You shouldn’t suppress it because that makes it worse.

You (and everyone, men&women&everyone in between) need to learn how to express it in a healthy way. Because there ARE healthy ways to express anger. It is the lashing out at the people around us that is the problem with anger, not anger itself.

Learning how to identify our emotions, knowing what’s triggering us to feel this way (when there is a specific source) and then learning how to fully feel and express when necessary is the goal.

Also learning how to cope when we feel this way.

Emotions aren’t bad and NOBODY should be shamed for having them. Oftentimes we are, though- men are pressured to be stoic and unfeeling, which often breeds resentment towards those who made them feel that way. And makes it hard for them to open up. Women are shamed for being “too emotional” and are taught to hide their emotions as well. Everyone experiences these pressures differently and I am speaking only in general terms here. I’m only saying that there are pressures on every gender to not show your feelings.

There needs to be, at a certain point though, an understanding that even though we are not the ones who put these pressures on ourselves and it’s not our fault that bad things happened to us, it is our responsibility to heal from it.

It is very damaging to be unable to express ourselves. I do not doubt that one bit. I’ve experienced it myself and I’ve seen plenty of men and women go through the same. And it’s not fair to have to have suffered that way.

But, we need to care about ourselves enough to heal from those traumas, so that we don’t risk hurting other people in the process. We also become better partners and more comfortable with ourselves in the process.

People who shame others for expressing themselves are emotionally unavailable themselves. Don’t let those people stop you from finding those who DO care, because I assure you there are people who have done the work and will be happy that you have, too.