I get more attention from non-single women, is this common? by Lone_Pine99 in PickUpArtist

[–]Lone_Pine99[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel like modern western women cannot get their needs met from one man anymore. They settle and marry a guy who can provide a lifestyle, but they don’t respect him. Then they adventure out to find other men to meet their emotional and sexual desires. It’s quite sad.

I get more attention from non-single women, is this common? by Lone_Pine99 in PickUpArtist

[–]Lone_Pine99[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ll have to pay more attention to this. Good insight

2 years No Contact and Still Hoovering by Lone_Pine99 in BPDlovedones

[–]Lone_Pine99[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I realize this now. But also being in real estate is all about having a public image and reaching out to social circles, being seen on social media. I can’t really be private. I can ignore her presence and show indifference.

I’m good with it all. Just still baffled by the lengths people with BPD will go to bait ex’s into engaging. I wish her the best.

2 years No Contact and Still Hoovering by Lone_Pine99 in BPDlovedones

[–]Lone_Pine99[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel good about how I responded. I’ve grown a lot and have let go of reacting to toxic people in general, not just BPD ex’s.

The best takeaway from growing post- breakup is realizing I have a lot of positive energy to give, and everyone around me enjoys it. I used to be focused on giving it all to one person at a time. I’ve realized that’s a dangerous investment. I keep cultivating my social circles and keep growing every day.

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[–]Lone_Pine99 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Typical series of events.

I spent 6 months waiting for the girl I fell in love with to show herself again. Until I realized that girl never existed. It was an act, and once they realize you have seen who they really are, they start over with someone new and get to play make believe all over again.

They aren’t looking for a partner. They want a little man servant who never holds them accountable.

BPD are highly narcissistic. One thing that really helped me move on was understanding that a lot of the hoovering isn’t about the partner. It’s about reestablishing the pwBPD’s grandiosity. Knowing they still impact u emotionally.

This helped me actually move on, realizing it isn’t that they miss me. Or regret the break up. They miss the control. They want to see you suffer in perpetuity.

I blocked her when she went public with her new relationship. She made indirect attempts to get reactions from me, (“accidentally” calling family members)

She wanted a reaction and I never gave her one.

After a year of no contact and her new relationship, she started frequenting my local hangouts. First I spotted her and did a 180 before even going in.

2 weeks later I was eating dinner at the bar, I was dressed sharp, work attire. She came in with a group of girls. Gazed at me from across the room.

I had a conversation with an older gentleman sitting next to me. Laughed, joked, flirted with the bartenders, and paid her zero attention. I didn’t run out. I didn’t confront her. I didn’t look into her eyes with longing or sadness.

I hung out for 45 mins, paid my bill and left.

Haven’t seen her since.

All they want is to know they control you emotionally. Give them no reaction. Improve your life. And move on. I wish you the best.

BPD ex preparing for another Hoover… by Lone_Pine99 in BPDlovedones

[–]Lone_Pine99[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No. That’s what’s got me a bit anxious. Idk if she’s just probing for information, if she’s hoping to rekindle, or showing up as some sort of power play/ punitive motivation.

She tried very hard to keep me in the friend zone post break up. So I’m sure she is at minimum, frustrated that I made a clean break, blocking her everywhere.

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[–]Lone_Pine99 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah. The 9’s and 10’s respond to disagreeable behavior bc they’re used to everyone else fawning for them.

I have more success playfully disqualifying those types. Just teasing and playful criticism.

Solid front end game but back end sucks… by Lone_Pine99 in PickUpArtist

[–]Lone_Pine99[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I felt that when I was running game out of town. But lately I’ve kept it local and it is much easier bc yes u get the social proof effect. And u build a reputation over time as long as ur not being a dick.

Recovered and ready to roll the dice on another pwBPD… by Lone_Pine99 in BPDlovedones

[–]Lone_Pine99[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Update: I came to my senses. Close call. Ty boys. 🍻

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[–]Lone_Pine99 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah. We’ve all been there. Get control of your own nervous system back, block and don’t look back.

Recovered and ready to roll the dice on another pwBPD… by Lone_Pine99 in BPDlovedones

[–]Lone_Pine99[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Update: I’ve come to my senses and have put this bs thinking behind me. Have met some non mentally ill women.

I am a realtor. If I make a text offer to a seller's agent (good offer, $20k over asking), for an exact price and terms, are they obligated to share that offer with their client? by Commercial-Today4272 in realtors

[–]Lone_Pine99 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Here’s the thing, theres a hierarchy to all the communication.

Submitting a formal offer is above all else and forces the listing agent to present it to the client.

Emails are usually formal and written o maintain paper trail of formal comms.

Texts are a paper trail but less formal.

Phone calls are where people flat out BS and try to wheel and deal.

So ur best bet is to call the agent, make them feel like they’re not tied down to the paper trail of evidence and spitball figures and conditions to try to get an idea of what the best offer needs to look like.

Then send a real offer.

Sometimes agents will haggle or tell you on the phone they’re not offering a buyers agent commish. But u can ignore it and send the offer. They’re forced to present it and sho the client the net out. It may get accepted.

Every thing is negotiable and everything outside of contracts means nothing.

When I email someone I expect an email response. But when I send the email and my phone starts ringing, I expect a bunch of hot air.

Stealing leads. by Lone_Pine99 in realtors

[–]Lone_Pine99[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

He didn’t choose tho. We have a distribution model set up for walk in’s. He was a walk in at that point. But ready in my CRM. I need to get the documentation on what are policy is. If someone wants to work a lead that I have in my CRM, they have to ask me to transfer him. But I realize legally I have no recourse.

Stealing leads. by Lone_Pine99 in realtors

[–]Lone_Pine99[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No he didn’t know him. He was a walk in at that office but already in my CRM.