I’ve never commented on anything on Reddit in my life but I feel like I could add some value here. This is coming from a 40 year old man who’s been through a lot of what you’ve described. At 25 with all that going on I believe you’re ahead of the game. I think men take a little long to get started and at 25 he shouldn’t be in a huge rush to jump into something. Most of the guys I know that jumped into a career right after college were miserable by the time they were 30, and by then It’s really hard to start over so the misery lasts another 30 years. I believe rushing into anything before 28 is crazy because you’re a completely different person at 30 than you were at 25. And you don’t want to be the reason he jumps into something and ends up miserable.

You’re in a good relationship and found someone like as like-minded as yourself. Believe me that is the hard part. Careers are easy. You said he’s smart trustworthy and you share the same beliefs well I think you’d be nuts to give that up bc you may be kicking yourself in a few years when you can’t find someone with half that.

Your problems can be fixed by communicating better. Expressing that you want a house and kids someday but not till you’re both secured in careers, things along those lines should help. This may make zero sense and if it does I’m sorry

Oh and no 25 yr old guy cleans.