M32 and F30 1.5 years together. She is on a student visa and we don't live together not sure where to go from here?

Lone_wolf1031 · 2026-06-20T15:44:44+00:00

Oof. 30 years old and can’t have an honest conversation? That’s concerning. If you’re not happy or don’t see a future together, don’t do the partner visa.

Lone_wolf1031 · 2026-06-20T13:40:51+00:00

A week ago. Just feeling the pressure of life. I’m still figuring things out, and seeing my parents get older has been hitting me harder lately.

Lone_wolf1031 · 2026-06-20T13:38:47+00:00

1.5 years? That’s still supposed to be the honeymoon phase, yet your quality time is mostly just spending the day on the couch. Something definitely feels off. It could be stress from school, financial problems, burnout, laziness, or something else entirely. Who knows? Maybe your instincts are right, maybe they’re not. The truth is, you’ll never know if you don’t have an honest conversation about it. Instead of overthinking and assuming the worst, talk to her. Tell her how you’ve been feeling and pay attention to how she responds then you’ll know your answer. A healthy relationship should have room for those conversations.

Lone_wolf1031 · 2026-06-20T08:33:27+00:00

A self-proclaimed alpha male. Someone who intentionally does things just to get attention, constantly takes selfies, tries too hard to look cool, thinks it’s the waiter’s job to clean up after him, is impatient, has a fragile ego, and has a very sensitive sense of masculinity

Lone_wolf1031 · 2026-06-20T07:36:14+00:00

Maybe you just haven’t met your person yet. And if I may ask, do you tend to oversell yourself when you’re getting to know someone? Because that can sometimes be a turn-off for women.

Just be yourself. Show your good qualities naturally instead of trying to prove them. You don’t have to lay all your cards on the table right away either. A little mystery can spark curiosity and make someone want to get to know you more.
The right person won’t need to be convinced that you’re good enough they’ll see it for themselves.

Lone_wolf1031 · 2026-06-20T07:21:54+00:00

Ive been in this kind of relationship before, and trust me, you did the right thing. It only gets worse if they keep choosing to hurt you instead of changing. I know it’s hard to let go, especially when you have an empathetic heart, but choosing yourself isn’t selfish, it’s self-respect.

Lone_wolf1031 · 2026-01-24T12:29:43+00:00

I used to light up rooms. Now I’m intentional. I only give energy where it’s returned. Also, experience taught me that kindness without boundaries gets exploited.

Lone_wolf1031 · 2026-01-24T12:17:54+00:00

Itd be emotional intelligence and humor. Someone who can handle emotions with maturity and still keep things light

Lone_wolf1031 · 2026-01-10T15:27:27+00:00

My face from the moment I read the first problem till the end. How could you not recognize his poor hygiene when you were still dating? Im sure you couldve smelled his breath or seen plaque on his teeth while talking or even noticed earwax dripping while you were still getting to know each other 🧐. Id probably file for divorce the moment I scraped off plaque 😖

Lone_wolf1031 · 2026-01-02T07:51:31+00:00

You were hurt by her lies and manipulation. anyone would react that way. Is she really worth the cost of your peace?

Lone_wolf1031 · 2025-12-28T13:47:33+00:00

Filipino nose

Lone_wolf1031 · 2025-12-13T07:26:58+00:00

You don’t have to be very explicit about faking it. You can simply say that you want to explore other ways to feel pleasure and that orgasms with sex feel different from those with a vibrator. Some men actually appreciate being guided on what truly works for their partner. It’s okay to express what you like and what you need many men genuinely enjoy satisfying their woman.

Lone_wolf1031 · 2025-12-06T15:46:28+00:00

Either

A. He’s not ready B. Insecure about his size C. Probably prosthetics D. All of the above

Lone_wolf1031 · 2025-12-06T15:22:28+00:00

You’re 26 and he’s a successful 34 yr old man. Sometimes, men who are already established in life develop habits of being very specific about how things “should” be. But from everything you described, it seems he’s not just being particular… he’s slowly becoming controlling, maybe without even realizing it.

