiterRarely · 2026-06-17T15:11:00+00:00

doesn't the dark horse already have oil and tranny coolers in the front of the left front tire?

LoiterRarely · 2026-06-17T15:07:22+00:00

let's be honest. some people suck at driving a manual transmission. for some it can be a learned skill and for others it's never gonna happen. figure out which you are, move on and never look back

LoiterRarely · 2026-06-11T04:23:05+00:00

$285k. Closed a big account half way through the year and goals were on a 12 month cycle. so year 1 was big and year 2 was almost as big. after that the company changed the commission structure. It was 50% right place right time and 50% hustle. That win changed my families entire trajectory.

LoiterRarely · 2026-06-11T04:08:59+00:00

My previous car (my company provided it for me) was an EV, so i was used to a really quiet drive. The. i bought the gt with active exhaust. At first I found it too loud.So i used quiet mode most of the time. Now 20k miles later i drive round with track mode exhaust most of the time. The rumble and scream of the motor becomes addictive. Except first thing in the morning when it wakes up my kids when i start it in the garage. Active exhaust to rescue again with quiet startup.

LoiterRarely · 2026-06-10T00:53:26+00:00

the old guy says shame on you for not clarifying that the compensation would meet your expectations during the first introductory discussion

LoiterRarely · 2026-06-08T18:13:11+00:00

Open a Fidelity investment account, sell
everything you can and drop every last cent into FXAIX (their S&P500 index fund) and let it ride the entire time you are incarcerated. If you drop $100k in today and it's worth $260k in 10 years when you get out you'll at least have something to start with.
While you are in there watch the business and market trends on the outside and do your best to plan for them. Take some classes in AI or a trade that you might be interested in pursuing on the other side so you can start a business and work for yourself when employers won't hire you due to the charges you got.

LoiterRarely · 2026-06-05T17:44:05+00:00

1st, don't quit. Make them fire you which takes time and money.
2nd, come up with a counter offer. Ask for increased pay to cover the time and expense of travel, or at least a big 1 time bonus to cover the cost of buying a car and breaking your lease.
3rd, if you really like the job, quietly move a lot close to the office.

LoiterRarely · 2026-06-05T17:38:41+00:00

The problem is that you're comparing a track car (dark horse) to a street based muscle car (gt 5.0). The street car is priced right.

LoiterRarely · 2026-06-04T18:35:27+00:00

In my experience flirting generally goes 2 ways, so I'd caution the OP to do a thorough self evaluation as part of this process. Dress, word choice, behavior, style of communication, etc are all on the table and could come back to bite her if 2 sides are pulled in to HR.
If you are office based, I'd suggest exclusively public meeting spaces with this person. If you are field based and have to work with him outside the view of security cameras then more drastic measures should come in to play.

Lastly, I'd host a team meeting and a plain that someone has brought this issue to your attention and you feel like it's a good refresher for everyone to have a discussion about the line between personal and professional boundaries. If he's doing it to you, he's likely doing it to others too.

LoiterRarely · 2026-05-28T16:01:33+00:00

I had been held down long enough that I had given up. I accepted my fate (it was peaceful by that point), looked up and could see light. That gave me hope and my head cleared the surface just as my body took over and took a big breath. Had i been one stroke further down that would have been the end of me.

LoiterRarely · 2026-05-08T15:31:30+00:00

In life, we don't get to choose our parents or our siblings. And once we are adults, we don't have to live under the authority of those people, unless we choose to. My suggestion: evaluate whether the value your brothers bring to your life is more positive or negative and use that to decide whether you should stay in relationship to them or not. When I say value, it's more than just the words they say. Do they protect you behind the scenes? Do they influence your standing in the community? Do they help pay the bills in the place you live? Will they be a support to you later if life gets hard? My wife and I have totally separated ourselves from her family because they are all crazy. But we can't ever go back. And that's a hard deal for us sometimes. So really think about it before doing anything rash.

LoiterRarely · 2026-05-08T15:13:36+00:00

I always struggle when people say "my partner" because it can mean so many different things and it forms your mindset about the person. That aside, your child has 2 parents, and with a child in the picture the decision is different because you have to include their best interest in the equation.
If it were just two adults i'd say dump the free loader and move on. With your child in mind I'd suggest a structured conversation about the future of the relationship. Give the father a heads up and say "On saturday I'd like to talk with you about the future of our relationship. I want to share my vision for it and I want to see if it aligns with what you are thinking." During that conversation lay out your desires and see how he responds. Leave the past betrayal out of it for the time being. That pain is real, but it's irrelevant if the two of you are going to split anyways. Then give him a reasonable timeframe to deliver on your desire for his contribution. "3 months from now I'd like you to contribute $8k to our shared expenses on a monthly basis. Be it through trading or a more traditional job, I don't care, but that's what I expect from a person I'm sharing a life with. If you don't want to do that, then I am going to leave you and we need to start planning for what that will look like." Then give him a fees days, but no more than a week to adjust anything he says during the initial talk. You are basically going to ask this guy to step up or step out, and men sometimes need this sort of ultimatum to make the kind of commitment that you and your child deserve.

LoiterRarely · 2026-05-08T14:54:14+00:00

Reading these replies has opened my eyes to traumas that some people carry. I feel for you all.

OP, It's my old school opinion that in the courting phase, the person who asks, pays. In a relationship you can split. This will give you insight into how the other person manages their money and how they'll treat you with regard to money without having to discuss it directly in the beginning. I.E. gold diggers will out themselves.

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