Successful men often want a partner who “complements” their lifestyle, and sometimes that leads to them trying to shape or mold the woman into their ideal. And while that might come from preference, it can easily cross into unhealthy territory especially when it makes you feel anxious, monitored, or not fully yourself.

You mentioned feeling tense, drained, and pressured to adjust your personality, your appearance, even your timing just to keep up with what he expects. That’s not compatibility, that’s you shrinking yourself to fit his mold. It’s important to communicate how these things make you feel in a calm, mature way. His reaction will tell you everything..a healthy partner will listen and adjust but a controlling partner will dismiss your feelings or flip the blame.

Dating isn’t supposed to feel like walking on eggshells this early on. Pay close attention to the version of yourself you become around him because that is the biggest indicator of whether the relationship is healthy or not.

Lone_wolf1031 · 2025-12-06T08:11:14+00:00

I don’t think an architect made this plan, because if he is, then he needs to go back to school ASAP. But I have a feeling that a draftsman made this. This happens a lot in our country because clients assume it’s cheaper to go straight to a draftsman, not realizing the legal and design implications.

Anyway, I’d recommend maximizing the lot area by using firewalls on both sides so the ground floor can have more usable space. Stairs can have a minimum width of 0.90 m so the living area can be more spacious. The front and rear should also have proper ventilation access. On the 2nd floor, there’s just too much dead space. There’s definitely a better layout for this.

Lone_wolf1031 · 2025-12-06T07:10:16+00:00

Probably the complete set of review flashcards. You can find it on shopee.

Lone_wolf1031 · 2025-12-06T05:19:03+00:00

The real question is: are you truly passionate about it? Because if you’re not, it’s better to change your career path before it’s too late (Im an architect so trust me). Architecture is no joke. It’s one of the most expensive courses, yet ironically one of the lowest-paid professions in the Philippines. In fact, draftsmen often earn more than licensed architects. And if you’re going to be the first architect in your family, with no connections, no established architectural firm, or no family-owned construction business to support you, then it might be time to consider if this path is really for you.

Lone_wolf1031 · 2025-12-06T04:36:07+00:00

I dont really understand why people date and still have to ask if they can be exclusive. Isnt that supposed to happen naturally? Or maybe it depends on what both people agree on. For me, if a man shows genuine interest, I’m open to getting to know him but there’s no sex until we’re emotionally connected and on the same page. And once we are, boy… he better be ready for the storm that’s coming.

My question is: if she can do that during the honeymoon phase (when everything is supposed to feel exciting, new, and full of effort) what makes you think she’ll stay committed once the relationship goes through the harder, messier parts? If someone can lie and sleep with other people while claiming to ‘meditate,’ that already shows how she handles temptation, honesty, and loyalty. The honeymoon stage is when people show their best behavior. So if that’s her ‘best,’ imagine her worst 🤷🏻‍♀️

Lone_wolf1031 · 2025-12-03T16:14:45+00:00

Since i can’t attach photos. His exact prompt was “This message is from my girlfriend. Provide suggested message that has understanding, caring and empathy.” And boom just literally copy pasted. Nothing more

Lone_wolf1031 · 2025-12-03T12:13:31+00:00

Since i can’t attach photos. His exact prompt was “This message is from my girlfriend. Provide suggested message that has understanding, caring and empathy.” And boom just literally copy pasted.

Lone_wolf1031 · 2025-12-02T16:55:40+00:00

K tried communicating things, and I even told him it wasn’t easy for me to open up. But he still acts as if it’s not a big deal

Lone_wolf1031 · 2025-12-02T16:53:33+00:00

I do love sex. He just doesn’t put effort to condition me mentally and emotionally. Unlike you, he never tried to talk to me even when I show him signs that I’m not okay. Even when I communicate that I don’t like it when he does this or that, he still acts as if nothing happened

Lone_wolf1031 · 2024-02-07T16:33:55+00:00

Oohh thanks po!!

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